Anonymous wrote:If you do this than you aren't really married because being faithful is what marriage is all about. What is to keep your DH from leaving you later rather than now? I'm sorry but, this isn't going to go well. We knew a couple who did this and they ended up divorced.

Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:I am a lower drive DW with a very high drive DH. My DH is quite monogamous, and it was actually me who introduced the idea. After a night out on the town where I was flirting and felt great, I went home and we had incredible for sex for several days. When we discussed what had happened and how I felt, we started discussing options for being monogomish or opening up our relationship. We tried Tinder and I went on a couple of dates, but he had a harder time finding people and it's definitely a challenge if he's struggling to put the kids to bed while I'm getting ready for a date, so we shut that down pretty quickly. I got pregnant again so we're not pursuing anything. Actively seeking people out on Tinder (which is how some friends we know opened up their relationship), felt too forced for us and we weren't comfortable with it, we also both agreed polyamory (having an additional romantic partner, like a boyfriend) also felt too strange to us, though not entirely off the table. Being monogomish, flirting or just making out, having a hook up or friends with benefits felt better to us as long as we are remaining open and honest and our relationship is in a good place. He's a lot less interested in pursuing other people anyways, and is okay if only I have a hook-up, but I find the option to think about being with other people and knowing the opportunity to be with other people exists and talking about it, spices things up enough and brings enough excitement that I may never really act on it. So that's our story, we have not actually opened things up, but continue to explore the idea. I think honesty, open communication and respect are really important, you have to decide how much you want to know about what he's doing and feel comfortable that if feelings of jealousy arise he's going to be supportive and you can work through them together.

The one couple we knew who really opened up their relationship ended in divorce a little over a year later, though I suspect they weren't in a good place before. Another couple we know is just start out like we are, and I'm certainly curious to see how it goes.

I wish you the best of luck and i think your willingness you support him in his needs and is very loving, definitely check out some the of the TED talks, recent NYT article, podcasts, FB groups and books out there, there are a lot of resources for people considering this lifestyle.

We went through a similar process a few years ago and we're open. I have to say it really brings back your sex drive. It's not like I've slept eith a lot of men, but the ones that I have were just based on sexual attraction and chemistry. For the last year I've had an fwb who I met at the gym. He's tall, AA, has lots of muscles and is very well endowed. We meet up once every week or so and the sex is incredible. I've done lots of things with him that I wouldn't normally do and its opened me up to more fun things with the DH.

Wow! That sounds hot!

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Anonymous wrote:I am a lower drive DW with a very high drive DH. My DH is quite monogamous, and it was actually me who introduced the idea. After a night out on the town where I was flirting and felt great, I went home and we had incredible for sex for several days. When we discussed what had happened and how I felt, we started discussing options for being monogomish or opening up our relationship. We tried Tinder and I went on a couple of dates, but he had a harder time finding people and it's definitely a challenge if he's struggling to put the kids to bed while I'm getting ready for a date, so we shut that down pretty quickly. I got pregnant again so we're not pursuing anything. Actively seeking people out on Tinder (which is how some friends we know opened up their relationship), felt too forced for us and we weren't comfortable with it, we also both agreed polyamory (having an additional romantic partner, like a boyfriend) also felt too strange to us, though not entirely off the table. Being monogomish, flirting or just making out, having a hook up or friends with benefits felt better to us as long as we are remaining open and honest and our relationship is in a good place. He's a lot less interested in pursuing other people anyways, and is okay if only I have a hook-up, but I find the option to think about being with other people and knowing the opportunity to be with other people exists and talking about it, spices things up enough and brings enough excitement that I may never really act on it. So that's our story, we have not actually opened things up, but continue to explore the idea. I think honesty, open communication and respect are really important, you have to decide how much you want to know about what he's doing and feel comfortable that if feelings of jealousy arise he's going to be supportive and you can work through them together.

The one couple we knew who really opened up their relationship ended in divorce a little over a year later, though I suspect they weren't in a good place before. Another couple we know is just start out like we are, and I'm certainly curious to see how it goes.

I wish you the best of luck and i think your willingness you support him in his needs and is very loving, definitely check out some the of the TED talks, recent NYT article, podcasts, FB groups and books out there, there are a lot of resources for people considering this lifestyle.

We went through a similar process a few years ago and we're open. I have to say it really brings back your sex drive. It's not like I've slept eith a lot of men, but the ones that I have were just based on sexual attraction and chemistry. For the last year I've had an fwb who I met at the gym. He's tall, AA, has lots of muscles and is very well endowed. We meet up once every week or so and the sex is incredible. I've done lots of things with him that I wouldn't normally do and its opened me up to more fun things with the DH.

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much is going to cost you financially? Wouldn't your husband have to take these women out/buy them gifts, etc? That alone is a deal breaker for me re open marriages.

Anonymous wrote:DH here: I see the appeal, and properly done I can see how it would fire up a couple's sex life. But I think it is probably a much better deal for the women than the men, since it is so much easier for women to find casual sex partners. And people being people, there is an unacceptably high risk of falling for someone not your spouse from my perspective. Good luck, though.

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much is going to cost you financially? Wouldn't your husband have to take these women out/buy them gifts, etc? That alone is a deal breaker for me re open marriages.

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much is going to cost you financially? Wouldn't your husband have to take these women out/buy them gifts, etc? That alone is a deal breaker for me re open marriages.

Anonymous wrote:I am a lower drive DW with a very high drive DH. My DH is quite monogamous, and it was actually me who introduced the idea. After a night out on the town where I was flirting and felt great, I went home and we had incredible for sex for several days. When we discussed what had happened and how I felt, we started discussing options for being monogomish or opening up our relationship. We tried Tinder and I went on a couple of dates, but he had a harder time finding people and it's definitely a challenge if he's struggling to put the kids to bed while I'm getting ready for a date, so we shut that down pretty quickly. I got pregnant again so we're not pursuing anything. Actively seeking people out on Tinder (which is how some friends we know opened up their relationship), felt too forced for us and we weren't comfortable with it, we also both agreed polyamory (having an additional romantic partner, like a boyfriend) also felt too strange to us, though not entirely off the table. Being monogomish, flirting or just making out, having a hook up or friends with benefits felt better to us as long as we are remaining open and honest and our relationship is in a good place. He's a lot less interested in pursuing other people anyways, and is okay if only I have a hook-up, but I find the option to think about being with other people and knowing the opportunity to be with other people exists and talking about it, spices things up enough and brings enough excitement that I may never really act on it. So that's our story, we have not actually opened things up, but continue to explore the idea. I think honesty, open communication and respect are really important, you have to decide how much you want to know about what he's doing and feel comfortable that if feelings of jealousy arise he's going to be supportive and you can work through them together.

The one couple we knew who really opened up their relationship ended in divorce a little over a year later, though I suspect they weren't in a good place before. Another couple we know is just start out like we are, and I'm certainly curious to see how it goes.

I wish you the best of luck and i think your willingness you support him in his needs and is very loving, definitely check out some the of the TED talks, recent NYT article, podcasts, FB groups and books out there, there are a lot of resources for people considering this lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

Sex has very little do with different physical equipment. Sexual chemistry is different with each partner.

As a woman, it has everything to do with physical equipment. I want zero chemistry and a big ?

You must be very young and of average intelligence. If that's all there is to it, just use a toy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

Sex has very little do with different physical equipment. Sexual chemistry is different with each partner.

As a woman, it has everything to do with physical equipment. I want zero chemistry and a big ?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

Sex has very little do with different physical equipment. Sexual chemistry is different with each partner.

As a woman, it has everything to do with physical equipment. I want zero chemistry and a big ?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He can't be satisfied unless he has multiple partners?? Don't all vaginas do the same thing? You two sound like two idiots running from your problems just to create more problems

Sex has very little do with different physical equipment. Sexual chemistry is different with each partner.