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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a house where swearing was a daily thing for my father. My mom always disliked it. In our house now, there's no swearing at all - zero. My kids hear it among friends I'm sure but I'm so glad they have been raised not thinking it's "normal" to swear in day to day home life.

What really bothers me is people who incorporate shit/fuck into their normal, everyday conversation -- no even the usual exasperation or anger situation. "I don't give a fuck if it's rainy today." "Who gives a shit about the Caps losing." "Where the fuck are my car keys." Etc. Completely unnecessary swearing. It happened recently where I was on the street and overheard two girls talking - college aged -- and one had a mouth like that, obviously swearing was a normal part of her daily vocabulary. I felt sorry for her. It made her lower class IMO and surely there are some guys who wouldn't consider dating her because of her swearing ease.

This bolded part makes me laugh because your thought process is so old. If you don't like cursing that's fine but, to change yourself because in the future "some guy wouldn't date her" is not a good reason in my opinion. Maybe she doesn't care for men? There are plenty of men/women who curse so to I don't see her being alone because of it. Then again there are plenty of happy single people!

I thought that comment might bother some people. I can't begin to quantify "some people" and, in fact, while some guys will be turned off by a swearing girl, others will be attracted to her trash mouth. There's someone for everybody. I wonder though if that girl who swears as part of regular conversation realizes the effect it has in terms of attraction and image.

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a house where swearing was a daily thing for my father. My mom always disliked it. In our house now, there's no swearing at all - zero. My kids hear it among friends I'm sure but I'm so glad they have been raised not thinking it's "normal" to swear in day to day home life.

What really bothers me is people who incorporate shit/fuck into their normal, everyday conversation -- no even the usual exasperation or anger situation. "I don't give a fuck if it's rainy today." "Who gives a shit about the Caps losing." "Where the fuck are my car keys." Etc. Completely unnecessary swearing. It happened recently where I was on the street and overheard two girls talking - college aged -- and one had a mouth like that, obviously swearing was a normal part of her daily vocabulary. I felt sorry for her. It made her lower class IMO and surely there are some guys who wouldn't consider dating her because of her swearing ease.

This bolded part makes me laugh because your thought process is so old. If you don't like cursing that's fine but, to change yourself because in the future "some guy wouldn't date her" is not a good reason in my opinion. Maybe she doesn't care for men? There are plenty of men/women who curse so to I don't see her being alone because of it. Then again there are plenty of happy single people!

I grew up in a house where swearing was a daily thing for my father. My mom always disliked it. In our house now, there's no swearing at all - zero. My kids hear it among friends I'm sure but I'm so glad they have been raised not thinking it's "normal" to swear in day to day home life.

What really bothers me is people who incorporate shit/fuck into their normal, everyday conversation -- no even the usual exasperation or anger situation. "I don't give a fuck if it's rainy today." "Who gives a shit about the Caps losing." "Where the fuck are my car keys." Etc. Completely unnecessary swearing. It happened recently where I was on the street and overheard two girls talking - college aged -- and one had a mouth like that, obviously swearing was a normal part of her daily vocabulary. I felt sorry for her. It made her lower class IMO and surely there are some guys who wouldn't consider dating her because of her swearing ease.

The n word is the only word that's off limits.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

WOW! I personally think physical violence is worse than cursing. You can go to jail if you knock your kid's teeth out. Maybe you are exaggerating but, damn you are scary.

Exaggeration or not, people.like this blow my mind. They draw the line at cursing, but aggression and anger are A-okay. Talk about screwed up priorities.

Picture me letting a child who is living under my roof and eating my food curse at me. You out your rabid ass mind.

And if you're ok with your kid dropping f-bombs, why not let them say fa**ot or c**t?

Different poster. I'm not okay with my kids cursing at me, but I'm also not okay with uncontrolled anger or threatened or actual violence, either. It's possible to not be okay with either. Actually, I'm significantly less okay with the latter, especially coming from me who as the parent and the adult should be capable of meeting a higher standard than my kids.

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about so-called curse words - they are simply vulgar. The real "bad words" in my book are the racial slurs and the cruel words (like retard, fatty, stupid). I would never tolerate a child who uses those words - but who cares about an occasional "damn" or "fuck"?

+1. Know your audience -- if it's going to deeply offend someone, probably avoid it for the sake of civility towards that person, but in our household we're not bothered by most words unless the intent is to be demeaning or cruel towards someone.

From my kids, I don't. I fully admit I'm judgemental. When I hear folks dropping f-bombs because they can't come up with another adjective I definitely think it's trashy. I may say damn or something like that but not habitually. DH swears like a sailor though! He knows I hate it but it is something that developed at his workplace; he rarely swore in college or the first years we were married. I have teenage girls and they haven't developed the habit yet. They gripe at DH too and tell him he sounds awful.

I don't care about so-called curse words - they are simply vulgar. The real "bad words" in my book are the racial slurs and the cruel words (like retard, fatty, stupid). I would never tolerate a child who uses those words - but who cares about an occasional "damn" or "fuck"?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

WOW! I personally think physical violence is worse than cursing. You can go to jail if you knock your kid's teeth out. Maybe you are exaggerating but, damn you are scary.

Exaggeration or not, people.like this blow my mind. They draw the line at cursing, but aggression and anger are A-okay. Talk about screwed up priorities.

Picture me letting a child who is living under my roof and eating my food curse at me. You out your rabid ass mind.

And if you're ok with your kid dropping f-bombs, why not let them say fa**ot or c**t?

Anonymous wrote:The rule in our house is basically: know your audience. We've talked about how the way you talk with your friends is different than the way you talk with teachers/the way you speak to your brother is different than the way you speak to your grandmother. We have a no-name calling rule so generally when they curse it's because of a stubbed toe or missing Lego piece or something. When they got old enough to notice curse words in song lyrics we talked about how if they didn't want to listen to censored music they shouldn't be repeating those lyrics. I do have a zero tolerance policy on words that target people who are different/slurs/hate speech, which we've also discussed a few times over the years.

This is one of the few sane responses, along with the PP who said to suggest to the kids that over-reliance on cursing is lazy and to increase vocabulary. We curse at situations in our house, like dropping a huge 28 oz can of tomatoes on your toe, kind-of-thing. Name-calling is a bigger vice IMHO.

Anonymous wrote:My oldest is 18 now and I don't say anything if he curses unless it's in front of his siblings, then I'll remind him to watch his language.

My younger kids are not allowed to curse, and generally don't-- my 3 year old said "dammit" the other day and he got a time out. My kids also think that shut up, stupid, and oh my God are bad words (they are 2 and 3).

18 and 2 and 3? any inbetwen?

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

Thank you!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, sort of

Shit, fuck, damn... I don't care

Retard, faggot, ugly, stupid, slut, etc... not allowed

So exclamation, I don't worry about.

Ugly language directed at people to hurt them, not allowed.

Pretty much this, although I will give a look if my daughter says fuck.

Slurs, especially those directed at another person, are met with instant consequences (or would be, but we've drilled it into her so much that it's not an issue).

I don't even consider hell or damn to be cursing.

I curse constantly, but I try not to do it in front of my son. We don't "allow" it, but DS does occasionally say "What the hell?" or "Oh my God." I just tell him not to say it. His favorite thing, though, is to repeat curse words when he hears them on TV or on a podcast. When I call him on it he says, "Mom, I'm just repeating what they said."

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Not even an exclamation. And if I hear it then it's a problem. And if it's directed at me, then they will probably need some new teeth.

WOW! I personally think physical violence is worse than cursing. You can go to jail if you knock your kid's teeth out. Maybe you are exaggerating but, damn you are scary.

Exaggeration or not, people.like this blow my mind. They draw the line at cursing, but aggression and anger are A-okay. Talk about screwed up priorities.

Are you familiar with the term "figure of speech?" Perhaps consider that pp feels very strongly about their child cursing AT them. I would hope all parents would have a problem with it.