Anonymous wrote:This speaks more to your envy and discomfort with yourself than it does about your girl friends.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is sitting on tens of millions of family wealth and himself makes 300K+ a year. My family are first generation immigrants so their wealth isn't as large but it ain't shabby either. I make 250K a year. Neither of us are interested in leaving our professions which we are lucky to have and love. We have one child whom we adore and are debating another (because we have no family in the area and it's tough). We share childcare and household duties equally.

What you describe is not a great choice for most women (those who can't actually choose, even if appears they willingly gave up their professional lives). The women who opt for this "life of luxury" will soon realize that something is missing in their lives, that they will not be able to develop themselves fully as people. Perhaps some will, but not everyone is cut out to be Martha Steward (just like not everyone is cut out to be a pilot, engineer, lawyer, artist). Staying at home and supporting a husband (let alone taking care of kids or managing a household) is no walk in the park, don't be fooled. My guess is many of these women were coerced in some subtle and not so subtle ways into that role, and many will end up feeling like the women of Mad Men. (Again, some will really find themselves in homemaking as a calling, but many many more will not.)

Feminism has a long way to go, until we don't discuss staying home with a rich husband as a life of luxury. Now if you'll excuse me, I gotta get to work.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you don’t have the courage of your convictions, either. Why did you go through all that schooling? Now you suddenly think you want to dump it all and be a SAHM?

The divorce rate is about 50%. Maybe you should be talking to all the SAHMs who have gotten to middle age and find out their spouse has been having an affair and wants to dump them for a hot, young mistress. Now they’re in the position of having to find a well paying job that can support themselves and their kids. A man is not a plan.

Or maybe you just need to learn everything the hard way.

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Anonymous wrote:Never met or knew any woman like your friends. I suggest you find better quality women for friends. That being said, you're obviously jealous as all get out because you used the stepford wives label. Every woman that doesn't live that life always utters that when they try to make fun of those that do live it.

Not nice. I dare you to tell your friends what you posted.

Op here. I didn’t say I’m not jealous. Who wouldn’t want entry into a life of privilege after signing a piece of paper?

OP, if you were the career oriented achiever you so smugly believe yourself to be (as opposed to these "friends"), you wouldn't feel jealous of these women entering marriage for wealth.

But I suspect you're more like them than you admit, you've just failed to recognize/realize these goals whereas they have, and that bothers you.

So you make it about how you're disappointed in them/"confused"/"disheartened."

Get a life.

Bigtime this.

Anonymous wrote:I started off with what I thought was a friendship group of smart motivated ambitious women. We all graduated from competitive colleges and some of us have advanced degrees. We worked in reputable organizations and made the right connections.

Over the past five years however, I have witnessed friend after friend change after meeting a guy. One married a rich guy 5 years older who owns a business and multiple homes. After marriage she quit her law school application and became a stay at home wife. Brunches with her entailed listening to her triumphant account of how she was so smart to snag a rich guy and now she and her kids are high rollers. I quote, “ Mama raised no fool!”

Another was in finance and talked about being a hustling career woman. Met and is now marrying a trust funder. All of a sudden, she “thinks working is a waste of life” and wants to focus on building a family. She has completely lost any career ambitions she has and is playing wife even before she’s married.

I had brunch with another this past week. She was sooo happy and smug. She said the number 1 thing she’s happy about is that her serious boyfriend makes good money and now she has less pressure to work on her job. She was talking about how big she wants her e gagemebt ring to be and whether she should sign a prenup considering she wants to take advantage of his wealth if it doesn’t work out.

...the f*ck?

Not going to lie. I sat there and felt envious. My husband is definitely not a sugar daddy and I’ll definitely have to keep working. I feel stupid. I didn’t even think of that when dating. Where the hell was my head?

Anonymous wrote:I started off with what I thought was a friendship group of smart motivated ambitious women. We all graduated from competitive colleges and some of us have advanced degrees. We worked in reputable organizations and made the right connections.

Over the past five years however, I have witnessed friend after friend change after meeting a guy. One married a rich guy 5 years older who owns a business and multiple homes. After marriage she quit her law school application and became a stay at home wife. Brunches with her entailed listening to her triumphant account of how she was so smart to snag a rich guy and now she and her kids are high rollers. I quote, “ Mama raised no fool!”

Another was in finance and talked about being a hustling career woman. Met and is now marrying a trust funder. All of a sudden, she “thinks working is a waste of life” and wants to focus on building a family. She has completely lost any career ambitions she has and is playing wife even before she’s married.

I had brunch with another this past week. She was sooo happy and smug. She said the number 1 thing she’s happy about is that her serious boyfriend makes good money and now she has less pressure to work on her job. She was talking about how big she wants her e gagemebt ring to be and whether she should sign a prenup considering she wants to take advantage of his wealth if it doesn’t work out.

...the f*ck?

Not going to lie. I sat there and felt envious. My husband is definitely not a sugar daddy and I’ll definitely have to keep working. I feel stupid. I didn’t even think of that when dating. Where the hell was my head?

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Anonymous wrote:Never met or knew any woman like your friends. I suggest you find better quality women for friends. That being said, you're obviously jealous as all get out because you used the stepford wives label. Every woman that doesn't live that life always utters that when they try to make fun of those that do live it.

Not nice. I dare you to tell your friends what you posted.

Op here. I didn’t say I’m not jealous. Who wouldn’t want entry into a life of privilege after signing a piece of paper?

OP, if you were the career oriented achiever you so smugly believe yourself to be (as opposed to these "friends"), you wouldn't feel jealous of these women entering marriage for wealth.

But I suspect you're more like them than you admit, you've just failed to recognize/realize these goals whereas they have, and that bothers you.

So you make it about how you're disappointed in them/"confused"/"disheartened."

Get a life.