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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 40s, and half my female friends from when we were all in our 20s are not married and don't have children. I guess they're still holding out for the perfect man.

Any day now, I'm sure.

They're all waiting for a 6'4" former Navy SEAL turned astronaut who manages a billion dollar hedge fund in his spare time, and has the ability to squirt month-long yacht vacations on the Mediterranean out of his eleven inch ....... billfold

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 40s, and half my female friends from when we were all in our 20s are not married and don't have children. I guess they're still holding out for the perfect man.

Any day now, I'm sure.

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What's my Ex's excuse? He's 48 and grew up in a 2-parent, UMC home. Had never held a job more than two years in a row and is $10k behind in CS.

YOU picked him. Or did he stick a gun to your head and force you to marry him?

We married young as grad students so there was no way to guess he peaked at 25.

You made the mistake of marrying someone who was making X, while expecting him to be making more in the future. Don't marry potential. If you require a man to be making X in order be satisfied, don't marry a guy who is not making X.

It never had to do with how much he made. We expected to be Feds and not ever make millions or retire early. That he couldn't keep any job I did and still do have big problem with. Even the judge told him that he needs to get himself together.

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Anonymous wrote:Well duh; they don't make men like they used to. Nowadays you have to raise a man like he's your child.

Thank a generation of "I don't need a man, I can do it ALL" single mothers for giving us a generation of boys who don't know how to be men.

Because that's what you're dealing with.

True.

And a lot of intact families are upper middle class dcum types who wouldn't dein to teach their boys basic life skills that make stronger men.

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Anonymous wrote:
What's my Ex's excuse? He's 48 and grew up in a 2-parent, UMC home. Had never held a job more than two years in a row and is $10k behind in CS.

YOU picked him. Or did he stick a gun to your head and force you to marry him?

We married young as grad students so there was no way to guess he peaked at 25.

You made the mistake of marrying someone who was making X, while expecting him to be making more in the future. Don't marry potential. If you require a man to be making X in order be satisfied, don't marry a guy who is not making X.

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Anonymous wrote:
What's my Ex's excuse? He's 48 and grew up in a 2-parent, UMC home. Had never held a job more than two years in a row and is $10k behind in CS.

YOU picked him. Or did he stick a gun to your head and force you to marry him?

We married young as grad students so there was no way to guess he peaked at 25.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well duh; they don't make men like they used to. Nowadays you have to raise a man like he's your child.

Thank a generation of "I don't need a man, I can do it ALL" single mothers for giving us a generation of boys who don't know how to be men.

Because that's what you're dealing with.

Men haven't changed. Women can now live without a husband, is all. Then they insist that they'll remain single unless the next guy can leap over tall buildings in a single bound, and so they stay single and gripe about men.

But men haven't changed.

Men certainly have changed. Just by the sheer number of women joining the workforce in the last 50 years, men start to lose the dominant status at work.

It is unrealistic for women to routinely expect spouses of higher wages. Does not compute.

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Why is bad for women to be financially independent and expect her man to be the same in that regard?

Supply and fcking demand! You're competing with every other woman like you, for the relatively few men who meet your standards of income, height, BMW ownership, what the hell you're shooting for instead of average income.

Women don't want to be financially independent on their own, they want a guy to do it on his own and come in late and claim the prize. It's just there really are not many people(let a lone men 25 to 35 making over 500k a year). It is about 1,056,000 people. This is all the people...so there will be women, old men etc but mostly older guys. Not a big pool to fish in but lots of competition.

Why is bad for women to be financially independent and expect her man to be the same in that regard?

Supply and fcking demand! You're competing with every other woman like you, for the relatively few men who meet your standards of income, height, BMW ownership, what the hell you're shooting for instead of average income.

Men want to "marry up" looks wise. Women want to "marry up " status wise.

The result is a glut of educated, successful women who are caught off-guard when they find that equally educated and successful men are not rolling out the red carpet for them and are perfectly happy with an uneducated, but nice and attractive woman.

It would make sense for highly-educated, successful women are having trouble finding an equally successful man to find a guy who is less physically attractive, or older. Since men are more focused on looks, they should compensate by compromising on education and success -- which is why you often see old rich guys dating younger women who are from lower socioeconomic backgrounds, but are attractive.