Anonymous wrote:NP. I've got one of those moms. Put your foot down OP, and tell her the ride is over, get off. She wears what you tell her is acceptable or she is not welcome at your wedding!. You will need to repeat that often after the marriage. You must be very firmly clear with hubby to be that you must always present a United front or she will use the divide and conquer method to control the marriage. This is where her control stops, or she isn't welcome. Get used to putting your foot down now.

Your poor mother and MIL.

Both my mom and MIL wore similar colors as the bridesmaids (their own choosing). It was fine! No big deal. I understand that you just have a history with your mom, and that everything seems just that much more important when it comes to a wedding, but this is not something to get yourself worked up over.

I'm assuming that the bridesmaids are wearing coral, you are wearing white, the groom and groomsmen are wearing gray.

Why should the mother of the bride wear gray? I think cream or coral would be perfectly fine.

The more time spent obsessing over the wedding, the shorter the marriage. Same traits lead to both.

Anonymous wrote:Do people really spend time obsessing over what their parents wear to their wedding? I can't fathom this.

+1.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time, but I wouldn't waste emotional energy on her dress. No one's going to mistake her for the bride!

+1

I asked my MIL to wear a pastel, any color. She wore a bright pattern. Oh well! It was annoying at the time but it really didn't make a difference. And I have so many other problems with her that wearing the wrong dress was not an issue worth caring about.

My bridesmaids and both mother/MIL happened to wear shades of green. It looks fine in photos. The mom's looked beautiful. Not a hill to die on.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, well I definitely gave her a reaction unfortunately. I wasn't rude, but she's not calling or emailing me back.

Also, mother of the brides are supposed to complement the bride and bridesmaids, not match. It's the standard etiquette.

Sorry, op. There's absolutely no "standard etiquette" that supports anyone telling another person what to wear. Preferences, possibly, but demanding - no.

Omarosa's mom wore off white

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I've got one of those moms. Put your foot down OP, and tell her the ride is over, get off. She wears what you tell her is acceptable or she is not welcome at your wedding!. You will need to repeat that often after the marriage. You must be very firmly clear with hubby to be that you must always present a United front or she will use the divide and conquer method to control the marriage. This is where her control stops, or she isn't welcome. Get used to putting your foot down now.

Wow! I cannot imagine being told what I had to wear or else unless I was in the military or flipping burgers. Really? Who thinks this is rational, let alone acceptable behavior??

Yes. This is insane. You don't get to tell people what they wear to your wedding, maybe bridesmaids accepted because that's traditional, but frankly, most folks I know just ask the bridesmaids to get something in a matching color.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry she's giving you a hard time, but I wouldn't waste emotional energy on her dress. No one's going to mistake her for the bride!

This. Don't give it another thought.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I've got one of those moms. Put your foot down OP, and tell her the ride is over, get off. She wears what you tell her is acceptable or she is not welcome at your wedding!. You will need to repeat that often after the marriage. You must be very firmly clear with hubby to be that you must always present a United front or she will use the divide and conquer method to control the marriage. This is where her control stops, or she isn't welcome. Get used to putting your foot down now.

Wow! I cannot imagine being told what I had to wear or else unless I was in the military or flipping burgers. Really? Who thinks this is rational, let alone acceptable behavior??

Someone who refers to her spouse as "hubby."

Anonymous wrote:NP. I've got one of those moms. Put your foot down OP, and tell her the ride is over, get off. She wears what you tell her is acceptable or she is not welcome at your wedding!. You will need to repeat that often after the marriage. You must be very firmly clear with hubby to be that you must always present a United front or she will use the divide and conquer method to control the marriage. This is where her control stops, or she isn't welcome. Get used to putting your foot down now.

Wow! I cannot imagine being told what I had to wear or else unless I was in the military or flipping burgers. Really? Who thinks this is rational, let alone acceptable behavior??

NP. I've got one of those moms. Put your foot down OP, and tell her the ride is over, get off. She wears what you tell her is acceptable or she is not welcome at your wedding!. You will need to repeat that often after the marriage. You must be very firmly clear with hubby to be that you must always present a United front or she will use the divide and conquer method to control the marriage. This is where her control stops, or she isn't welcome. Get used to putting your foot down now.

My mom wore a cream colored dress to my wedding. It just happened to be a fit and style she really liked. She checked with me first and it did not bother me. She looked really beautiful and no one batted an eye, as far as I could tell.

One thing to think about, OP. There's a lot of pressure for everything to be just perfect on your wedding day. Looking back after 20 years, I can say that a lot of those little details don't stick out to me anymore. We had a great day surrounded by family and friends, and that's what I remember.