Anonymous
Post 04/01/2021 23:11     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
You can do one of those dna type tests. Or hair maybe?

My DS is biracial (I’m black and DH is white). DS is very fair. Like white people think he is white. But when his hair grows out he looks Hispanic or if you’re in the know biracial. Also one of my cousins is biracial and since he has gone bald with age doesn’t look black either. So you really can’t go by appearance.

Does your baby have hair already? Seems like a lot of white babies are blonde initially. My DH has dark brown hair and was blonde as an infant.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:52     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
The kid is 4 now, I’m guessing OP has figure it out.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:50     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to tell if your baby is mixed or white through ultrasound? Just curious


Uh...no.

????? LOL ... WTF ... some people are super ignorant ^^.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:47     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does your DD have any birthmarks? Like ones that looks blue-ish like a bruise? They are commonly referred to as Mongolian spots (old, non PC term) and are very, very common on black and biracial babies. They usually fade with age.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/picture-of-mongolian-spots



Black and mixed race black/white people aren't the only ones who get Mongolian spots- asians do too. I don't know if latinos get them as well, but I wouldn't be surprised.


https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3856299/#:~:text=Mongolian%20spots%20(MS)%20are%20congenital,African%20or%20Asian%20ethnic%20background.

On average, prevalence of MS [mongolian spot] is around ten percent in White infants, 50% in Hispanics and 90%-100% in Asians and Africans
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:43     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
DNA test or ask some black friends.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:33     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When your white daughter and her white husband have a black baby...


and he grows up to be one of the most popular presidents in decades...


But Barack's dad was black.
I meant one of those surprises when a black baby is born in a white family. I believe it happened to some people who "passed for whites" years ago...


A child of the passing couple in your hypothetic would never be darker than the darker parent. It's the hair and facial features that gave it away. This folktale was popular in the years following Reconstruction. Novels abounded with the grim story of a baby "as black as pitch" born to an ostensibly white couple. Doesn't happen.


This is not true. I’m mixed AA and it happens. It has happened in my family that babies were significantly darker than the darker parent.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:29     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:It is also possible that by the time your child starts getting older, seeing all sorts of "mixed" people won't be nearly as extraordinary as it used to be, and so it won't be as much of an issue. (My kids are Asian-white mixed, and I see so many kids like them around, sometimes in very interesting combinations.)

It just so happens that in my work today I came across the caution that you shouldn't test children's genetic makeup without their consent, unless there's a medical need to do so. As parents, you do have the right to make decisions on behalf of your child, but I thought you might like to know that this is in some ways a privacy issue and she might have liked to choose not to test.


+1 I got a DNA test and looked into these issues before I did it. It is risky to have your DNA out there if the company shares it in any way (I did not give permission for them to use it for research, though I know its still not 100% safe). It could impact life insurance applications at some point. Maybe in the future companies will use DNA to discriminate. As a parent doing it for your child I would look at these issues very carefully.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2021 09:24     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:Ok weighing in here, as a biracial adoptee who did not know they were biracial until later in life (with white parents). OP, I applaud you for thinking about this now at the early stage so you can prepare yourself with answers for your DD as they unfold over the years. And they will unfold over years as she gets older, has different life experiences, etc. I also applaud you for not hiding that her biological mother was an IV drug user.

PPs are right, maybe it will be super obvious and maybe it won't. I would recommend going down the DNA route, because as someone who is mixed (AA/White) but who is frequently mistaken for being Latina, Middle Eastern, or at times Italian trust me she will be asked CONSTANTLY where she is from---and no they do not want to know the DMV they want to know her racial make up. It is so uncomfortable to not know the answers to that. And as a PSA to the rest of DCUM don't freaking ask people who you deem "exotic" where they are from!! Its rude and its personal. When you are adopted it takes on a whole other meaning because you feel like you are always being asked to rehearse your life story to random strangers who just want to know why you are so tan.



I'm so sorry this happens to you. My DH, who is brown-skinned, gets this too. He was born here and I was not. But he is the one that gets asked where he's from. People suck.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 17:08     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:You could always do a test like 23 and me but beware. A client recently had her child tested and is not thrilled with the results (meaning she had hoped the father would be someone else). Now she had to worry about the father/family contacting her.

It doesn’t work like that. You can change the settings so that people can’t contact you.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 17:06     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:We recently adopted a sweet baby girl. Her mother is Caucasian and does not know who the father is. There is a chance that he may be black. We don't care at all what her race is, we are just wondering if there is a way to tell? She has light skin tone however we were told that it can take time for the pigmentation to change? Doespecially anyone else have any experience with this? How long does it take for the skin color to darken?
We are just curious. Thank you.


23 and me.

I have a lot of white appearing friends who learned as adults that they were part-Black or part-Native American. I also have friends who knew they had a dad who was a POC, but it turned out he was a different race than they had been told. 23andme revealed their ancestry.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 17:03     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:Does your DD have any birthmarks? Like ones that looks blue-ish like a bruise? They are commonly referred to as Mongolian spots (old, non PC term) and are very, very common on black and biracial babies. They usually fade with age.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/picture-of-mongolian-spots



Nah, my children all had them and we're white.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 16:52     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to tell if your baby is mixed or white through ultrasound? Just curious


Uh...no.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 16:50     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:So a woman can give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father? How is this not illegal?


Well a woman can get an abortion without a father's consent. If he was that great he would be involved and know.

Her body. Her choice. Sorry!
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 16:47     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
You could always do a test like 23 and me but beware. A client recently had her child tested and is not thrilled with the results (meaning she had hoped the father would be someone else). Now she had to worry about the father/family contacting her.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2021 16:30     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Is there a way to tell if your baby is mixed or white through ultrasound? Just curious