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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

Very sorry to hear what your daughter is going through. I agree that the college game has gotten unhealthy but in my experience it is almost always the parents that set the tone through this process. Sure, the schools and classmates influence how your child deals with the process but as parents if you get on the same page and set the right values and perspective at the outset your child will be far more balanced, sane and happy about the outcome.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

My DW definitely. And it has been horrible. I have been the counterweight. DD broke down this weekend after Mom pulled her "tiger" sh*t on her and said that Mom is never happy with anything I do. My grandmother did this to my mother!

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

My best friend's 2 teenage girls dropped out of their beloved sports to keep up academically with their AP courses. They are always stressed and my friend now has anxiety for her girls. She doesn't push them, but they push themselves to compete with the other kids. Neither of us finds it healthy, we had a much nicer and less stressful time in high school and we both did fine. Per my friend's request, my husband had a talk with them. He told them it is admirable that they are so dedicated to their studies, but that a healthy mind and body are also important. My husband is extremely successful and he went to Mason! He feels sports have always been key to helping him be the person he is now. I find it so sad that kids are this stressed. Geez.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

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Anonymous wrote:Listen carefully at the next Christmas cocktail party - the more expensive and exclusive the school, the bigger the gasps and backslaps. Tell somebody your kid - no matter how brilliant or accomplished- is at a state school like George Mason or or VCU and the body language is completely different. Yet if a kid from Jersey got into JMU it would be seen as a huge accomplishment. I guess the moral is the grass is always greener, but these sort of attitudes just add to the madness and pressure.

No, the moral of the story is you're going to the wrong Christmas parties

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

Wow! Perfect child! She'd fit right in at Ivy's! Then she'll realize...muahahahaha

She is not perfect, but she is very sweet and down to earth. She is very mature, loves to travel around the world and knows very well that there is a life outside the college.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

Wow! Perfect child! She'd fit right in at Ivy's! Then she'll realize...muahahahaha

She is not perfect, but she is very sweet and down to earth. She is very mature, loves to travel around the world and knows very well that there is a life outside the college.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

Wow! Perfect child! She'd fit right in at Ivy's! Then she'll realize...muahahahaha

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

Since when is there a Algebra AP?

Which Physics AP? There are several.

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Since when is there a Algebra AP?

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter has ended up with serious physical illness due to all the pressure at her school and among her peers to get into what is perceived as the "right" school. Her college applications are done and she has chosen a university - not her first or second choice - but one with a highly ranked program in her major and significant financial aid. Despite this, she keeps doubting herself. My wife and I have told her to stop worrying ( something I was surprised to hear my DW say, since she is IMHO an overbearing parent and only I moderate her influence on DD) and to gratefully accept what she has received. My DD is now seeing a therapist because of all the anxiety this has created, and she is on serious medications for what could be a lifelong chronic illness caused by all the anxiety. All this needs to stop! We are not helping are kids by demanding they be perfect! If having a happy, healthy daughter with a C average means having a happy, healthy daughter, I will take that over the A+ with the perfect mix of ECs and the Ivy admittance!

I am a big fan of Julie Lythcott - Haims, formerly a Dean of Admissions at Stanford, noted author of "How to Raise an Adult" and the host of the "Getting In" podcast. The purpose of raising out kids is to raise them to be happy , successful adults, and, contrary to some popular opinions on these boards, happy and successful adults do come out other universities and colleges other than the very small number of them who reject the majority of their applicants yet which many parents seem to focus all their attention as the key to good and happy life.

https://www.ted.com/talks/julie_lythcott_haims_how_to_raise_successful_kids_without_over_parenting

But you have to realize that over all these years of her school career starting back in K, that you created and sustained the atmosphere and pressure.

I would say hindsight is 20/20 but you seem pretty educated so I would guess you knew all along that this could happen to your child, you just kept believing it would not.

I am curious to hear from the OP too. I don't believe that the child who was raised with a strong moral values and character will bend under the peer pressure. I also have kids in FCPS and I don't believe that school can put any pressure. It is just a flows of the character of the child who broke down with the slightest pressure.

OP, can you honestly says that neither you or your wife were pressuring her for years (maybe indirectly, like admiring someone who got to Yale or something like that)?

How old are your kids, pp? My kids definitely sense pressure in FCPS.

I have one junior in HS, others still younger. Junior was able to maintain all As without any pressure (we never asked them for grades and never checking homework after the 3rd grade). She is taking all hard APs (Physics, Chemistry, Algebra, Biology, etc.) and getting all As in them too. She is totally not stressed about college application, refused to go to SAT study program, took first SAT in January and got above 1500 without any preparation. She does sports, so maybe this is takes a pressure off.

Since when is there a Algebra AP?