Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

You kissed another woman. YOU DID STRAY.

To be technical, she kissed me, and I did not stop it right away. That was wrong, I know.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

Don't take that for granted, though. Maybe you guys need to get away -- just the two of you, no kids. But, I agree with another PP, you kissed the other woman, so it wasn't "nothing happened".

Could this perhaps be a trap set up by your wife to test your fidelity & see if you will do her dirty?

I am not being snarky here, it just sounds so staged to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

I had a one night stand with a man that I met at bar in Nashville. He told me his first name. The bartender told me his last name when he asked "Smith?" when handing back his card. Here's the diffference in what I did with that information versus what your interest did: I never looked him up, I never sent a message, I never did anything beyond that night. If you are going to cheat in your marriage, you do it as a no strings one night stand in a city far away where you won't cross paths or hear from them again.

Rationalize much?

You know the answer, she had no reason to nag you and you don't know this woman at all. Hence comparing her to your wife is pointless at so many levels. Are you nice to your wife? Probably not. Plus, she knew you are married and was clearly looking for a fling. How about comparing that intention to your wife? How can she be better/nicer if she is willing to sleep with a married man? And a stalker in addition? Is your reasoning impaired?

I bet this woman reads DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

Agree with others to try to improve your marriage. My husband is a huge baseball fan and I'm not but it was great to have a short getaway with the kids at their grandparents house. We watched several baseball games, went to tourist places, and yes had sex, and remembered what it was like to date and not have all of our day to day responsibilities. If you watch Modern Family I think there was an episode where Claire and Phil role play at a swanky hotel where they try to pick the other up at the bar on their anniversary.

OP, your story sounds like a bad Lifetime movie. I must have watched too many of these lately, but, according to the genre, the rejected woman will fly off the handle and start harassing you at work, sitting outside your house at all hours, bumping into you anywhere you go and, finally, breaking into your home where she'll be stabbed to death with a kitchen knife by your wife after a fierce struggle.

Well, maybe not. I sure hope not.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

You kissed another woman. YOU DID STRAY.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

I had a one night stand with a man that I met at bar in Nashville. He told me his first name. The bartender told me his last name when he asked "Smith?" when handing back his card. Here's the diffference in what I did with that information versus what your interest did: I never looked him up, I never sent a message, I never did anything beyond that night. If you are going to cheat in your marriage, you do it as a no strings one night stand in a city far away where you won't cross paths or hear from them again.

Anonymous wrote:Block her! Do ypu know how to block someone?

Do you have kids? Granted I'm a bit paranoid but I would be worried someone like that would figure out where my kids went to school and start stalking them.

No way does a mentally healthy woman in her 40s look up someone who is married on FB. Crazy, thirsty, stalker.

eh, she didn't just "look up" the Op. She propositioned him, he said "no thanks" and then she proceeded to find him on Facebook and message him.

Looking someone up on Facebook is not crazy. It's the not taking "no" for an answer part that steps over the line. Disengage.

OP here. I also blocked her. I do not think I gave her my last name, but I might have in the initial introduction.

In 20 years of marriage, I have never strayed. And I do not intend to start now. There are issues in the marriage; DW and I are both at ages where bodies do not work as well as they used too. So libido is down for her.

But, the relationship is there, and we work well in a crisis.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.

Now we find out, by her reaction, if she is psycho or not....

Well if she knows his name and age range, she can find his address. He should not have messaged her as it provided attention. If this is even true, I see OP as Chevy Chase in National Lampoon's Vacation when he meets Christie Brinkley at the pool.

Block her! Do ypu know how to block someone?

Do you have kids? Granted I'm a bit paranoid but I would be worried someone like that would figure out where my kids went to school and start stalking them.

No way does a mentally healthy woman in her 40s look up someone who is married on FB. Crazy, thirsty, stalker.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I messaged her, telling her, this is not who I am. End of story.

Ugh. Don't message her again. "This is not who I am" makes you sound guilty as sin - like something more happened than really did happen. Just stop talking to her.