Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:17     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:15     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hi there I'm so sorry --- I was married to my best friend and had kids together -- we started out a few times a month, that dwindled to me only initiating for several years - then I stopped initiating and it was 2 years --- I concluded my x-dh was closet gay. Is your DH religious? Come from a traditional family? Or have other reason he may repress his sexual orientation?
He is not religious, traditional family, no. His parents are divorced (his father on his 4th marriage). Repress his sexual feelings, not that I know of. Did you find out for a fact that your x dh is gay? I just can't think right now. How can something like this happen, we are best friends. We do everything together, and we have fun, enjoy each other. We also do things with our friends. I just don't know what to think and how do I after 21 years married ask him if he is gay?!


As Sherlock Homo said, if you've ruled out every other explanation, then whatever is left, no matter how improbable it may seem, must be the answer.

The ONLY possible answer to this is that your husband is a closeted Gay man who has been "passing" as straight. IOW he is on the "down low."

Look up the term "down low" OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:13     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hi there I'm so sorry --- I was married to my best friend and had kids together -- we started out a few times a month, that dwindled to me only initiating for several years - then I stopped initiating and it was 2 years --- I concluded my x-dh was closet gay. Is your DH religious? Come from a traditional family? Or have other reason he may repress his sexual orientation?
He is not religious, traditional family, no. His parents are divorced (his father on his 4th marriage). Repress his sexual feelings, not that I know of. Did you find out for a fact that your x dh is gay? I just can't think right now. How can something like this happen, we are best friends. We do everything together, and we have fun, enjoy each other. We also do things with our friends. I just don't know what to think and how do I after 21 years married ask him if he is gay?!


That is a big red flag. Men and women should have common interests but not do everything together. I was on the fence but now I'm convinced he is gay.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:11     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


Wrong


It's you that is wrong


Wrong again


Sorry you married a gay man
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:09     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:Hi there I'm so sorry --- I was married to my best friend and had kids together -- we started out a few times a month, that dwindled to me only initiating for several years - then I stopped initiating and it was 2 years --- I concluded my x-dh was closet gay. Is your DH religious? Come from a traditional family? Or have other reason he may repress his sexual orientation?
He is not religious, traditional family, no. His parents are divorced (his father on his 4th marriage). Repress his sexual feelings, not that I know of. Did you find out for a fact that your x dh is gay? I just can't think right now. How can something like this happen, we are best friends. We do everything together, and we have fun, enjoy each other. We also do things with our friends. I just don't know what to think and how do I after 21 years married ask him if he is gay?!
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:04     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


If he is fit and healthy then he should definitely want sex with you. Gay really is the only answer
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:00     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Hi there I'm so sorry --- I was married to my best friend and had kids together -- we started out a few times a month, that dwindled to me only initiating for several years - then I stopped initiating and it was 2 years --- I concluded my x-dh was closet gay. Is your DH religious? Come from a traditional family? Or have other reason he may repress his sexual orientation?
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 16:00     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


This
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:57     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


Wrong


It's you that is wrong


Wrong again
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:48     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Give him oral sex while you slide a finger in his back door. He will get harder than Chinese arithmetic
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:47     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:Play with his bunghole and see if he gets aroused


Where a lot of men have gone before.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:46     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:Play with his bunghole and see if he gets aroused


Not For Women Only.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:45     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you any fun in bed or do you just lay back and expect to be serviced?


That wouldn't make much difference to a normal man. OP sounds like she's in good shape, us normal guys would jump on her and fuck her senseless, she wouldn't have to do anything.


They would in the beginning but not for 20 years.


Hey I'm 57 been married 23 years. I'm sure I'm not in as good physical shape as OP or her husband nor is my wife. Nonetheless the spirit moved me this morning and I jumped on my wife and did the deed. It's not as frequent as 23 years ago but usually at least a couple of times a week. And guess what? my wife didn't need to give me much encouragement either, and at her age, it's harder for her to push me off of her.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:44     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Play with his bunghole and see if he gets aroused
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2017 15:42     Subject: Sexless marriage from a woman's perspective. Help me.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are both fit and active and in their 40s and he doesn't want sex then he is absolutely gay. Have a talk with him. Maybe you can find a way for both of you to be happy


Wrong


It's you that is wrong