Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 12:59     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
"Flunking" or essentially flunking all your semester exams warrants severe punishment. Why the hell would it not? Most of you are obviously trolling.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 12:47     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The girl is going to have a "B" average in these classes. It isn't like she flunked herself out on her b*tt.

I think it's time to step back and take a chill pill Op.


Nearly flunked all exams. I don't know anyone who fails high school classes. Maybe kids that never show up, I guess?


I flunked many exams and entire classes, which I had to make up in summer school. Graduated HS in the bottom third of my class. Managed to get into an out-of-state Big State U, where I blossomed and graduated cum laude. Now working in my field of study (which most left). That probably horrifies some people here, but my world didn't end. As far as my career field goes, I'm doing pretty well. Whether I'm happy in the field is another story, but it doesn't have anything to do with academics.

Just some anecdotal experience from the other side.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 12:37     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If this is Virginia, lots of kids can have UVA VTech and GMU already locked up. Public Us don't really care about Cs on the mid-year report of admitted students.


UVA would definitely rescind an offer if senior grades are downward trending. It shows immaturity and a lack of discipline. VTech would, as well, especially if accepted to the engineering department.


NP here. Good God, "downward trending"? OP said this is a slide from As to Bs, not As to flunking or Cs/Ds. And don't muddy the waters, PP. OP's DD is not in VT engineering or UVA yet--I think OP's real anger is that DD hasn't been fast enough about college applications and isn't as enthusiastic about being straight-As as OP wants.

It's frightening that one set of Bs is making so many adults so crazed on this thread. Yes, the DD needs to take responsibility and bring her grades back up but nowhere have I seen OP come back here and say OP actually talked with DD about WHY this happened and what they can do together to work on it. OP angrily cites "senioritis" and brushes off earlier posters who suggest looking into whether something else is going on with OP's DD beyond academics. But OP only seems to come back wanting support for being angry at DD. So, OP, have you and DD talked with the counselors at the high school who handle college stuff, to see how disastrous this is -- or isn't? Have you talked with your DD --without anger and judgement -- about whether this is really pure senior slackness or whether she slacked because she's just so tired of being pushed? Maybe something changed in these classes themselves? Or would you rather just be angry with her?


OP's original post says A/B's to C/D's. That is a definite major downward trend.

>>Literally every midterm exam is a C or D. Are we supposed to punish an 18yo? Not accepted anywhere, yet. Mid-year report looks horrible now. Worst report card ever, by far.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 12:27     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If this is Virginia, lots of kids can have UVA VTech and GMU already locked up. Public Us don't really care about Cs on the mid-year report of admitted students.


UVA would definitely rescind an offer if senior grades are downward trending. It shows immaturity and a lack of discipline. VTech would, as well, especially if accepted to the engineering department.


NP here. Good God, "downward trending"? OP said this is a slide from As to Bs, not As to flunking or Cs/Ds. And don't muddy the waters, PP. OP's DD is not in VT engineering or UVA yet--I think OP's real anger is that DD hasn't been fast enough about college applications and isn't as enthusiastic about being straight-As as OP wants.

It's frightening that one set of Bs is making so many adults so crazed on this thread. Yes, the DD needs to take responsibility and bring her grades back up but nowhere have I seen OP come back here and say OP actually talked with DD about WHY this happened and what they can do together to work on it. OP angrily cites "senioritis" and brushes off earlier posters who suggest looking into whether something else is going on with OP's DD beyond academics. But OP only seems to come back wanting support for being angry at DD. So, OP, have you and DD talked with the counselors at the high school who handle college stuff, to see how disastrous this is -- or isn't? Have you talked with your DD --without anger and judgement -- about whether this is really pure senior slackness or whether she slacked because she's just so tired of being pushed? Maybe something changed in these classes themselves? Or would you rather just be angry with her?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 09:20     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:If this is Virginia, lots of kids can have UVA VTech and GMU already locked up. Public Us don't really care about Cs on the mid-year report of admitted students.


UVA would definitely rescind an offer if senior grades are downward trending. It shows immaturity and a lack of discipline. VTech would, as well, especially if accepted to the engineering department.
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2017 08:34     Subject: Re:Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Unless she only applied and got accepted to top tier schools, she is probably in no danger of being rescinded. It sounds like she was doing the work to get As in her classes and simply blew off studying for midterms. Totally normal senioritis. The exam results may look bad, but having a B semester grade is hardly the end of the world. You do realize that students who get mostly Bs with a few As and a few Cs throughout high school go to college and do fine there, right? You are overreacting.

If she didn't apply to any safety schools and you're really concerned that she won't be able to attend any of the schools that already accepted her, suggest that she submit a couple of applications to less competitive schools. That can be her "punishment"
eloisetheo
Post 01/24/2017 00:30     Subject: Re:Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
What schools did she apply to? What are her test scores like?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 23:12     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Is she was aiming at top50, she would need to finish the year strong and take a gap year.

Otherwise cc or the cheapest instate option. I would be uncomfortable paying for more expensive colleges knowing that she might strike out again.

Lay it out for her now.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 21:35     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Most importantly - what was HER reaction? We know what you think but what does she think is going to happen now? That will say a lot about moving forward (which again, B's are not the end of the world. It just seems that way in some schools/communities around here!)
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 21:03     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
If this is Virginia, lots of kids can have UVA VTech and GMU already locked up. Public Us don't really care about Cs on the mid-year report of admitted students.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 21:01     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I want to stress I am easy going and I would be the first to let her relax a bit once college letters were received. Most of her friends have their college plans handled. She does not and I reminded her of that frequently. I honestly think she was/is unable to grasp that her friends could afford to lay off the gas and she couldn't.


Seems very unlikely unless everyone did early admission or is going to a college with incredibly fast turn around times.

Let me also say that you have no way of bailing her out. She has to want it and fix it, you can't do this one for her. At some point, kids have to earn their own grades and be responsible on their own.

Have you tried talking with her? Or only irrationally screaming about how her life is ruined?


Even if they all did early admission they should be aware that those offers of admission can be rescinded if their grades really tank.

Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 20:02     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Fairfax semester ends in 2 weeks
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 19:50     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I want to stress I am easy going and I would be the first to let her relax a bit once college letters were received. Most of her friends have their college plans handled. She does not and I reminded her of that frequently. I honestly think she was/is unable to grasp that her friends could afford to lay off the gas and she couldn't.


Seems very unlikely unless everyone did early admission or is going to a college with incredibly fast turn around times.

Let me also say that you have no way of bailing her out. She has to want it and fix it, you can't do this one for her. At some point, kids have to earn their own grades and be responsible on their own.

Have you tried talking with her? Or only irrationally screaming about how her life is ruined?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 19:47     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
Anonymous wrote:This is a major deal. My kid's iPhone would be confiscated, grounded, and constant volunteering at homeless shelter and nearest Boys & Girls Club.


What does that do for an 18 year old who needs to get their grades up?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2017 19:42     Subject: Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
This is a major deal. My kid's iPhone would be confiscated, grounded, and constant volunteering at homeless shelter and nearest Boys & Girls Club.