Anonymous wrote:16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.
OP - do you want intimacy or would having an orgasm be enough? There are plenty of toys out there that can satisfy physical needs. Intimacy would require serious cheating, far more than a ONS.