Anonymous
01/09/2017 20:43
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.
PP here - I was put through a ringer but from the beginning I was focused on one thing - getting sole custody of my children. I didn't fight her over every nickel and dime or who got what possession. It didn't matter to me and my earning power is very good and I knew I could recover. And it was extremely helpful to have parents who helped keep me focused...and calm. By being 100% focused on why I should have custody I was able to make my case without my head getting screwed up with all of the other crap. The calmness really helped me with my three small children as they never saw any outbursts and I never let me ex or her attorney get under my skin. And I do hope a great woman comes into our lives but three young kids is not date bait!
why did you insist on full custody?
PP here - she had substance abuse issues and was a proven danger to herself and I feared for the children.
Anonymous
01/09/2017 19:32
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.
PP here - I was put through a ringer but from the beginning I was focused on one thing - getting sole custody of my children. I didn't fight her over every nickel and dime or who got what possession. It didn't matter to me and my earning power is very good and I knew I could recover. And it was extremely helpful to have parents who helped keep me focused...and calm. By being 100% focused on why I should have custody I was able to make my case without my head getting screwed up with all of the other crap. The calmness really helped me with my three small children as they never saw any outbursts and I never let me ex or her attorney get under my skin. And I do hope a great woman comes into our lives but three young kids is not date bait!
I would date you. No kids here (XH had health issues and then I was too old). I would love to be a stepmom if the relations between the parents is respectful. I also have a great stepmom so I have a template for how to be good at it.
Anonymous
01/09/2017 19:28
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
No. I have no regrets. I was a great wife and good to him. He changed his mind and is on to another wife now. I wasn't the first. I suspect she wont be the last.
Anonymous
01/09/2017 19:19
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:
Dipshit, probably because he loves his kids.
If he truly loves the kids he wants both parents to be as involved as possible with them.
Anonymous
01/09/2017 19:12
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.
PP here - I was put through a ringer but from the beginning I was focused on one thing - getting sole custody of my children. I didn't fight her over every nickel and dime or who got what possession. It didn't matter to me and my earning power is very good and I knew I could recover. And it was extremely helpful to have parents who helped keep me focused...and calm. By being 100% focused on why I should have custody I was able to make my case without my head getting screwed up with all of the other crap. The calmness really helped me with my three small children as they never saw any outbursts and I never let me ex or her attorney get under my skin. And I do hope a great woman comes into our lives but three young kids is not date bait!
why did you insist on full custody?
Dipshit, probably because he loves his kids.
Anonymous
01/09/2017 17:48
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.
PP here - I was put through a ringer but from the beginning I was focused on one thing - getting sole custody of my children. I didn't fight her over every nickel and dime or who got what possession. It didn't matter to me and my earning power is very good and I knew I could recover. And it was extremely helpful to have parents who helped keep me focused...and calm. By being 100% focused on why I should have custody I was able to make my case without my head getting screwed up with all of the other crap. The calmness really helped me with my three small children as they never saw any outbursts and I never let me ex or her attorney get under my skin. And I do hope a great woman comes into our lives but three young kids is not date bait!
why did you insist on full custody?
Anonymous
01/09/2017 17:38
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.
PP here - I was put through a ringer but from the beginning I was focused on one thing - getting sole custody of my children. I didn't fight her over every nickel and dime or who got what possession. It didn't matter to me and my earning power is very good and I knew I could recover. And it was extremely helpful to have parents who helped keep me focused...and calm. By being 100% focused on why I should have custody I was able to make my case without my head getting screwed up with all of the other crap. The calmness really helped me with my three small children as they never saw any outbursts and I never let me ex or her attorney get under my skin. And I do hope a great woman comes into our lives but three young kids is not date bait!
Anonymous
01/08/2017 21:07
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.
20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.
He had an affair with a thinner woman.
Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.
It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.
But then you'd still be married to an asshole (like my husband is).
Your husband is married to an asshole? Poor guy.
NP. Do you have reading comprehension issues?
Anonymous
01/08/2017 21:06
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.
Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?
Yes it does. After spending 27 years providing everything possible to an ungrateful frigid wife and sending three kids to university, the rest of my life is for me. My new goal in life is to keep my d*ck wet and be happy.
Dude, you're my hero.
Anonymous
01/08/2017 20:37
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.
20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.
He had an affair with a thinner woman.
Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.
It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.
But then you'd still be married to an asshole (like my husband is).
Your husband is married to an asshole? Poor guy.
Anonymous
01/08/2017 20:32
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:No, I had a great pre-up and no children. Two years in she had an affair with a guy at work. Her excuse was I travel too much for work and she got bored. I had no desire for marriage counseling or any other psycho babble given her reason why. My only regret was marrying her but I'm very happy one of my brothers suggested a prenup. The divorce was quick and painless, at least for me. Her lifestyle took a big hit and her work friend dumped her.
I would like to remarry someday but I hope I make a better choice!
There isn't a reason to get married nowadays. Why bother.
Anonymous
01/08/2017 20:08
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.
20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.
He had an affair with a thinner woman.
Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.
It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.
Dont be crazy
Bless your heart. Being skinny is not a guarantee a man will stay with you. You can be perfect in every possible way and if he wants to cheat or just be an asshole and treat you really bad it's because that's who he is. He has insecurities issues, narcissist and he probably doesn't look that attractive. It's not you it's him and his psychological problems. You run away from a person like that because they are toxic and no one wants to be around a miserable person.
Anonymous
01/08/2017 19:51
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I regret not losing 20 pounds.
20 lbs should not be a marriage-breaker.
He had an affair with a thinner woman.
Oh honey. That wouldn't have prevented his affair, truly.
It might have if I lost the weight like I promised to.
Dont be crazy
Anonymous
01/08/2017 19:45
Subject: If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My biggest regret is wasting my prime years with DW who thought twice a month vanilla sex was normal. Now that she is gone I'm 56 and sticking it anywhere I can.
Makes you feel robbed doesn't it?
Yes it does. After spending 27 years providing everything possible to an ungrateful frigid wife and sending three kids to university, the rest of my life is for me. My new goal in life is to keep my d*ck wet and be happy.
ok. This made me laugh.
Go PP!
Same I couldn't help it - I laughed.
Anonymous
01/08/2017 19:44
Subject: Re:If your marriage didn't work out, do you have any regrets?
Anonymous wrote:Ex husband here - I have plenty of regrets but despite the odds against men I got full custody of my children. While my life is chaotic I'm happy and so are my kids. Their mother moved away to 'start a new life' which was a smart move on her part. After a year as a single parent my anger has subsided and I have no regrets being a dad. I'm way too exhausted to think about dating but I know that all of us would enjoy a female presence.
Sound like you were put through the ringer and I hope a great woman does come into your lives.