He posts on this thread for me. He does every I tell him to do.

He does everything I don't want to do...cheerfully.

I'm a pampered princess. Too much to list.

Calls me out on my bullshit.

Hahaaaa- you're hilarious!

The list would make you all think I'm lying so I won't bother. There is nothing he won't do to make me happy but I do for him too.

He cooks virtually all our meals, packs me lunch. Although I do a ton of housework and we divvy us chores roughly 60:40, me doing 60, I still feel cared for. His personality is sweet.

I would just look like an idiot braggart if I listed it all but mine is theeeeeee best. I think he's upstairs folding laundry right now so I don't have to. The other night I was taking a bath and he popped his head in: "Feel like a warm housecoat? Just came out of the dryer." I laughed.

Nothing. I pretty much take care of all of us. He's a great father though and that is most important to me. I had a sucky father and wanted the exact opposite for my kids.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way....it is a lonely feeling. Early in my marriage, it became very apparent to me that my husband and I do not show each other love in the same way. Have you ever read/learned/heard about the 5 Love Languages? It is so great to learn about an individual and what makes them feel cared for/loved. Here is a link to an intro to it....maybe check it out? http://bit.ly/2pfNQFp. I wish you well....maybe get the book and read together?

He complains a lot that he does more than me, which I don't believe to be true household-wise as I am the default parent. But moody as he is, he does do a lot and I would be remiss to not acknowledge that he does take care of me in many ways.
Handles all finances
Sometimes makes me coffee
Sometimes preps dinner
Makes sure I finish first
Tells me he loves me every day
Makes me and our family his top priority
Makes sure we have date nights
Stands up for me (live-in MIL)
Believes in me more than I believe in myself

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Our sex life is nonexistent right now. This is not unrelated. There is nothing sexy about a man who doesn't take care of you.

You realize there's a catch-22 there, right?

You don't want to have sex with him because he's not taking care of you. He doesn't want to take care of you because you're not having sex with him.

If a woman is affectionate and responds enthusiastically to a man's sexual advances, he will pay attention to her and cherish her.

If a woman is cold and rejects sex, he has no reason to pay attention to her or take care of her.

It doesn't work that way in our marriage.

Stop having sex with him and see how long he keeps paying attention to you and taking care of you then.

Do you want to answer the original question, or do you just want to address topics of your own?

The original question included the remark that her sex life was non-existent because her man didn't take care of her, so this response is directly on topic.

So much!

- Pays the bills, groceries, major expenses
-Takes me on one nice trip a year
- Cooks us dinner most nights unless he has a particularly difficult day at work or comes home very late
- Thoroughly cleans the bathroom every weekend
- Rubs my feet with lotion every night
- Wakes me up every morning with kisses/sex and coffee
- Does laundry most of the time

He tends to wake up earlier than me, and doesn't need to do much to get ready for work, besides putting on pants, so nine times out of ten he'll get the kids dressed and fed in the mornings. He's also taken over bathtime, because I find it frustrating. This makes me cared for, because he does it for me just as much as for them.

In general, he is very present and involved in daily life/chores, cares about his family, cares about the future (including finances), puts up with my crazy family.

He stocks up on my favorite wine when it's on sale, dvr's my favorite shows when I'm traveling and brings me coffee before I get out of bed in the morning.