Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Because education is free in my home country and I have been a TA for my masters and PhD programs. It's absurd how much Americans pay for college and education here.
Oh...OP did his PHD at a non-US school. This makes more sense now....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
How do you have no students loans?
Surely there are other statistics jobs in FL? Why aren't you applying for them?
By the way, do you have any job offers at all beside SF and FL?
Because education is free in my home country and I have been a TA for my masters and PhD programs. It's absurd how much Americans pay for college and education here.
Oh...OP did his PHD at a non-US school. This makes more sense now....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You and your girlfriend sound like a total train wreck honestly.
She's applying for jobs on your behalf????
You have perhaps the most marketable phd degree yet you have to ask dcum of all places for career advice????
You thought it was a good life choice to reproduce with someone you don't love enough to marry???
I hope you all get your shit together and grow the f up soon cause damn
You sound like the crazy one here. This is a forum for job advice. That's why I am here. I am also not from the US originally, so things can be confusing for me. You need to calm down. I'm not sure what your problem is. My personal life has nothing to do with this. In my country, it's fine to have children without being married. Maybe you could travel to Europe and enlighten yourself a little.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
How do you have no students loans?
Surely there are other statistics jobs in FL? Why aren't you applying for them?
By the way, do you have any job offers at all beside SF and FL?
Because education is free in my home country and I have been a TA for my masters and PhD programs. It's absurd how much Americans pay for college and education here.
I meant to write health insurance. Health insurance is a huge expense for us right now. I got into the program and it was shocking how much insurance is and it doesn't cover much. 5k is a lot for a grad student. My university makes it mandatory for PhD students.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
How do you have no students loans?
Surely there are other statistics jobs in FL? Why aren't you applying for them?
By the way, do you have any job offers at all beside SF and FL?
Because education is free in my home country and I have been a TA for my masters and PhD programs. It's absurd how much Americans pay for college and education here.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
PhD programs and academia can be extremely disruptive to couples lives. I harbored a lot of resentment towards my husband when we were going through this years ago.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
How do you have no students loans?
Surely there are other statistics jobs in FL? Why aren't you applying for them?
By the way, do you have any job offers at all beside SF and FL?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised someone with that much education thinks 150k in the bay area is worth taking. People with BA degrees get job offers for that much in CA. They are both lowballing you. You will be miserable on 150k in cali.
TBH I’d say no to both of them and keep looking.
Anonymous wrote:Why can't you get a job with at least a Masters level degree?
I guess the tradeoff of a PhD program is you lose out with tons of student loans and zero real-life work/office/business experience.[/quote
My girlfriend got an offer in Florida and she's pressuring me to take this job. We don't have any student loans. She has had to make big sacrifices in her career to make our relationship work for the past 7 years. We're both at our breaking points. I don't want to take this job but I also don't want my relationship to fall apart.
Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised someone with that much education thinks 150k in the bay area is worth taking. People with BA degrees get job offers for that much in CA. They are both lowballing you. You will be miserable on 150k in cali.
TBH I’d say no to both of them and keep looking.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:STAY AWAY FROM CA!
I work for an IT company based in Palo Alto. They opened a Reston, VA office. The second I got a chance, I got a transfer and I moved my ass as fast as possible out of the bay area. Despite making 240K/yr is was impossible to raise a family comfortably. Everything is expensive, housing, childcare., TAXES, everything! It is so hard to get ahead. Many people were clamoring to head East. Yea, much of CA looks like paradise, but there is an undercurrent of hell, like running on a financial hamster wheel and getting nowhere.
I LOVE living in Reston. I'm 10min from my job (and sometimes even bike there!), my kids go to a great public school, we are saving, we have a nice home, we are not suffocated by congestion, and our lifestyle is so much healthier.
I'd move back to the bay area for no less than 500k/yr. That kind of COL was a terrible way to try to raise kids.
OP here: I have heard this from a few of my IT friends who took jobs in CA after grad school. Many of them didn't have a choice because they are not citizens. It's funny you love Reston because my family lives there. It feels congested compared to where we live now.
Anonymous wrote:You and your girlfriend sound like a total train wreck honestly.
She's applying for jobs on your behalf????
You have perhaps the most marketable phd degree yet you have to ask dcum of all places for career advice????
You thought it was a good life choice to reproduce with someone you don't love enough to marry???
I hope you all get your shit together and grow the f up soon cause damn