Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 11:40     Subject: Re:MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
I am a parent of an RM student. I have not gotten an email or a call about this incident, which I find unacceptable. I know they have my email- its on the forms I submit ever year (DC is a junior). I read that other parents have heard something about the incident from the school, which indicates to me that there is poor management. No one is answering the RM office phone today. I wonder what else I have missed.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 08:34     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a parent who considers themselves attentive, I wonder how the girl hid it from her mom for so long. He picked her up at her house. Bought her expensive items. I wonder what I don't know..


Do you have a 17 year-old? Or are you an "attentive parent" to a young teen or an even younger child?



Actually I have a 16 year old RM student since you asked.


Being attentive with my 17 year old means answering her text demands ( I forgot x please bring it to me) and seeing her flee out the door as she is leaving.
Yours communicates with you? You ask her something and she doesn't say ' shut up'?
Do you monitor her phone?! You realize that he got her a separate phone to only communicate with him with right? He groomed her.


At least your kid says please! LOL.

Agree that this man was grooming her. Bought her UGG boots and a separate cell phone.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 08:25     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:The smarts to get into RMIB and the street smarts to stay clear of a guy like this are two totally different things. No kid or family is immune..especially the ones that think there is "no way"


Agree.

Was talking to a mom of college kids and she commented that she would find out much after the fact about stuff that went in with her kids and she was always astonished that she had no idea. She has good kids and luckily nothing terrible, but I can almost guarantee any parent that your teen has stuff going on that you have no idea about.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 07:44     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
The smarts to get into RMIB and the street smarts to stay clear of a guy like this are two totally different things. No kid or family is immune..especially the ones that think there is "no way"
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 07:38     Subject: Re:MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:These predators prey upon mainly troubled or shy students. They watch for weaknesses and can sense who is a potential victim.

My DD went through the RMIB program. There is no way that she or any student that she knew would have been so gullible to go with any teacher or staff to a hotel room.


It might make you feel better to think that, but there is no way that any student is safe.

This man bought the girl a phone. My DD is only in MS but I have refused to buy her a smartphone. I could see a someone like this jerk exploiting that and offering to provide a phone or something. It's pretty scary, IMO.

I don't think any teen communicated everything to the parent. And all of our kids are not smart enough to be in RMIB so there's always that issue.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 07:15     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a parent who considers themselves attentive, I wonder how the girl hid it from her mom for so long. He picked her up at her house. Bought her expensive items. I wonder what I don't know..

Absentee parenting is rampant in rich Montgomery County, and those who try to keep up with them.


Stop. Just stop. This is victim-blaming and the fact that you are blaming the parent of the victim and not the victim directly makes it no better.

Blaming poor parenting makes you feel better because, of course, you think you are such a good parent neither you nor your child would ever be victimized like this. That is a delusion of control that doesn't exist in life. For your sake, I am compassionate enough to hope that you never receive a rude and painful awakening from that delusion.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 05:03     Subject: Re:MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:These predators prey upon mainly troubled or shy students. They watch for weaknesses and can sense who is a potential victim.

My DD went through the RMIB program. There is no way that she or any student that she knew would have been so gullible to go with any teacher or staff to a hotel room.


Thank God she had you for a parent.

if only we could clone you, PP . . .
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2017 00:41     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a parent who considers themselves attentive, I wonder how the girl hid it from her mom for so long. He picked her up at her house. Bought her expensive items. I wonder what I don't know..


Do you have a 17 year-old? Or are you an "attentive parent" to a young teen or an even younger child?



Actually I have a 16 year old RM student since you asked.


Being attentive with my 17 year old means answering her text demands ( I forgot x please bring it to me) and seeing her flee out the door as she is leaving.
Yours communicates with you? You ask her something and she doesn't say ' shut up'?
Do you monitor her phone?! You realize that he got her a separate phone to only communicate with him with right? He groomed her.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 23:33     Subject: Re:MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:These predators prey upon mainly troubled or shy students. They watch for weaknesses and can sense who is a potential victim.

My DD went through the RMIB program. There is no way that she or any student that she knew would have been so gullible to go with any teacher or staff to a hotel room.




Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 21:13     Subject: Re:MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
These predators prey upon mainly troubled or shy students. They watch for weaknesses and can sense who is a potential victim.

My DD went through the RMIB program. There is no way that she or any student that she knew would have been so gullible to go with any teacher or staff to a hotel room.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 21:12     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You think they purposely hired a guy that they thought would prey on students? I think they may have sloppy hiring practices but do not believe it was purposeful. Her family didn't know but the school did?


He was giving her gifts AT school. Did nobody see that? He was taking pictures with her. I have a hard time believing that nobody there knew anything. Or that nobody saw anything suspicious.


+1. At least one other student knew about it!

This is what MCPS needs to do -
1) Retroactively do a background check for all employees to find out prior sex offence.
2) Educate the kids to understand what an inappropriate relationship with an MCPS employee looks like and how to put an end to it.
3) More yearly training for MCPS staff about what is an inappropriate relationship with a student, and let parents be privy to what this training is.
4) Also, teach teachers and staff to protect themselves from false accusations by students. Make sure that the places in the school that they meet with students on a one-on-one basis is covered by CCTV.


Those sound like excellent suggestions! Email the BOE.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 21:10     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You think they purposely hired a guy that they thought would prey on students? I think they may have sloppy hiring practices but do not believe it was purposeful. Her family didn't know but the school did?


He was giving her gifts AT school. Did nobody see that? He was taking pictures with her. I have a hard time believing that nobody there knew anything. Or that nobody saw anything suspicious.


+1. At least one other student knew about it!

This is what MCPS needs to do -
1) Retroactively do a background check for all employees to find out prior sex offence.
2) Educate the kids to understand what an inappropriate relationship with an MCPS employee looks like and how to put an end to it.
3) More yearly training for MCPS staff about what is an inappropriate relationship with a student, and let parents be privy to what this training is.
4) Also, teach teachers and staff to protect themselves from false accusations by students. Make sure that the places in the school that they meet with students on a one-on-one basis is covered by CCTV.


They need to do yearly background checks on everyone who has access to the schools.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 21:09     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You think they purposely hired a guy that they thought would prey on students? I think they may have sloppy hiring practices but do not believe it was purposeful. Her family didn't know but the school did?


He was giving her gifts AT school. Did nobody see that? He was taking pictures with her. I have a hard time believing that nobody there knew anything. Or that nobody saw anything suspicious.


+1. At least one other student knew about it!

This is what MCPS needs to do -
1) Retroactively do a background check for all employees to find out prior sex offence.
2) Educate the kids to understand what an inappropriate relationship with an MCPS employee looks like and how to put an end to it.
3) More yearly training for MCPS staff about what is an inappropriate relationship with a student, and let parents be privy to what this training is.
4) Also, teach teachers and staff to protect themselves from false accusations by students. Make sure that the places in the school that they meet with students on a one-on-one basis is covered by CCTV.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 20:46     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:You think they purposely hired a guy that they thought would prey on students? I think they may have sloppy hiring practices but do not believe it was purposeful. Her family didn't know but the school did?


He was giving her gifts AT school. Did nobody see that? He was taking pictures with her. I have a hard time believing that nobody there knew anything. Or that nobody saw anything suspicious.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2017 20:16     Subject: MCPS Security Team Leader at RM charges with Sex Offense
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You think they purposely hired a guy that they thought would prey on students? I think they may have sloppy hiring practices but do not believe it was purposeful. Her family didn't know but the school did?

You really think no one at the school suspected what was going on?


This is RM. They had Scott Spear.