Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 15:55     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Anonymous wrote:Jury is still out!! Somedays yes other days no way.


+1 This
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 15:22     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

I dont know. I shoulve have seen the red flags. Your partner always comes fgirst, not your friends. Im still having feeling disapointed even though husband is sorry.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 14:01     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Jury is still out!! Somedays yes other days no way.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 13:01     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Nope. The anxiety is at an all-time high. Always some sort of over-hyped medical issue (due to the anxiety). Lazy Dad and worthless roommate. Barely want him near me. Plus, he's turned into a Trumpkin. Heaven help me.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 12:36     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

No.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 12:35     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Knowing what I know now, 10 years in? I'm not sure I would.

But only the benefit of 20/20 hindsight would make me second guess the decision - if I didn't have ALL of that information handy I am sure I'd make the same choice again.

And we are actively working on finding our way back to the earlier, happier times when we were all starry eyed for each other. I hope you can recapture some of that also OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 12:32     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

I would not marry her because I would never date her since she's about 50 pounds over my limit of attractiveness.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 12:22     Subject: Re:Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Yes!
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 12:21     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Of course.

In fact, I agree with another poster who said that her husband wouldn’t be available. My husband is too kind and useful for someone not to have snatched him up. He’s a truly wonderful man.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 11:47     Subject: Re:Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

No. PTSD has stolen the person he once was.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 11:30     Subject: Re:Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Absolutely, I am lucky to be with him
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 09:47     Subject: Re:Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

No. I have a better filter now and would see through the charm and probably question him more on the white lies he told to impress me. And I have a better understanding of what a narcissist looks like.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 09:40     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

At my age now? no I wouldn't marry anyone, and would probably be retired. I would not want to start a family at my age. Would I date my DW if I met her yes but most likely not marry
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 09:23     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Anonymous wrote:No. I respect him as a person but his need to sweep things under the rug, and my need to talk stuff out and know he’s there for me, just leave 2 unhappy people.


Mraaa. Similar dynamic here, they we have not been able to solve
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2017 08:18     Subject: Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

Knowing what I know now? No.

But if we just met at this point in our lives and he still had the same personality, charms, humor, etc? Definitely yes. His true colors wouldn't come out for a long time, no matter when I met him.