Anonymous wrote:In our house, whoever does the chore decides how it gets done. Our motto is, if you dont like how someone else does it, do it yourself. This does not apply to the kids, however. If we let them choose how to do things, they’d never get done.
Anonymous wrote:OP, there is no reason to think your standards are necessary
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, is it truly half-assed or is it passive aggressive?
If there is a REASONABLE standard for how a household chore should be done (like dishes your family uses are fully clean and sanitary) then your DH should be doing it that way.
You've explained to him why and how it should be done. Yet he continues to do it his way. IMO that smacks of passive aggressiveness. Or some kind of control issue.
My DH intellectually KNOWS that the used dish cloth should be hung up after use so it can dry. Yet he insists on rolling it into a wet, compacted ball and shoving it in the sponge holder along with the sponge. Every day I take it out, hang it up and every day he does it again.
Yes, he has passive aggressive and control issues.
Gawd that sounds like autism. Like a child but one that cannot learn.
Anonymous wrote:
The part you're missing is that this is part of people's personalities. They can't help being "deliberate and slow" or "quick and dirty". They can try to change, but it's going to be really hard for them.
My husband and son are deliberate and VERY slow. I do a much quicker job, and I feel the quality is perfectly acceptable. In fact, I end up doing practically ALL the housework, planning and scheduling, because if I waited for them to do it, nothing would ever get done.
At the end of the day, what's important is whether what was supposed to happen actually happened in a timely manner.