Take a two week vacation together that requires a certain amount of roughing it. Being together 24/7 for two weeks is a good test.

If it's meant to be, it will still be meant to be in 6 months, a year, two years, etc.

You are young. No need to rush. You can still be together, just don't rush to get married before at least a year or two.

Anonymous wrote:Immediately this felt like a different kind of relationship, and we're not just a couple of kids (I'm 31, he's 34). We adore each other and talk about marriage, future plans, babies, etc. Is this crazy?

Nope, nothing wrong with talking about it early. Why the hell NOT talk about it early. You find out what you WANT and what the other WANTS. It doesn't mean you have to act on it.

I think if you don't talk about these things early you are making a mistake.

Now, making decisions without all the information (others above have highlighted things to discuss, financies, family, anger, etc. .... I don't need to add to that) is a mistake. I think I got married after years of dating, but we hadn't done all that talking (still married 20 years on). My parents got married after knowing each other for only 6 months, but are also still married over 50 years later. But they came from a small community and their families probably knew each other even if they hadn't. Shared values, similar backgrounds.

Was it luck? Was it it good decisions? was it healthy role models? I don't know. But I don't think it is crazy to just TALK about marriage so early in a relationship. Be very deliberate, LISTEN to your gut and your friends.

Yes, it's crazy. Live together first. It doesn't matterm that you are older. You don't know a person after 1 month.