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Anonymous wrote:Without commenting on the use of the word "let," no one married to me would be staying home on purpose/ not earning unless they want a divorce.

Why?

Do you feel an adult's only contribution to the world is by earning filthy lucre, I mean money?

How small-minded you are, Ebenezer.

I feel that I am not going to support an able-bodied adult who chooses not to work. I would love to stay home and pursue my dreams with that time instead, but if I don't work, I have no home in which to do that. My spouse can choose not to work in someone else's house.

What if you chose to stay home while your spouse worked? It works both ways, you know. What if your spouse really wanted to stay home with the children, and was depressed at the idea of going back to work? There are many opportunities in life where flexibility is important, and this could be one of them.

I would not choose to stay home, because then I would have no means to support myself. I don't live off other people. If my spouse wanted to stay home, he should have the independent means to do that. Financial stability is not flexible.

You have reached the independent stage. Yeah! Some never get there. The next stage is interdependency and that opens ups different outcomes.

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of job brings a $200k promotion. G-d do companies overpay people.

A fake job held by a troll...

DING DING DING! Winner here! OP has mysteriously never come back. Had to crawl back under the troll bridge.

If my income doubled tomorrow, overnight I would be earning our family's entire household income through my efforts alone.

I don't know that I'd tell my husband to quit his job, but two things would be true - we'd keep our current spending + savings plan, based entirely on my income;
Any money my husband earned would go straight into investments or debt payoff;
I'd tell him to quit the job he dislikes and find a job in his area of actual passion, where he would make significantly less.

If you don't "let" your wife stay home and you make $400k, she might resent you and it could ruin your marriage. So there's that. Do you have young children? You may not realize it while you are in the rat race, but having 2 adults that work FT outside the home and doing the daycare/school/activity shuffle is stressful.

In what universe is $400k not enough?

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Anonymous wrote:A Stay At Home Parent is a gift to your children. Not everyone wants to give them that gift.

Children eventually become adults and what happens then ? Going back to work after voluntarily taking yourself out after what 17 , 18yrs ?

At 17/18, that will take us to retirement age for my husband. We had kids older.

How do you figure 400k is not enough? Why can't you live on $250 or 300 and bank the rest? The key is to not upgrade your home and expenses tremendously with the new raise.

You might be surprised how well your home functions if you have someone there to do all the kid stuff/be the default parent/cook/grocery shop/manage finances etc. It's a much less crazy and stressful existence. It will give you back your weekends.

And I say this as a WAHM, but I've also worked PT and SAH at various points.

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Anonymous wrote:A Stay At Home Parent is a gift to your children. Not everyone wants to give them that gift.

Children eventually become adults and what happens then ? Going back to work after voluntarily taking yourself out after what 17 , 18yrs ?

There is more to life than an office career.

Anonymous wrote:A Stay At Home Parent is a gift to your children. Not everyone wants to give them that gift.

Children eventually become adults and what happens then ? Going back to work after voluntarily taking yourself out after what 17 , 18yrs ?

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Anonymous wrote:Without commenting on the use of the word "let," no one married to me would be staying home on purpose/ not earning unless they want a divorce.

Why?

Do you feel an adult's only contribution to the world is by earning filthy lucre, I mean money?

How small-minded you are, Ebenezer.

I feel that I am not going to support an able-bodied adult who chooses not to work. I would love to stay home and pursue my dreams with that time instead, but if I don't work, I have no home in which to do that. My spouse can choose not to work in someone else's house.

This is funny. That what happened after our divorce. Both got stay at home significant others, but neither was willing to support the other one in our marriage.

Politely tell your spouse you're not her ATM. What if you lose that job ? Usually recipients of such high salaries are the first ones to be let go when the inevitable downsizing comes around . Sorry but your spouse lacks basic common sense

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Anonymous wrote:Without commenting on the use of the word "let," no one married to me would be staying home on purpose/ not earning unless they want a divorce.

Why?

Do you feel an adult's only contribution to the world is by earning filthy lucre, I mean money?

How small-minded you are, Ebenezer.

I feel that I am not going to support an able-bodied adult who chooses not to work. I would love to stay home and pursue my dreams with that time instead, but if I don't work, I have no home in which to do that. My spouse can choose not to work in someone else's house.

What if you chose to stay home while your spouse worked? It works both ways, you know. What if your spouse really wanted to stay home with the children, and was depressed at the idea of going back to work? There are many opportunities in life where flexibility is important, and this could be one of them.

I would not choose to stay home, because then I would have no means to support myself. I don't live off other people. If my spouse wanted to stay home, he should have the independent means to do that. Financial stability is not flexible.

You're unemployed? Because if you WOH, you still depend on people to pay you in exchange for your time.

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Anonymous wrote:Without commenting on the use of the word "let," no one married to me would be staying home on purpose/ not earning unless they want a divorce.

Why?

Do you feel an adult's only contribution to the world is by earning filthy lucre, I mean money?

How small-minded you are, Ebenezer.

I feel that I am not going to support an able-bodied adult who chooses not to work. I would love to stay home and pursue my dreams with that time instead, but if I don't work, I have no home in which to do that. My spouse can choose not to work in someone else's house.

What if you chose to stay home while your spouse worked? It works both ways, you know. What if your spouse really wanted to stay home with the children, and was depressed at the idea of going back to work? There are many opportunities in life where flexibility is important, and this could be one of them.

I would not choose to stay home, because then I would have no means to support myself. I don't live off other people. If my spouse wanted to stay home, he should have the independent means to do that. Financial stability is not flexible.

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Anonymous wrote:Without commenting on the use of the word "let," no one married to me would be staying home on purpose/ not earning unless they want a divorce.

Why?

Do you feel an adult's only contribution to the world is by earning filthy lucre, I mean money?

How small-minded you are, Ebenezer.

I feel that I am not going to support an able-bodied adult who chooses not to work. I would love to stay home and pursue my dreams with that time instead, but if I don't work, I have no home in which to do that. My spouse can choose not to work in someone else's house.

What if you chose to stay home while your spouse worked? It works both ways, you know. What if your spouse really wanted to stay home with the children, and was depressed at the idea of going back to work? There are many opportunities in life where flexibility is important, and this could be one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:A Stay At Home Parent is a gift to your children. Not everyone wants to give them that gift.

Why do you assume everyone has kids? OP didn't say there are kids.

If there are no kids then it is a semantic discussion between adults. And by the way, I did not assume they have kids, I just said if there are kids having a parent home caring for them, especially when they are very young, is a gift.

You didn't say "if there are..." or anything about kids being young.

I want to know what kind of job gives that kind of payraise.