Overwhelming need to have a child. I went from never wanting kids to this crazy feeling like I must have one. Very glad I did. I still like a break now and then though. It's ok, you know.

Originally, I didn't want kids until I met my ex husband. After my daughter was born, I couldn't see my life without her. I only regret not having a second before I got divorced.

We chose not to. We are very happy.

Was dating a women who was much smarter than I, and felt the urge to procreate, I think, because, subconsciously, I saw it as a way to have smarter offspring. And her biological clock was ticking. Bingo! So we did it to it until number one came, and did it to it again until number two came. Then we started using birth control. The whole thing was pretty primal and unplanned.

Life would be so meaningless without children.

My S/O and I traveled the world together, attended the best NYC parties, and stayed in shape. Finally, it occurred to me that if we didn't have a child soon, we never could. We got married. I wanted one in part for the wrong reasons. My father and grandfather had had a privileged upbringing, but my father had refused me the same privileges. We tried having a child, a daughter, but she died in the womb due to a genetic inversion on one of my chromosome 8s. DW was devastated so we tried again and had a son. We no longer travel overseas. We no longer party. DS is difficult because he has both ADHD and Asbergers. But he is very handsome and got a lot of modeling work before we left NYC for D.C. He is a chess champion and travels all over the country entering tournaments. As far as how I feel, frankly, I had a son too late. I have health problems now and am no where near being the father I could have been 20 years ago. It's a tough call. Do you spend your youth jet setting or have a child while young?

Because the good in my life outweighs the bad, so when I stop to think about it (not often enough), I am INCREDIBLY happy to be alive. I wanted to give another person the same thing.

I've always loved kids. I love my kids!! I love being a mom

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Anonymous wrote:I had kids because that is what life is about, reproducing.

So the lives of those who can't or won't reproduce are about nothing?

Honestly, yes. Then you are just living to die.

Is that what you'll tell your kids if they are unable to have children of their own? Will their lives be meaningless if they can't have children? Think about that.

Anonymous wrote:To the "I always wanted them" folks:

But *why* did you want them? For what reason? I like kids too, I'm good with them, and have a strong maternal personality. But I don't want kids. Can those of you who say "because I always wanted them" elaborate on this?

I am the poster who was the oldest in my generation on both sides of my family. It sounds hokey, but I always found so much joy in taking care of my siblings and cousins growing up. I knew from an early age I wanted to have kids of my own. Spending time with my kids is so much fun to me. I do WOH, because I love my work also, but the time I spend with my kids is the best part of my days. I love the holidays being at home with them.

I always knew I wanted children, even from when I was very young. I was the oldest in my generation on both sides of my family and always took care of the other children as they came along. My DH wasn't sure when we first met and grew into the idea. Watching him with our kids now is one of my greatest joys.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had kids because that is what life is about, reproducing.

So the lives of those who can't or won't reproduce are about nothing?

Honestly, yes. Then you are just living to die.

No. There are many other ways to contribute to humanity without having kids. People with your philosophy are just tiresome. By your reasoning abusive parents are a bigger contribution to humanity than someone who doesn't have kids but spends his/her life doing charity work, saving lives, taking care of elderly people, whatever? Were the great thinkers and philanthropists of our time with no children just living to die? You are only living to die if you chose to be a potato.

Everyone needs to stop responding to the "Honestly, yes..." poster. Obvious troll. Don't let him/her get your goat.

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Anonymous wrote:I had kids because that is what life is about, reproducing.

So the lives of those who can't or won't reproduce are about nothing?

Honestly, yes. Then you are just living to die.

No. There are many other ways to contribute to humanity without having kids. People with your philosophy are just tiresome. By your reasoning abusive parents are a bigger contribution to humanity than someone who doesn't have kids but spends his/her life doing charity work, saving lives, taking care of elderly people, whatever? Were the great thinkers and philanthropists of our time with no children just living to die? You are only living to die if you chose to be a potato.

I thought I would like being a mother. Jurors still out on if I really do or not.

Anonymous wrote:It was a total accident (BC failed) but it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Me too.