Anonymous wrote:changed to online cell phone billing

One of the traditional red flags.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I was brutal, but you're one. Good god. You are steeped in the victim crap, and it's surreal to say your stbx if that's you would testify to your perfection and you are so effing comfortable attacking people who may have had different (less perfect wives? no doubt.) marriages. But I'm sure the stbx will pine for you until he dies, miserable and alone.

Dude. Did you even read her post? She never said she was perfect. She said that her ex admitted that she didn't do anything wrong, and that he cheated anyway.

Which is actually textbook. Most people fall into affairs - they don't go looking for them. It's a crime of opportunity.

Yeah right, they accidentally slip in the corridor and fall on someone and what do you know his peepee is in her hooha.

An affair requires many deliberate decisions, and if it's more than a one-night stand, requires a long-term, planned campaign of deception. Don't give me that "just fell into it" bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:No, I was brutal, but you're one. Good god. You are steeped in the victim crap, and it's surreal to say your stbx if that's you would testify to your perfection and you are so effing comfortable attacking people who may have had different (less perfect wives? no doubt.) marriages. But I'm sure the stbx will pine for you until he dies, miserable and alone.

Dude. Did you even read her post? She never said she was perfect. She said that her ex admitted that she didn't do anything wrong, and that he cheated anyway.

Which is actually textbook. Most people fall into affairs - they don't go looking for them. It's a crime of opportunity.

Anonymous wrote:He was very mean. Making the marriage bad purposefully to justify the affair in his head.

Wow. This happened to me too. (Only, we weren't married) He became so mean to me it was like he was a different person

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Anonymous wrote:No, I was brutal, but you're one. Good god. You are steeped in the victim crap, and it's surreal to say your stbx if that's you would testify to your perfection and you are so effing comfortable attacking people who may have had different (less perfect wives? no doubt.) marriages. But I'm sure the stbx will pine for you until he dies, miserable and alone.

I'm the one who said my STBXH would say I was a great wife. I didn't say anything after that. You are arguing with more than one person. Pro tip: this is why quoting the person you are responding to helps.

Anyway, I know my STBXH feels that way because we are very friendly co-parents. We see each other and talk all the time. I think it's really weird that it's so important for you to dispute this, but who cares.

This is a thread for people who have been cheated on. Why come here to attack people who are commiserating about a shared experience?

Do you still sleep with him?

Anonymous wrote:Found texts on our family iPad, somehow his phone text were showing up on the iPad. I think maybe bc of an update.

Whoa. Like your kids could have read them??!! Messed up. Were they written in a way that it was clear it was an affair?

Odd numbers on cell phone bills.

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Anonymous wrote:I had this fleeting thought that I should warn her about not drinking alone with a certain coworker-but didn't say anything because I thought I'd sound crazy. She was always on her phone. She'd spend forever in the bathroom at night, door open, just looking at herself in the mirror. She brushed me off when I offered to get my parents to watch our kid and rent a hotel room for us. Eventually, I told her she had to tell me what was going on and she did. Part of me knew already, but I wasn't ready to admit it. We're divorced.

I'm sorry. You're better off without her.

Is she still with the AP?

Not PP but my ex wife cheated and left me for AP who dumped her.

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Anonymous wrote:I had this fleeting thought that I should warn her about not drinking alone with a certain coworker-but didn't say anything because I thought I'd sound crazy. She was always on her phone. She'd spend forever in the bathroom at night, door open, just looking at herself in the mirror. She brushed me off when I offered to get my parents to watch our kid and rent a hotel room for us. Eventually, I told her she had to tell me what was going on and she did. Part of me knew already, but I wasn't ready to admit it. We're divorced.

I'm sorry. You're better off without her.

Is she still with the AP?

Idiots.

Anonymous wrote:Guerita, ugh. Holy schnikes, you are messed up. Gas lighting? Rich coming from someone hoeing more than a farmer.

Where's your hypocritical and sanctimonious passion in defense of the PP (not me, in fact) who said she tried communication and forcing counseling and just got dogpiled from some self-pitying, apparently cheated on people?

Yawn. You've made your point, now you're just trying to drown out the rest of the conversation by repeating it. You're boring.
-NP

Anonymous wrote:Guerita, ugh. Holy schnikes, you are messed up. Gas lighting? Rich coming from someone hoeing more than a farmer.

Where's your hypocritical and sanctimonious passion in defense of the PP (not me, in fact) who said she tried communication and forcing counseling and just got dogpiled from some self-pitying, apparently cheated on people?

Oh please. You are absolutely right that I am messed up! I will be the first to admit it! I have made a litany of mistakes in my life and the affairs were selfish. They have ended (albeit the last was recent) and I will never cause that hurt again. But I also won't go online and tell people they deserve it either. I did realize it made me hypocritical to offer an inside perspective inside of calling someone a piece of shit because they have been cheated on. I thought it should be said anyways.

By the way, your petty and laughable insults get a 2/10 though. Make them more about what I write if you really want them to hurt me. Maybe insult my sentence structure or my use of the word gaslighting. They are really 7th grade so far. Not clever. Hoe as in farmer, c'mon?

Guerita, ugh. Holy schnikes, you are messed up. Gas lighting? Rich coming from someone hoeing more than a farmer.

Where's your hypocritical and sanctimonious passion in defense of the PP (not me, in fact) who said she tried communication and forcing counseling and just got dogpiled from some self-pitying, apparently cheated on people?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I was brutal, but you're one. Good god. You are steeped in the victim crap, and it's surreal to say your stbx if that's you would testify to your perfection and you are so effing comfortable attacking people who may have had different (less perfect wives? no doubt.) marriages. But I'm sure the stbx will pine for you until he dies, miserable and alone.

I'm the one who said my STBXH would say I was a great wife. I didn't say anything after that. You are arguing with more than one person. Pro tip: this is why quoting the person you are responding to helps.

Anyway, I know my STBXH feels that way because we are very friendly co-parents. We see each other and talk all the time. I think it's really weird that it's so important for you to dispute this, but who cares.

This is a thread for people who have been cheated on. Why come here to attack people who are commiserating about a shared experience?

ProTip: ^^ this pert bs is why he needed someone else. Did I say with certitude I was discussing with you? Nope. And of course I'm here just as you are - participating in a conversation. I'll let you go back to being the best wife and mommy ever though.

I am so confused at your anger and motivation here. If you believe that people who are cheated on, deserve it, fine. I have cheated on my husband and f*ck NO he didn't deserve it. I believe this woman could very well be right that her husband would probably testify that she is a great mom and wife. And both of the men I have carried on with outside of my marriage had gorgeous, caring and kind wives who loved their families and I believe fully these men would testify to that. Why do you feel the need to insult her and attack her like this? Just from reading a few of your lines, it looks like you are pretty well experienced in gas lighting people.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I was brutal, but you're one. Good god. You are steeped in the victim crap, and it's surreal to say your stbx if that's you would testify to your perfection and you are so effing comfortable attacking people who may have had different (less perfect wives? no doubt.) marriages. But I'm sure the stbx will pine for you until he dies, miserable and alone.

I'm the one who said my STBXH would say I was a great wife. I didn't say anything after that. You are arguing with more than one person. Pro tip: this is why quoting the person you are responding to helps.

Anyway, I know my STBXH feels that way because we are very friendly co-parents. We see each other and talk all the time. I think it's really weird that it's so important for you to dispute this, but who cares.

This is a thread for people who have been cheated on. Why come here to attack people who are commiserating about a shared experience?

ProTip: ^^ this pert bs is why he needed someone else. Did I say with certitude I was discussing with you? Nope. And of course I'm here just as you are - participating in a conversation. I'll let you go back to being the best wife and mommy ever though.