Anonymous
Post 11/30/2017 20:42     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
My BF from college, 50+, is engaged to a 29 yo. They've been together for 5 yrs. I think it is great that she found someone to love and who loves her just as fiercely. Life is too short to worry about numbers.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2017 03:19     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ha, sorry, I agree the word "lover" is stupid but I can't think of another that fits the situation. He's not my boyfriend or partner or significant other …

I don't have notable self esteem issues. I was married for a long time to a classic D.C. type and we're still friendly and coparenting teens. I'm having a wonderful time with my male friend and just take this day by day.

fwiw, he's 29, a professional I met through work. I imagine he'll split off at some point and follow the script of wife/kids/mortgage, and I'll be OK with that when it happens, as long as he's respectful about it.


You could just say your banging a 29 year old, instead of lover.

He could be your child so it is gross.

Your an almost 50 facing divorce, bragging about a "lover" on an anonymous forum, and you are facing being single the rest of your life, you most certainly have self esteem issues.

Take it one day at a time... like alcoholics.


H8ers gonna H8
Judgers gonna judge
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 22:49     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


I'm 53 and last summer I dated a grad student who had just turned 22. She was amazing.


So why’d it end?
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 21:48     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
There's nothing wrong with it if it makes other women happy. It would not be for me. I have always been attracted to men who are a little bit (5 years or so) older than me. So honestly, now that I'm 40, I genuinely find guys between 45 and 50 the most attractive.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 21:42     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


I'm 53 and last summer I dated a grad student who had just turned 22. She was amazing.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 11:38     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


Good for them too!


total BS - men who dare to post such a thing there would be castrated by the virtual DCUM mob
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 09:59     Subject: Re:Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Two years ago after my divorce I treated myself to a week in Aruba and I had a vacation fling with a guy 17 years younger, me being 52. He was a great guy and the sex was fantastic but the generation gap was such that I concluded that guys my age would be a better fit once I started dating again. It's definitely proven to be true and I'm pleasantly surprised that the few guys I've dated over the past year are very capable in bed - light years better than my ex.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 09:40     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


That won't work but try this: how would you feel about your 25 yr old son dating your 52 yr old best friend.


25 is a bit young and it makes me concerned about the power dynamic between the two, especially if it is a serious relationship.

But what OP describes is a bit different - she is under 50, he is 29, and it is sporadic and casual. At 29, I am not as concerned by an age differential, even though I personally wouldn't engage. Presumably at 29 and in a casual, sporadic relationship, he is established in a job/career and not giving up other relationships or opportunities.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 08:52     Subject: Re:Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:Last summer I signed up for a mixed member/guest event at my golf club and my guest had to drop out a few days before. A friend recommended a single guy at least 15 years younger then me (I'm 48 and divorced) and we had a great time and it turned into a brief summer romance. I hadn't been with a guy in that physical condition since I'd been in college and I was very happy with my ability to keep up with him.


Did you enjoy his putter? How many strokes did you give him? Was he good at getting up and down?
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 08:23     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm almost 50, divorced for several years, and having a casual relationship with someone under 30. It's slightly more than just sex, but not by much. We go out infrequently on dates and we have a great time talking, working out, cooking, etc. whenever we get together. We have amazing sex.

We've been at this a while and it occurs to me that I don't know a single other older woman/younger guy couple with this kind of age spread. Do you?


Just curious - what makes it amazing?

Oh, and you're my hero.


You have to question what makes it great? Not OP but surely it must be: tight body, smooth young skin, lots of stamina, willingness to learn and please, overal young attitude - so jealous!
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 08:17     Subject: Re:Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:When I was in my mid-20s I tried to have a relationship with a woman who was 25 years older than me. She was a nympho, and a flake, and it bothered me that her daughter was my age. In retrospect I learned little from her and should have been spending my time with women my age.

Now that I am old, I date women my age, and sometimes much younger, but find it a huge turn-off when a woman close to my age brags about having had "young lovers". I'm a complete hypocrite, but I won't be in a relationship with that kind of women.


At least you recognize you’re a hypocrite. If it’s ok for you, it’s ok for a woman.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 07:40     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


We so rarely see it, that it is something to applaud. I can't imagine a 25 year old male would want my body. It isn't bad, but still ...
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 07:06     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


People have double standards. Alert the media.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 23:53     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


That won't work but try this: how would you feel about your 25 yr old son dating your 52 yr old best friend.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 22:30     Subject: Any other women out there with a lover 20+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:To all the "get it!" approving women think of how you'd react to a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old woman...


Good for them too!