Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 13:22     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
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Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


Same here. OP subscribes to some new fad and cooks unpleasant food and then blames her husband for not liking it. Conflict will take more out health than any fats. Bone broth? Why? For fun?


Agreed. I don’t know what the food and meal dynamic was like before OP went down the ghee and coconut oil road, but I can understand his displeasure if all of a sudden she’s cooking nasty crap for whatever fad diet she’s on, and he’s either expected to eat it and love it, or she’s just unilaterally told him to cook for himself. Which is fine, but if the custom has never been that before, he’s entitled to his feelings. The person making the diet change should never expect everyone else in the house to love it or be on board.


Wow way to take just one of the relentless stream of criticisms from OP’s DH and blow it up to belittle her experience of never hearing a positive word from her partner. Why did you choose to ignore that aspect of her story, the relentless criticizing in the guise of sharing an opinion? Why did you choose to ignore the complaints about her appearance and the complaints in front of family members? Why did you not ask why DH doesn’t cook if he doesn’t like what she serves? You all must be fun to be married to.


OP's examples make OP look bad. She is doing some weird sh*t and expects approval. I would tell my family too if my DH started some bone broth making, some many jokes.


No they don’t. You’re just hateful and making bitchy comments on an anonymous Internet forum to feel better about the enormous voids in your own life. Pathetic

I really don't like ghee and bone broth. I would make lots of comments if I smelled bone broth at home. Cabbage stinks too. My kids hate coconut oil, so I don't use it. How hard is to find something different to cook with or prepare instead of looking for an offense.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 10:05     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion

He needs to learn to communicate constructively in a way that will make people WANT to change to suit him. Ie, more flies with honey.

So I suggest you sit him down and explain this, and say it would be a good idea to go to therapist.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 09:42     Subject: Re:I’m entitled to my opinion
I have projects and habits that my DH finds curious, strange or even downright annoying (like I insist at 2 am on cleaning out the pantry) and we have different tastes, on occasion. If it affects him in a negative way, he will say so but otherwise he doesn't criticize. He respects and admires the fact that I am a different person than he is, with my own ideas, hobbies, etc. We strive to find things we agree on--movies, restaurants, etc--but we don't criticize each other's choices in such small matters. To do so would erode the affection and respect that is crucial to a successful marriage.

The issue here is not what what OP is eating, wearing, or cooking. It is that her husband has no respect for her, and when respect is gone (and there is contempt, perhaps even?) the marriage is pretty much doomed.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 07:50     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


Same here. OP subscribes to some new fad and cooks unpleasant food and then blames her husband for not liking it. Conflict will take more out health than any fats. Bone broth? Why? For fun?


Agreed. I don’t know what the food and meal dynamic was like before OP went down the ghee and coconut oil road, but I can understand his displeasure if all of a sudden she’s cooking nasty crap for whatever fad diet she’s on, and he’s either expected to eat it and love it, or she’s just unilaterally told him to cook for himself. Which is fine, but if the custom has never been that before, he’s entitled to his feelings. The person making the diet change should never expect everyone else in the house to love it or be on board.


Wow way to take just one of the relentless stream of criticisms from OP’s DH and blow it up to belittle her experience of never hearing a positive word from her partner. Why did you choose to ignore that aspect of her story, the relentless criticizing in the guise of sharing an opinion? Why did you choose to ignore the complaints about her appearance and the complaints in front of family members? Why did you not ask why DH doesn’t cook if he doesn’t like what she serves? You all must be fun to be married to.


OP's examples make OP look bad. She is doing some weird sh*t and expects approval. I would tell my family too if my DH started some bone broth making, some many jokes.


No they don’t. You’re just hateful and making bitchy comments on an anonymous Internet forum to feel better about the enormous voids in your own life. Pathetic
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 03:52     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:These PPs are crazy. Your DH's relentless criticism and negativity are a drag.


I agree. OP, ignore the posters turning this into a diet/food issue. That’s not what this is about.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 03:35     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
I’m pretty sure this forum is founded on that philosophy.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 01:41     Subject: Re:I’m entitled to my opinion
Husband issue aside, Ghee is super concentrated fat, please use it sparingly, same for coconut oil. Now, to be fair to your DH, both oils have weird smell.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2017 00:39     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
God what a douche. He sounds awful.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 23:29     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:Is my DH’s favorite phrase. It feels like he disagrees with me about anything and everything just to assert himself. God it’s lonely. [/quote

OP I agree with you he is not entitled to his opinion. Only yours matters. Divorce him. I'm sure you can do better
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 22:32     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


Ha! My husband would probably flip out if I cooked at all, even if it had ghee and whatever. But my husband is awesome.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 22:13     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
These PPs are crazy. Your DH's relentless criticism and negativity are a drag.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 18:50     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


Same here. OP subscribes to some new fad and cooks unpleasant food and then blames her husband for not liking it. Conflict will take more out health than any fats. Bone broth? Why? For fun?


Agreed. I don’t know what the food and meal dynamic was like before OP went down the ghee and coconut oil road, but I can understand his displeasure if all of a sudden she’s cooking nasty crap for whatever fad diet she’s on, and he’s either expected to eat it and love it, or she’s just unilaterally told him to cook for himself. Which is fine, but if the custom has never been that before, he’s entitled to his feelings. The person making the diet change should never expect everyone else in the house to love it or be on board.


Wow way to take just one of the relentless stream of criticisms from OP’s DH and blow it up to belittle her experience of never hearing a positive word from her partner. Why did you choose to ignore that aspect of her story, the relentless criticizing in the guise of sharing an opinion? Why did you choose to ignore the complaints about her appearance and the complaints in front of family members? Why did you not ask why DH doesn’t cook if he doesn’t like what she serves? You all must be fun to be married to.


OP's examples make OP look bad. She is doing some weird sh*t and expects approval. I would tell my family too if my DH started some bone broth making, some many jokes.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 14:46     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
DTMF
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 14:20     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


Same here. OP subscribes to some new fad and cooks unpleasant food and then blames her husband for not liking it. Conflict will take more out health than any fats. Bone broth? Why? For fun?


Agreed. I don’t know what the food and meal dynamic was like before OP went down the ghee and coconut oil road, but I can understand his displeasure if all of a sudden she’s cooking nasty crap for whatever fad diet she’s on, and he’s either expected to eat it and love it, or she’s just unilaterally told him to cook for himself. Which is fine, but if the custom has never been that before, he’s entitled to his feelings. The person making the diet change should never expect everyone else in the house to love it or be on board.


Wow way to take just one of the relentless stream of criticisms from OP’s DH and blow it up to belittle her experience of never hearing a positive word from her partner. Why did you choose to ignore that aspect of her story, the relentless criticizing in the guise of sharing an opinion? Why did you choose to ignore the complaints about her appearance and the complaints in front of family members? Why did you not ask why DH doesn’t cook if he doesn’t like what she serves? You all must be fun to be married to.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2017 14:10     Subject: I’m entitled to my opinion
Anonymous wrote:So, just to clarify- you think your husband is an asshole because he doesn't coconut oil?

Thank you for that. I just realized my wife is awesome.


No, he is an asshole because he is looking for reasons to complain about his wife both to her and to their extended family, instead of looking for ways for them to resolve any conflicts between what he prefers and what she prefers. I love fish of all kinds and my husband hates anything even remotely seafood like, but he is respectful of the fact that I like something different, sometimes opts to go to restaurants that serve really great fish even though it means he doesn’t have as many options and will have to smell food he doesn’t care for a while I eat, and he is excited for me when he has work out of town and I tell him that I am making fish for dinner. He might not like fish, but he likes me and wants me to be happy and he’s willing to be a Little bit flexible sometimes to make that happen. In return, I have never cooked fish unless it had at least 24 hours to air the house before he would be home again. Because I like him and I want him to be happy. Her husband is an asshole because he doesn’t like her and he’s picking on her instead of just getting a divorce.