Anonymous wrote:I want to but I know no one there. My sister is 3 hours away. I could ask her but when I told her what happened, she said that dad had told her another story ("they were playing and he got hurt"). She also told me (which is true and I'm feeling very guilty) that I knew my dad was too old to handle watching a kid. I dismissed my fears because DS can really take care of himself but this was a huge mistake.

Get on a plane and get your kid.

It doesn't sound like the hit is the only problem. You really need to get out there and find out what is going on with your dad, if this was out of character for your dad.

Why is your kid even there?

So what's the plan OP? Please update.

Next plane.

LA is the #1 domestic destination from Dulles Airport. Plenty of flights at competitive prices. Maybe even cheaper to buy a new ticket than pay change fees.

Shouldn't a 12 year old still be in school at this time of year? At least in MoCo, schools are still in session. This thread is 4 pages and no one has called troll yet?

I wouldn't cut my parent off or anything, but I'd be headed out there to pick up my kid pronto, not in a few days. And wouldn't let him visit on his own ever again.

I'd go and get him. Today.

Anonymous wrote:Wtf? I'd be on the next plane and I wouldn't speak to my father again. It sounds like he is both abusive and a liar.

+1 OP, you need to go get your kid or have your sister do it.

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Anonymous wrote:The punishment for telling you what happened is, to me, the most disturbing part. But hitting is not good. What exactly happened? I wouldn’t put the six-hour travel burden on your sister. If you want your son out of there, you should go get him.

+1

That would bother me the most. It means that there is no way you can trust your father to care for your son. Period. I'd ask your sister to pick up your kid, if she can, and get on the next flight out.

Is there ANYBODY your son can stay with while you get there?

Anonymous wrote:The punishment for telling you what happened is, to me, the most disturbing part. But hitting is not good. What exactly happened? I wouldn’t put the six-hour travel burden on your sister. If you want your son out of there, you should go get him.

+1

That would bother me the most. It means that there is no way you can trust your father to care for your son. Period. I'd ask your sister to pick up your kid, if she can, and get on the next flight out.

Wtf? I'd be on the next plane and I wouldn't speak to my father again. It sounds like he is both abusive and a liar.

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Anonymous wrote:Which culture are you from OP? Unless you're white, getting smacked by one's elders isn't exactly taboo if it's well-deserved. Since you agree that your own son can be a handful, I would say that it's better not to antagonize the situation. Your son learned an important lesson, whatever it was he did to get his punishment.

I don't know any white kids that got hit growing up. I did witness black kids getting a beat down.

Exactly what I meant. Only white people would think what the OP described is taboo.

I am black and believe what OP's dad did is beyond crazy (and that OP has extremely poor judgment for even letting this happen the first place).

Hopefully no one takes offense but when I see what are probably lower middle class black families out they hit their little kids a LOT. Lots of smacking. I wish that they wouldn’t. I had one white friend (a guy) who did this and I thought he was a total psycho (he was. I’ve always wondered what happened to his poor kids ), but I’ve seen too many black moms smacking their kids a lot for minor reasons.

This is likely a class thing and not a race thing.

Yes, poor white people do this too.

I wish they wouldn’t. It’s heartbreaking to see people smacking tiny children.

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Anonymous wrote:Which culture are you from OP? Unless you're white, getting smacked by one's elders isn't exactly taboo if it's well-deserved. Since you agree that your own son can be a handful, I would say that it's better not to antagonize the situation. Your son learned an important lesson, whatever it was he did to get his punishment.

I don't know any white kids that got hit growing up. I did witness black kids getting a beat down.

I was a poor white kid who had parents with high school diplomas. I got hit plenty and sometimes got welts. Flyswatters, belts, slaps...

I was a middle class white kid whose parents had a masters degree and PhD, respectively. I got hit plenty (slaps, hairbrushes, whatever was laying around, etc.)

OP needs to get her child out of there. I like the idea of booking the next plane home for him.

Geez - terrible parents!

My mother was a psycho too. She grew up poor and just had no self control and never much thought about what she was doing.
We don’t put up with any crap from her, and she knows that I would literally murder her if she ever touched my kids that way (one is SN so no babysitting by her until he was 10) , so she’s fine - but it’s slways in the back of your mind what a nasty nasty person she is.
We are white.

OP you need to put the fear of god in your dad. Don’t let this go- explain things to him. Don’t ever leave your kid alone with him again but he needs to know that he can’t do this again to anyone. It’s a balance of power thing and it will be helpful to know that he’s at the lower end of the power balance.

Your kid is going to come home nicer.

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Anonymous wrote:Which culture are you from OP? Unless you're white, getting smacked by one's elders isn't exactly taboo if it's well-deserved. Since you agree that your own son can be a handful, I would say that it's better not to antagonize the situation. Your son learned an important lesson, whatever it was he did to get his punishment.

I don't know any white kids that got hit growing up. I did witness black kids getting a beat down.

Exactly what I meant. Only white people would think what the OP described is taboo.

I am black and believe what OP's dad did is beyond crazy (and that OP has extremely poor judgment for even letting this happen the first place).

Hopefully no one takes offense but when I see what are probably lower middle class black families out they hit their little kids a LOT. Lots of smacking. I wish that they wouldn’t. I had one white friend (a guy) who did this and I thought he was a total psycho (he was. I’ve always wondered what happened to his poor kids ), but I’ve seen too many black moms smacking their kids a lot for minor reasons.

This is likely a class thing and not a race thing.

Yes, poor white people do this too.

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Anonymous wrote:Which culture are you from OP? Unless you're white, getting smacked by one's elders isn't exactly taboo if it's well-deserved. Since you agree that your own son can be a handful, I would say that it's better not to antagonize the situation. Your son learned an important lesson, whatever it was he did to get his punishment.

I don't know any white kids that got hit growing up. I did witness black kids getting a beat down.

Exactly what I meant. Only white people would think what the OP described is taboo.

I am black and believe what OP's dad did is beyond crazy (and that OP has extremely poor judgment for even letting this happen the first place).

Hopefully no one takes offense but when I see what are probably lower middle class black families out they hit their little kids a LOT. Lots of smacking. I wish that they wouldn’t. I had one white friend (a guy) who did this and I thought he was a total psycho (he was. I’ve always wondered what happened to his poor kids ), but I’ve seen too many black moms smacking their kids a lot for minor reasons.

This is likely a class thing and not a race thing.

+1 to this; also my impression because I see it happen a lot

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Anonymous wrote:Which culture are you from OP? Unless you're white, getting smacked by one's elders isn't exactly taboo if it's well-deserved. Since you agree that your own son can be a handful, I would say that it's better not to antagonize the situation. Your son learned an important lesson, whatever it was he did to get his punishment.

I don't know any white kids that got hit growing up. I did witness black kids getting a beat down.

Exactly what I meant. Only white people would think what the OP described is taboo.

I am black and believe what OP's dad did is beyond crazy (and that OP has extremely poor judgment for even letting this happen the first place).

Hopefully no one takes offense but when I see what are probably lower middle class black families out they hit their little kids a LOT. Lots of smacking. I wish that they wouldn’t. I had one white friend (a guy) who did this and I thought he was a total psycho (he was. I’ve always wondered what happened to his poor kids ), but I’ve seen too many black moms smacking their kids a lot for minor reasons.

This is likely a class thing and not a race thing.