A wedding is like a funeral. It represents the death of a certain way of life and is not exclusively about the person in the casket. Explain that you can't change the date -- unfair to your fiance -- but don't mind your sister wearing the dress she prefers. Disinviting her will create decades of ill will. Why? Let sis and mom know that this is the last time you will be acceding to their wishes. But tough it out. After all, you have years of marital bliss to anticipate. You know your sister is going to have to weather a nasty divorce from Mr. Threeweeksman. Give her and the mom who raised you these little concessions. In any wedding photo all eyes go to one person: the bride.

I have a sister I can't stand as well. Our every encounter ends in someone being offended by her. It gets worse and more frequent. No freaking clue how this one sibling came to be this way. Limit your dealings with them and you will feel less stress. If it's not life/death, don't deal with them.

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Anonymous wrote:I would really, truly tell you and your fiance to get married in a civil ceremony first - just the two of you - and then go out to a special meal and just enjoy the day for yourselves. Then you can go ahead with the big, messy family day of crap and you won't be as annoyed because you know you've shared what's important with just the two of you and did it on your terms.

This was going to be my suggestion as well.

This. Really really wish I had done this.

It sounds like you don't have a good relationship with any of your family and that you would rather not have a good relationship with them. That will be very sad for you when you mature and have children. You sound very immature right now. Sometimes it takes some years of wisdom and experience to realize what you are rejecting. Why not just elope?

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Given that it's bridesmaids 101, why can't bridesmaids dresses be NICER? I know that's off-topic - but I really don't understand why the dresses are so shitty that no one wants to wear them.

Why do brides insist that their bridesmaids wear matching dresses? If your friends were told "Here's my dress, find something that goes with it" or even "Your dress needs to pink and it needs to be long," bridesmaids could find something they like.

Ugh. I was in a wedding like this. Instead of just ordering a damned dress the bride picked, getting it tailored, and being done, I had to spending the whole damned summer trying to find a long blue dress that was dressy enough but not too dressy. Why I didn't think to just go to davids bridal and buy myself a normal bridesmaid dress, I don't know, but she probably would have been pissed about that because it would have clashed with her self-image as a supposedly laid back bride. The whole thing was a huge PITA.

Anonymous wrote:I would really, truly tell you and your fiance to get married in a civil ceremony first - just the two of you - and then go out to a special meal and just enjoy the day for yourselves. Then you can go ahead with the big, messy family day of crap and you won't be as annoyed because you know you've shared what's important with just the two of you and did it on your terms.

This was going to be my suggestion as well.

My sister did not invite my other sister to her wedding and instead invited a lifetime of ill will. Suck it up let her wear what she wants and move on.