I'm pregnant and my husband won't do me. It's been over six months. He loses his erection if we try and have sex. I don't think he's ever been that sexually attracted to me anyway. Prepregnancy it was around once a week on a good week. But we have a great life together so maybe I'm okay with it? I'm going to give it another shot after I heal from childbirth and if it doesn't work ask for an open marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:That's nice OP won't cheat because he values his FRIENDSHIP not because he values his WIFE. Asshole.

He isn't having sex. That's a real marriage killer. I don't blame him for losing interest in his marriage

But it has been weeks. Please ... Some of us have gone months. Some even more than a year

Yeah, but if it's weeks, then nothing again for weeks so he's having sex like six times a year...the. That's pretty bad. If you haven't had sex for months or years that's on you. Leave or find a solution

NP DW. Why isn't it on the one who is withholding to find a solution to not living up to the most basic expectation of marriage? Presumably he signed up for monogamy, not celibacy.

Anonymous wrote:That's nice OP won't cheat because he values his FRIENDSHIP not because he values his WIFE. Asshole.

That's nice PP read a CONFESSION thread and decided to judge someone else's instead of posting her OWN. Pearl-clutcher.

In my long sexless stretches I often read erotica and then basically make love to my wife's pillow that is folded in half when she's not home. Hey, at least there's something going on in that bed. (I do wash the pillowcase afterward).

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Anonymous wrote:That's nice OP won't cheat because he values his FRIENDSHIP not because he values his WIFE. Asshole.

He isn't having sex. That's a real marriage killer. I don't blame him for losing interest in his marriage

But it has been weeks. Please ... Some of us have gone months. Some even more than a year

Yeah, but if it's weeks, then nothing again for weeks so he's having sex like six times a year...the. That's pretty bad. If you haven't had sex for months or years that's on you. Leave or find a solution

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Anonymous wrote:I masturbate more than any man on the planet.

Are you my long lost sister? I do it 2-3 times per day.

Are you two married? Not to each other.

Anonymous wrote:My confession is that I am pretty sure I could win an award for the most pathetic life. And I can't change any of it.

Define most pathetic...

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Anonymous wrote:I cheated, and will do so again when I see my affair partner later this month.

PM me!

How?

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Anonymous wrote:That's nice OP won't cheat because he values his FRIENDSHIP not because he values his WIFE. Asshole.

He isn't having sex. That's a real marriage killer. I don't blame him for losing interest in his marriage

But it has been weeks. Please ... Some of us have gone months. Some even more than a year

My confession is that I am pretty sure I could win an award for the most pathetic life. And I can't change any of it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been suicidal over DW's affair but can't imagine burdening my kids with that. So I live in agony and I know this is taking 10+ years off my life

Leave her. Life can be better. You can move forward. You don't deserve this pain, but you can put it in your past. Your kids want a happy, fulfilled dad. Not one who stays with a partner who hurt him and abused him.

I've been there brother, don't let it take you. Please seek help that was the only thing that cured me from the downward spiral. You can't get out of this by yourself there's no way, trust me. The one thing I realize when you reach this kind of state is that your wife really doesn't care about you. She may say that she does or try to placate you but in reality we made love you differently than you love them. If you do stuff really starts to get bad they're more likely to leave and leave you high and dry. There's a reason why women initiate over 80% of the divorces

Please go seek help, if you're in Northern Virginia, I have someone that you can talk to and I'll put his name out there if you're interested. He's not in my health plan and cost a lot of money out of pocket but it was the only thing that would cure me. As for your wife having an affair you need to MoveOn and the only way To do that is to realize your own self-worth. You don't need to be with someone who is showing you the ultimate the trail

My confrssion is that the misspelling of confrssion doesn't bother me at all. I think it's cute. I'm using it from now on.

Anonymous wrote:I have been suicidal over DW's affair but can't imagine burdening my kids with that. So I live in agony and I know this is taking 10+ years off my life

You should divorce if its causing you this much angst and start anew. Your kids are better off with a living, functional dad. And definitely seek therapy.

Anonymous wrote:I have been suicidal over DW's affair but can't imagine burdening my kids with that. So I live in agony and I know this is taking 10+ years off my life

Leave her. Life can be better. You can move forward. You don't deserve this pain, but you can put it in your past. Your kids want a happy, fulfilled dad. Not one who stays with a partner who hurt him and abused him.

Anonymous wrote:That's nice OP won't cheat because he values his FRIENDSHIP not because he values his WIFE. Asshole.

He isn't having sex. That's a real marriage killer. I don't blame him for losing interest in his marriage