Anonymous
04/06/2017 17:25
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
OP, it's a bit odd, might be fueled by a comfort level with a couple/three drinks in her and your husband had his pants on. Lighten up Francis.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 16:04
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:OP here
We've seen her as a provider, probably shouldn't have. But she's never been my DHs bosses?. She isn't a medical doctor, or psych. So no personal info during visits. We see her because she is convenient and she doesn't charge us anything she just bills insurance. She also sees a lot of people from the department/hospital
DH rode home with some people from his department. No one said anything then.
Huh? Your OP said she was one of the doctors. What do you see her for if not medical or mental health?
Anonymous
04/06/2017 15:48
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:Prediction:
This is the end of transparency for the OP's husband because after this never-ending browbeating he's never going to divulge the full details of anything that happens ever again.
Haha my Husband didn't get a browbeating. Ffs.
I didn't even bring it up , he brought it up immediately and I just let him share. He asked what I would have done. I said it's hard to say I might have frozen too but I think just excusing yourself and offering her your seat would have looked a lot better and made me more comfortable. that was it. We've moved on. He's embarrassed, I'm embarrassed for him. He thought everyone at work would bring it up today. I'm sure if they did be will want to talk about again tonight. And I will let him
Anonymous
04/06/2017 14:38
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Prediction:
This is the end of transparency for the OP's husband because after this never-ending browbeating he's never going to divulge the full details of anything that happens ever again.
This is the end of transparency for the OP's husband because after this never-ending browbeating he's never going to divulge the full details of anything that happens ever again.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 14:37
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The boundaries are already blurred here. You and DH shouldn't be seeing DH's colleague as a provider. A provider shouldn't be climbing into DH's lap, sober or drunk.
+1000
But it happens more than you think.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 14:08
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of a birthday dinner at a friend's house. The birthday guy sat next to a female friend, put his left hand on her friend's intimate front part but she was not moving at all.
The birthday guy's girlfriend was chatting with someone else.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 14:08
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
This remind me of a birthday dinner at a friend's house. The birthday guy sat next to a female friend, put his left hand on her friend's intimate front part but she was not moving at all.
The birthday guy's girlfriend was chatting with someone else.
The birthday guy's girlfriend was chatting with someone else.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 13:49
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
I would not have said anything if I was your DH, but I never thought of the social media side of it until someone mentioned it. I just know how my DW reacts when someone flirts with me. It always ends up being my fault somehow so now I just keep it to myself
Anonymous
04/06/2017 13:26
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Its sexual harrasment. Your DH was likely in shock, hence not knowing what to do. Good that he reached out to you asap. Support him in how HE wants to handle this. But he needs to realize what it was.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 12:57
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
OP here
We've seen her as a provider, probably shouldn't have. But she's never been my DHs bosses?. She isn't a medical doctor, or psych. So no personal info during visits. We see her because she is convenient and she doesn't charge us anything she just bills insurance. She also sees a lot of people from the department/hospital
DH rode home with some people from his department. No one said anything then.
We've seen her as a provider, probably shouldn't have. But she's never been my DHs bosses?. She isn't a medical doctor, or psych. So no personal info during visits. We see her because she is convenient and she doesn't charge us anything she just bills insurance. She also sees a lot of people from the department/hospital
DH rode home with some people from his department. No one said anything then.
FTP
04/06/2017 12:20
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Weird to the point that everyone is talking about it.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 12:14
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The boundaries are already blurred here. You and DH shouldn't be seeing DH's colleague as a provider. A provider shouldn't be climbing into DH's lap, sober or drunk.
+1000
Yep. The whole situation and relationship is weird.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 12:10
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
Anonymous wrote:The boundaries are already blurred here. You and DH shouldn't be seeing DH's colleague as a provider. A provider shouldn't be climbing into DH's lap, sober or drunk.
+1000
Anonymous
04/06/2017 10:32
Subject: Re:Another woman sat on my DHs lap
OP. I am a health care worker and I have seen a similar situation. A nurse got a picture of herself sitting on a doctor's lap. Then stuck it up in the OR. Then some of the (older wiser) women on staff pulled him aside and told him that we found it to be a bit much. He is a good guy and much younger than that nurse. He is not a cheater. But we did tell him how it could be received.
We also commented on how we need to stop using the term "work wife" and "work husband". I wouldn't want to know that someone is being called my husbands work wife.
Overall, in hospitals the culture leads to some questionable stuff that outsiders would view as down right out of line. In some cases, adulterous affairs have stemmed from these relationships.
Op, my advice. Clearly calmly tell your husband that you think it out if line. Then end it.
We also commented on how we need to stop using the term "work wife" and "work husband". I wouldn't want to know that someone is being called my husbands work wife.
Overall, in hospitals the culture leads to some questionable stuff that outsiders would view as down right out of line. In some cases, adulterous affairs have stemmed from these relationships.
Op, my advice. Clearly calmly tell your husband that you think it out if line. Then end it.
Anonymous
04/06/2017 10:26
Subject: Another woman sat on my DHs lap
My Dh would have been a dumbass about it too. He's just very polite and wouldn't have wanted to make a scene.
I think people who know your husband won't blame him or think he's complicit. He probably looked uncomfortable.
The woman made a fool of herself.
I think people who know your husband won't blame him or think he's complicit. He probably looked uncomfortable.
The woman made a fool of herself.