I am sorry about your childhood and how difficult your life was, even to the end. I couldn't make it up to you as your daughter, but I am raising my daughter the way I wish you had been. You really were loved so much. You were my safe place.

I'm sorry we had to be alienated, but I needed to survive your hate and criticism that made me suicidal. I love you

"Thank you for tolerating me all these years" and " I love you more than anything in the world"

Mom, I get it now that I had a teenager and a young adult. How did you deal with not just the horror of my moods but when you suddenly had an empty nest? I moved to college and never looked back, and now I know how hard that must have been for you.

I am so sorry you and Dad never met your granddaughter. I wish you had still been here.

To my father-I learned a lot from you. Some of it was by your actions and things you didn't do. I have spent my entire adult life and life as a parent to make sure I use those lessons. I will be there for my souse, I will be there for my kids. I will not put work before my family, I will not put another woman( en) before my wife. You taught me so much by those actions that all I need to do is not be like you and I will be what I always hoped you were. Those lessons are invaluable.

This thread is beautiful and awful.

"Mom, remember that time when I was 16 and I told you I came out of the store and the family car had been hit? Well, it didn't really happen that way..."

I was not brainwashed.

I love you. I miss you. It's OK that you weren't the perfect mom -- I'm not either. I know how hard you tried and much you gave up for us. Thanks for the stories you told me about your life when I was afraid -- they meant the world to me. I'm so grateful that the boys knew you -- they remember all the fun you had together. The baby turned out to be a beautiful girl -- she loves radishes, just like you. Know that I'm happy.

I am sorry I didn't truly appreciate what a great mother and woman you were until you were gone. I thought I did, but I didn't.

You played favorites your entire life and it became so much more apparent as I was older. I hate this and you for doing this- my kids are terrific and love you. I hate you- if I don't say thank you I am "put of the will"- my brother is living in your beachouse for free and they all are suddenly so nice to you..My brother was always so nasty to you his whole life- but now? All nice. I hate this- I get threats of getting cut off- meanwhile my shitty brother can smile an all is ok. F*** you for doing this to me. You have accomplished for the only sibling left that actually cared now doesn't thanks to you.