It can only get better if you allow yourself time, through this process, of getting to know you. And it is a process. Divorce because of infidelity is never easy and you will have your moments especially now that the kids are spending time with there dad apart from you. Seek some counsel for this time that your in, so you can get healthy emotionally and physically, its all going to be worth it. This will also help you gain some clarity on why things are the way they are and how you got to this place. Because no one gets married just to get a divorce, no one does. But people make choices and those are the things you need to be aware of. So now is the time to make some healthy choices for yourself and let your children see you taking care of you in spite of your current circumstances. Your worth it. Get to know you. This is not the end. God bless you and your family.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound unstable and possibly are a danger to your children.

If I were your XH, I'd seek full custody, arguing you might do something crazy.

You are an ass. OP seems unstable because she misses her kids??? Yes, her cheating husband who blew up his family should get full custody for sure.

You women are funny. A judge could give two shits about alleged adultery. The kids are the only concern. The marriage is done.

OP, It's best to be united with an ex when it comes to YOUR children. Inoculating your child with your own resentment will eventually backfire on you and them.

My kids spend their summers with their dad in another state 1,100 miles away from me. I enjoy my time and always have something interesting going on. I can sleep in, ride my motorcycle, read uninterrupted, do home repairs, paint rooms if I suddenly feel like a change....the possibilities are endless. We text often, and they occasionally call, but they're busy and so am I. The way I look at it is, my kids are not all mine. They are his, too, and I am not a selfish person. I don't own them. My ex-husband and I are great friends, partly because we've always been great friends, and partly because our kids come first. Why we divorced has no bearings on how we co-parent. Their feelings matter. They have a right to enjoy their time with their dad.

Not every parent gets the luxury of some kid-free time, trust me.

I sure didn't.

Consider yourself a bit blessed & make good use of your freedom.

Some ideas include:

• Deep cleaning/organizing your house.
(Most importantly the kid's rooms + closets!)

• Binge watch a new T.V. program uninterrupted.
Ask a friend for some good recommendations.

• Try out a brand-new recipe and if it comes out well, surprise your kids w/it one night soon!

• Get caught up on the never ending laundry.

• Suggest lunch + a movie w/an old friend.

• Get a facial or make a DIY one tonight @home.

• Browse a thrift store.
Perhaps you may find a valuable treasure there!

Good luck!
Enjoy your brief respite!

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Anonymous wrote:One wonders... if you're the cheater and you wind up divorced, are you sad on nights without the kids? Do you regret cheating? Did you ever think your cheating would lead to not seeing the kids half the time?

They don't care about that stuff. Cheaters are always very self centered

Yes, because if they were concerned about their kids, they would have been spending time with them instead of screwing the AP.