Anonymous wrote:Ok, so.. I broke down and "joined' my birth club. And it's not that bad. There are SO many posts that you can kind of guess which ones are ridiculous and just ignore them (like "anyone guess the gender from their first ultrasound? Using Ramzi?") but there are some legit ones too.

Plus... it's kind of nice to be able to commiserate with rando internet people about anxiety in the first trimester without being told by the DCUM masses to get thyself immediately to therapy.

Lol'ing. I usually lurk but have been active in this my last child's board out of anxiety and stress mostly. Just replying to say every one of my comments usually involves some form of therapy. No escape, sorry.

If the judgy rich assholes are on dcum and the dumb poors are on babycenter, where are the normal people hanging out?

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Anonymous wrote:I checked out baby center when I was first pregnant, but I just couldn't deal with how uneducated everyone seemed. If OP is judgy, so am I.

+1. I'd rather be around mean, smart people than sweet, dumb people. I know enough of the latter in real life

(Plus, DCUM people can also be really kind and generous; I definitely got a lot of support when I posted about my miscarriage.)

Yeah, have fun with that. Mean smart people are a real joy to be around.

Present company excluded, I presume.

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Anonymous wrote:I checked out baby center when I was first pregnant, but I just couldn't deal with how uneducated everyone seemed. If OP is judgy, so am I.

+1. I'd rather be around mean, smart people than sweet, dumb people. I know enough of the latter in real life

(Plus, DCUM people can also be really kind and generous; I definitely got a lot of support when I posted about my miscarriage.)

Yeah, have fun with that. Mean smart people are a real joy to be around.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Yeah, those babies are not so fortunate as to have stuck up elitist a hole parents who will be putting pressure on them to succeed from the moment they are born.

Well, aren't you just superior OP? Barf!

Ok checking back in from babycenter, and the best/worse threads are those about baby names.

Oh man. DEFINITELY not Supreme Court material.

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Anonymous wrote:The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

LOL!

I found that board when they actually still posted bargains and that was a loong time ago!

I do love it still for entertainment purposes on occasion and for the occasional learning of something. They do a decent thread every year about homemade gifts as well as Amazon bargains.

I also learned about magic cream there for shaving as well as what to do if Cps shows up (hint : legally you don't have to let them in without a warrant)

Another great board for entertainment is the DWIL board. Crazy stories there including jailed MILs

There is also a Girl Scout mom board that is helpful.

[/b]I'm highly educated but stayed with my birth boards through both pregnancies. I loved the drama but didn't engage. I used the Hyeremisis [b]board and the Beadrest Board a lot. I loved reading the DWIL board! That is some crazy crazy crap! I didn't look down on many people. I felt bad for some situations but there was a thread about a woman who had pre term labor and gave birth at 20 weeks and I followed her story for months. I find DCUM to be crazy sometimes, too.

Somehow I doubt you are highly educated. You can't spell hyperemesis ( and it's so far off you can't blame autocorrect).

NP. Who cares, lame spelling bee champion? I have three Ivy League degrees and make over $300K. My spelling is not great and yet, does the SAT or LSAT test spelling? Nope! I think I’ll safely call myself highly educated.

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Anonymous wrote:The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

LOL!

I found that board when they actually still posted bargains and that was a loong time ago!

I do love it still for entertainment purposes on occasion and for the occasional learning of something. They do a decent thread every year about homemade gifts as well as Amazon bargains.

I also learned about magic cream there for shaving as well as what to do if Cps shows up (hint : legally you don't have to let them in without a warrant)

Another great board for entertainment is the DWIL board. Crazy stories there including jailed MILs

There is also a Girl Scout mom board that is helpful.

[/b]I'm highly educated but stayed with my birth boards through both pregnancies. I loved the drama but didn't engage. I used the Hyeremisis [b]board and the Beadrest Board a lot. I loved reading the DWIL board! That is some crazy crazy crap! I didn't look down on many people. I felt bad for some situations but there was a thread about a woman who had pre term labor and gave birth at 20 weeks and I followed her story for months. I find DCUM to be crazy sometimes, too.

Somehow I doubt you are highly educated. You can't spell hyperemesis ( and it's so far off you can't blame autocorrect).

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Anonymous wrote:The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

LOL!

I found that board when they actually still posted bargains and that was a loong time ago!

I do love it still for entertainment purposes on occasion and for the occasional learning of something. They do a decent thread every year about homemade gifts as well as Amazon bargains.

I also learned about magic cream there for shaving as well as what to do if Cps shows up (hint : legally you don't have to let them in without a warrant)

Another great board for entertainment is the DWIL board. Crazy stories there including jailed MILs

There is also a Girl Scout mom board that is helpful.

I'm highly educated but stayed with my birth boards through both pregnancies. I loved the drama but didn't engage. I used the Hyeremisis board and the Beadrest Board a lot. I loved reading the DWIL board! That is some crazy crazy crap! I didn't look down on many people. I felt bad for some situations but there was a thread about a woman who had pre term labor and gave birth at 20 weeks and I followed her story for months. I find DCUM to be crazy sometimes, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I checked out baby center when I was first pregnant, but I just couldn't deal with how uneducated everyone seemed. If OP is judgy, so am I.

+1. I'd rather be around mean, smart people than sweet, dumb people. I know enough of the latter in real life

(Plus, DCUM people can also be really kind and generous; I definitely got a lot of support when I posted about my miscarriage.)

Educated does not always equal smart based on all the garbage I see posted regularly on here about pregnancy and childbirth. And the blind reverence of doctors.. The lowbrow Babycenter set may have their religion and their essential oils, but DCUMers have their OBs and their word is gospel!

Uh, okay. There are plenty of posts here about educating yourself so you don't have to blindly follow recommendations by OBs that are outdated, not supported by research, and/or not best practices.

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Anonymous wrote:I checked out baby center when I was first pregnant, but I just couldn't deal with how uneducated everyone seemed. If OP is judgy, so am I.

+1. I'd rather be around mean, smart people than sweet, dumb people. I know enough of the latter in real life

(Plus, DCUM people can also be really kind and generous; I definitely got a lot of support when I posted about my miscarriage.)

Educated does not always equal smart based on all the garbage I see posted regularly on here about pregnancy and childbirth. And the blind reverence of doctors.. The lowbrow Babycenter set may have their religion and their essential oils, but DCUMers have their OBs and their word is gospel!

Ok, so.. I broke down and "joined' my birth club. And it's not that bad. There are SO many posts that you can kind of guess which ones are ridiculous and just ignore them (like "anyone guess the gender from their first ultrasound? Using Ramzi?") but there are some legit ones too.

Plus... it's kind of nice to be able to commiserate with rando internet people about anxiety in the first trimester without being told by the DCUM masses to get thyself immediately to therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh everyone here is being a little snobby and classist for my liking but of course you're not wrong - these babies aren't as fortunate as the babies here. It's just sad evidence that there is not enough access to or accurate education about birth control and abortion.

But we are the ones that are out of touch with the reality of what most women in this country experience. Not them.

Birth control and abortions? Have you been on baby center? These very poor moms really want these babies. Sadly they picked the wrong baby daddy's. The baby daddy drama is intense there! Their MiL stories make dcums seem sane.

You really don't think sex ed, access to birth control, and access to abortion aren't factors here?

Not really. Most of the posters I see are having babies they really, really wanted and tried for. Some are unplanned, but many, many posters are very anti-choice. I think what you may be thinking is more along the lines of broader, life-planning type stuff. But another poster had it right--they want kids, higher education or a long-term career is either not wanted or out of reach, so waiting doesn't make any sense for them. Unfortunately, where these people live, low-quality mates are abundant, so it often dooms their prospects. But plenty of these women would be perfectly happy to live an honest, really thrifty lifestyle in their hometown and have their babies and hopefully a decent man.