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Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you. What kind of help is he getting? He needs more help ASAP than you are able to provide for him.

I would suggest calling the suicide prevention hotline. They will help you figure out what to do next.

He’s sleeping right now after essentially being up for over 24 hours.

I’d call ASAP tomorrow morning. I’d personally take him to iNova iPAC, they’re open. If you can’t get him up take him tomorrow morning. I’ve been in his boat, it’s a tough thing. Ironically, for guys it stinks because we’re on our own. Wives/GFs will dump you off at the first sign of trouble like this as they don’t want to take the responsibility of dealing with it.

You got that right! Why should we want to or have to deal with someone unstable like that? I m single, and if I were in a relationship with a suicidal man, I would end it ASAP and not look back. I am NOT a therapist, and it is not my role to play one in a relationship. Someone trying to kill themselves is not my problem or responsibility. Grown people are responsible for themselves.

That’s why you’re single, incapable of thinking of anyone but yourself. Have fun being dying alone

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you. What kind of help is he getting? He needs more help ASAP than you are able to provide for him.

I would suggest calling the suicide prevention hotline. They will help you figure out what to do next.

He’s sleeping right now after essentially being up for over 24 hours.

I’d call ASAP tomorrow morning. I’d personally take him to iNova iPAC, they’re open. If you can’t get him up take him tomorrow morning. I’ve been in his boat, it’s a tough thing. Ironically, for guys it stinks because we’re on our own. Wives/GFs will dump you off at the first sign of trouble like this as they don’t want to take the responsibility of dealing with it.

You got that right! Why should we want to or have to deal with someone unstable like that? I m single, and if I were in a relationship with a suicidal man, I would end it ASAP and not look back. I am NOT a therapist, and it is not my role to play one in a relationship. Someone trying to kill themselves is not my problem or responsibility. Grown people are responsible for themselves.

Can you please give an update? Were you able to get him admitted to do an evaluation? Has he always struggled with depression? Is there a difficult set of circumstances you all are facing right now? The holidays can be a hard time for many people.

I hope that you would also consider receiving counseling for yourself. You are loved.

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Same writing style and IP address of similar vapid outbursts.

Where are you seeing IP address?

Anonymous wrote:serious question - is calling 911 in this situation when you find someone trying to harm themselves not an option?

Actually, it is the only reasonable option. People threatening suicide are a danger to self and others. There is a mandatory 72 hour hold for observation when 911 gets involved.

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What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

It's all side effects. Plus, anti-depressants frequently don't do anything measurably good. (Bipolar is a different issue, not speaking for those people.)

Anti-depressants kill libido and erections for some men.

What would you rather have: dead male libido or dead DH?

Often, it doesn't matter what the spouse wants. It's the depressed DH who wants his libido back.

Anonymous wrote:Troll. Same writing style and IP address of similar vapid outbursts.

how in the world do you know the IP address of a post if you're not the website owner?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

It's all side effects. Plus, anti-depressants frequently don't do anything measurably good. (Bipolar is a different issue, not speaking for those people.)

Anti-depressants kill libido and erections for some men.

What would you rather have: dead male libido or dead DH?

Call 911 or take him to the ER. That's all you need to do right now.

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What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

It's all side effects. Plus, anti-depressants frequently don't do anything measurably good. (Bipolar is a different issue, not speaking for those people.)

Anti-depressants kill libido and erections for some men.

Update, OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP, my husband is currently an inpatient because he is suicidal. There is no difference between him and your husband except that I know that this is what is appropriate to the situation, and you are a total newb.

Get off DCUM and get your husband to the hospital however you have to do it.

+1

OP, however you have to get your DH into a hospital, do it. I know a family close to mine, where this is a regular issue for the husband. He is committed a couple of times per year. On the outside, the family looks perfect, and you would never know that the husband has raging depression, is abusive and is suicidal. He is very successful, on the outside. Being in the hospital really seems to help him, for now. GL.

What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?

It's all side effects. Plus, anti-depressants frequently don't do anything measurably good. (Bipolar is a different issue, not speaking for those people.)

OP, my husband is currently an inpatient because he is suicidal. There is no difference between him and your husband except that I know that this is what is appropriate to the situation, and you are a total newb.

Get off DCUM and get your husband to the hospital however you have to do it.

Anonymous wrote:serious question - is calling 911 in this situation when you find someone trying to harm themselves not an option?

Not an option til you post on DCUM and get a clear consensus on how to handle the situation.