Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:43     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Christmas was hardly ruined. I'd be horrified if she said something so rude to anyone else. I had warned her she was going to have to pause to eat and I got up early to make sure the food was ready for her so she wouldn't have to wait long. Its not like I spanked her and she was in her room all of 2 minutes before coming to the realization that she should apologize.


She didn't need to apologize, idiot

You made her stop having Christmas so your pregnant ass could eat because God forbid you just grab a bite quickly until pancakes are ready


Listen moron, learn to read. Pancakes and fruit were ready. It would have taken her 5 minutes to scarf down the food. You need to learn to read. At least my children aren't going to grow up to become selfish brats. She's currently snuggling with me while reading one of her gifts. And she'll know not to say something so rude to others.

NP- OP any way you slice it you were dead wrong. All your 4 year old has learned to do is manage her irrational mother. Which, frankly, she shouldn't have to worry about this morning. Hopefully you are just hormonal and not always like this but if you are, please learn to manage your emotions better. For everyone's sake.


She won't. I had mother like OP and many mornings like her daughter just had and learned how to walk on eggshells early in life. I snuggled up to my mom after her tantrums too because I wanted to make sure she still loved me.

Exactly, and sadly OP sees this as a sign that what she did wasn't so bad and it all "worked out". And she's still defending her nonsense.
Growing up with an immature mother sucks OP, don't do that to your kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:42     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.


It doesn’t matter if you warned her, she shouldn’t have to stop to eat because YOU were hungry. Stop trying to defend your despicable behavior. You should have told her that wasn’t nice and moved along (but I don’t blame her for acting out). Get a grip.

Also, I can’t believe you posted this incident on a public forum. You are a drama queen, obviously.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:42     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.


Your DH is sending you a message OP and you really need to hear it.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:42     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
I’m also heavily pregnant. I brought a bowl of oatmeal into the living room to eat and watch at the same time. Not hard to do.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:41     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.


You NEVER should have expected a four-year-old to stop playing with her new toys and opening gifts NO MATTER HOW MUCH WARNING YOU GAVE. Can you understand that?! YOU were being selfish and you were wrong. You and DH are both wrong - you did do something very wrong.

I strongly suggest you do some reading on early childhood development, OP. If you would do this on Christmas morning, I shutter to think how else you are damaging your child.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:41     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
I’m Jewish and even I could have handled this better.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:40     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.


Your husband had to remind you to be more forgiving generally? On Christmas? You must be a tyrant.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:39     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
My husband used to go nuts like this every Christmas Day. This year is the one year he is calm, and it is also the one year we are not hosting. We are going to be doing more of this non-hosting thing!

So please calm down, OP, and don't let stress get to you. Christmas Day is a SPECIAL day (at least in my book, more important than birthdays because it's when everyone is celebrated, even the dog).
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:39     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Christmas was hardly ruined. I'd be horrified if she said something so rude to anyone else. I had warned her she was going to have to pause to eat and I got up early to make sure the food was ready for her so she wouldn't have to wait long. Its not like I spanked her and she was in her room all of 2 minutes before coming to the realization that she should apologize.


She didn't need to apologize, idiot

You made her stop having Christmas so your pregnant ass could eat because God forbid you just grab a bite quickly until pancakes are ready


Listen moron, learn to read. Pancakes and fruit were ready. It would have taken her 5 minutes to scarf down the food. You need to learn to read. At least my children aren't going to grow up to become selfish brats. She's currently snuggling with me while reading one of her gifts. And she'll know not to say something so rude to others.

NP- OP any way you slice it you were dead wrong. All your 4 year old has learned to do is manage her irrational mother. Which, frankly, she shouldn't have to worry about this morning. Hopefully you are just hormonal and not always like this but if you are, please learn to manage your emotions better. For everyone's sake.


She won't. I had mother like OP and many mornings like her daughter just had and learned how to walk on eggshells early in life. I snuggled up to my mom after her tantrums too because I wanted to make sure she still loved me.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:37     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:36     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Christmas was hardly ruined. I'd be horrified if she said something so rude to anyone else. I had warned her she was going to have to pause to eat and I got up early to make sure the food was ready for her so she wouldn't have to wait long. Its not like I spanked her and she was in her room all of 2 minutes before coming to the realization that she should apologize.


She didn't need to apologize, idiot

You made her stop having Christmas so your pregnant ass could eat because God forbid you just grab a bite quickly until pancakes are ready


Listen moron, learn to read. Pancakes and fruit were ready. It would have taken her 5 minutes to scarf down the food. You need to learn to read. At least my children aren't going to grow up to become selfish brats. She's currently snuggling with me while reading one of her gifts. And she'll know not to say something so rude to others.


I may be the only one on OP’s side. OP is teaching her kid that manners are important. Sounds like how my parents would have handled it. For you other posters, your kids are probably the ones calling you stupid because you forgot to do their homework for them.


I'm the pp with the 19 yo who thinks OP should have handled it differently. My daughter as all her siblings has great manners, is respectful,and always had been a hard working student. 4 yo is just that 4. They grow and change and are not doomed to a life of selfishness just because they were cranky one Christmas morning at 4.

BTW my DD along with her brother made breakfast for us ll this morning.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:36     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Well what kind were they OP?
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:36     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Wow she slept until 8:45??! What a wonderful gift for you! Next time eat breakfast on your own and she can eat later. And don't take anything personally from a 4 year old. You overreacted. My 4 year old ate candy from his stocking for breakfast. Christmas is one day a year
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:36     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.


TEAM FOUR YEAR OLD

OP and the Nasty Pancakes can have SEVERAL seats
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2017 10:34     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.