Anonymous wrote:We don't drink. No to dining, why would he do that?

Omg, what *are* your vices? Or are you really just as dull as ditchwater?

We don't drink. No to dining, why would he do that?

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle these situations in your marriage? Would it make you uncomfortable? If you're not irrationally jealous, does your husband respect your feelings?

I don't mind at all. DH sometimes goes out with women that are his friends and not mine - I like them well enough but don't particularly want to hang out with them. But I've never been the jealous type, one of the reasons he married me.

My DH is very social and like to go to parties/fundraisers. Me, not so much so if he can take someone in my place that's fine with me.

His female friends are all attractive, accomplished and very well educated (and so am I) but he chose to marry me not any of them so.... DH and I have been together for nearly 30 yrs so this works for us.

In a group of colleagues for a work dinner, sure. One-on-one, it would depend. I can see scenarios where it would be ok, but generally I wouldn't love it, if I'm honest.

So question for the people who are saying their husband can do anything with any woman at any hour of the day, at any level of intoxication, and you know he won't cheat- how often do you and your husband have sex?

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman who works in a male-dominated field. I have had many solo dinners and lunches with male co-workers and cheating did not cross my mind.

I have also gone out to happy hour with colleagues, or sometimes grabbed a drink after a conference. At times, I have been the only woman in the group because I work in the sciences. It has never been a big deal and is typically the way one networks.

Anonymous wrote:In this thread: Women saying of course their husband can have solo drinks with/hang out in hotel rooms with/perform amateur pap smears on other women, he'd NEVER cheat!

In every other thread: Men saying that their wives don't put out enough and they're itching to cheat, if they haven't already.

Have you considered that maybe those women aren't married to those men?

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Anonymous wrote:If someone wants to cheat, they will find a way. You are extremely naive if you think saying no dinners with the opposite sex will prevent cheating.

And you are stupid if you think this means it is wise to put your spouse in situations that facilitate cheating.

Your partner is either a trustworthy person or they are not. You either trust your partner or you don't.

If eating dinner with a member of opposite sex will cause your partner to cheat, you have bigger problems.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you handle these situations in your marriage? Would it make you uncomfortable? If you're not irrationally jealous, does your husband respect your feelings?

I appreciate the question, Mrs. Pence, but it doesn't bother me.

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In this thread: Women saying of course their husband can have solo drinks with/hang out in hotel rooms with/perform amateur pap smears on other women, he'd NEVER cheat!

In every other thread: Men saying that their wives don't put out enough and they're itching to cheat, if they haven't already.

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Anonymous wrote:People like this are batshit insane. If you can't trust your spouse, then why exactly are you married to that person???

Your spouse went out drinking and is now alone in a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex.

But you're OK with that, because you trust them, right?

And you trust the other person just as much as your spouse. Right?

Yes. Two people can be in a hotel room with nothing happening. I'm sorry your marriage is so weak.

Uh huh. I'm sorry you're so full of shit. You'd go ballistic if your spouse was alone in a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex.

I've been on work trips and he's had female friends over to the house for dinner. He told me they were coming, I was fine with it. He's a man of integrity and self-control. Again, I'm sorry you and your spouse are unable to behave yourselves sexually when the other one's not around. That sounds like a difficult way to live.

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Anonymous wrote:If someone wants to cheat, they will find a way. You are extremely naive if you think saying no dinners with the opposite sex will prevent cheating.

And you are stupid if you think this means it is wise to put your spouse in situations that facilitate cheating.

Your partner is either a trustworthy person or they are not. You either trust your partner or you don't.

If eating dinner with a member of opposite sex will cause your partner to cheat, you have bigger problems.

My AP's wife told him he couldn't go to dinner with me when we traveled on business. So we would just order in room service.

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Anonymous wrote:People like this are batshit insane. If you can't trust your spouse, then why exactly are you married to that person???

Your spouse went out drinking and is now alone in a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex.

But you're OK with that, because you trust them, right?

And you trust the other person just as much as your spouse. Right?

Yes. Two people can be in a hotel room with nothing happening. I'm sorry your marriage is so weak.

Uh huh. I'm sorry you're so full of shit. You'd go ballistic if your spouse was alone in a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex.

Complete agree that PP is FOS. Right now at the office we are watching a married woman pursue a married man. So far he seems solid, but she is pretty relentless and sets herself up as a friend and confidant who cares.. Good thing his DW trusts his coworkers as much as him, to her dcum tell it. Nothing to worry about.