Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:45
Subject: Re:Ok to vacation without all the kids?
I think it's okay especially since the kids have been there twice. If anything isn't fair, it is skipping the trip altogether because you can't afford to take everyone. The kids have been twice. That's enough.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:45
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Take the three year old to Dutch Wonderland.
Figure out something different with the older kids.
Figure out something different with the older kids.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:42
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
When I read the title of this thread and the ages of all the kids, I assumed you were coming on to ask if it was ok to take your stepchildren and not your 3 year old!
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:39
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:The time to act on "omigosh it will be too expensive to go on vacation with three kids!" was before you had a third kid with a man who already had two.
Typical naive, younger secind wife with no clue what she is getting into.
I bet this is all the ex-wife's fault, somehow. How dare she tell the children what their father is doing.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:36
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:The time to act on "omigosh it will be too expensive to go on vacation with three kids!" was before you had a third kid with a man who already had two.
+1. He should not have agreed to the baby if he is unwilling to compromise the standard of living for the entire family, including the new wife and baby.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:31
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
The time to act on "omigosh it will be too expensive to go on vacation with three kids!" was before you had a third kid with a man who already had two.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:30
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Would their bio-mom be will to help offset some of the costs of their trip? I agree that you should do everything you can to try to bring them.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:26
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP you don't have to bring the older kids. They have two families, your kid has one. You're allowed to vacation without them. They will get vacations with their mother without your child and that will be fair too.
Oh ok, so they just don't get vacations with their father. Your child gets vacations with both of his parents. Got it.
I'm saying they don't have to be included in ALL of the vacations. They get two sets so it's not like they get less.
They are already not included in some of the vacations. And we don't know if the mom takes them anywhere.
A father should not treat some of his children better than others. They have already suffered a divorce. This is just rubbing it in their faces that their father is happy with his new family and does not want them on his vacation.
It's not treating one set of children better, its allowing them to forge memories too. You have together trips and a few that aren't just like they will have with their maternal family and whatever new family she creates.
that's not OP's problem though.
What if her new a-hole husband decides they can't afford to take her kids on trips with them and their new kids? You know, just like you're doing?
It is OP's problem if she cares about the kids and wants her son to have healthy sibling relationships.
OP, why can't you save up and go later? You don't want to, that's why. It isn't the family you wanted. Well guess what, nobody here is getting the family they wanted! The difference is, you had a choice and the children did not. So suck it up.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:24
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:Treat the big kids as you would want your husband's next wife to treat yours
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:19
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP you don't have to bring the older kids. They have two families, your kid has one. You're allowed to vacation without them. They will get vacations with their mother without your child and that will be fair too.
Oh ok, so they just don't get vacations with their father. Your child gets vacations with both of his parents. Got it.
I'm saying they don't have to be included in ALL of the vacations. They get two sets so it's not like they get less.
They are already not included in some of the vacations. And we don't know if the mom takes them anywhere.
A father should not treat some of his children better than others. They have already suffered a divorce. This is just rubbing it in their faces that their father is happy with his new family and does not want them on his vacation.
It's not treating one set of children better, its allowing them to forge memories too. You have together trips and a few that aren't just like they will have with their maternal family and whatever new family she creates.
that's not OP's problem though.
What if her new a-hole husband decides they can't afford to take her kids on trips with them and their new kids? You know, just like you're doing?
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:12
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Your mistake was telling the other kids and the ex wife your plan. What you needed to do to pull this off was plan it and go during the week when you don't have the other kids.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:06
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
That really sucks, OP. This is absolutely not okay. The kids are young enough to enjoy Disney and it's cruel of you to exclude them.
You don't HAVE to get a second room with the older kids. We were a family of five growing up. My parents never got an extra room. I get that it's more comfortable, but I'd rather sacrifice comfort and be more inclusive then be mean and self-centered and exclude children from a children's trip.
You don't HAVE to get a second room with the older kids. We were a family of five growing up. My parents never got an extra room. I get that it's more comfortable, but I'd rather sacrifice comfort and be more inclusive then be mean and self-centered and exclude children from a children's trip.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:02
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:Treat the big kids as you would want your husband's next wife to treat yours
EXACTLY.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 15:01
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Omg as a stepchild, NO THIS IS NOT OK. I truly can't believe your DH would be ok with this. You sound like awful parents.
Please don't do this to your stepchildren who are old enough to feel rejection (and rightfully would feel that way in this case).
This is truly disgusting. My heart breaks for them and ex wife.
Please don't do this to your stepchildren who are old enough to feel rejection (and rightfully would feel that way in this case).
This is truly disgusting. My heart breaks for them and ex wife.
Anonymous
07/28/2017 14:49
Subject: Ok to vacation without all the kids?
Anonymous wrote:Yes it's fine!! Go on a week when the older kids are with the other parent.
It's not fine, and you may come to regret it, but if you must do this at least make sure your DH isn't missing anything important to his children while he is gone.