Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 21:03     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing


She just explained that her daughter has some social issues and has been teased about clothes in the past.


Different poster, who was in the same boat as OP's DD as a kid. So what? Let her wear what she likes anyway. Teach her that she does not have to care if others like how she dresses, and as far as clothes go, as long as the person wearing it likes it & it meets any applicable dress code, that's all that matters. The other kids are the ones in the wrong for teasing her; let her be happy and confident in liking any reasonable (not obscene or wrong for the environment) outfit she happens to like.

My mother used to insist on dressing me exactly like other kids so I would "fit in", but it did not work and I was still mostly on the fringes socially, so all it did was give me massive anxiety about looking just right so I would be good enough. In my opinion unless there's a major reason why an outfit is not okay, clothing should be a child's choice.


Thanks PP - I was just going to post something similar. My mom wanted me to fit in so badly, and I never did. My dad on the other hand, thought I was awesome just being me - so I grew up to be confident anyway.

Please OP, just let your daughter be herself. She doesn't have to please anyone, she doesn't have to wear the right things, she just needs to be herself - I'm pretty sure she's amazing just as she is.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:58     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Yes, too young. I'd say under 10
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:52     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing


She just explained that her daughter has some social issues and has been teased about clothes in the past.


As someone who was socially awkward as a kid (and now, to be honest), I'd rather be rejected by my peers than by my own family.

Let your daughter wear what she likes, and tell her she looks beautiful.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:50     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
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Anonymous wrote:Very pretty.

An she wear it to Christmas Mass or service? It would be perfect for that. Or, are you going to a theatrical performance or the Nutcracker? It woild be nice for those occasions too.

Dress it up with "older" shoes and hair like PP suggested.


This. I wish more preteens wore classy, buttoned up looks like this.


Agree. Most look like skanks. The dresses in the junior department currently go down about 3 inches max past their ass.


Agree! This is modest and pretty. Does your daughter do Girl Scouts? This is the kind of thing my 10 year old would wear for the Father/Daughter dance.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:42     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing


She just explained that her daughter has some social issues and has been teased about clothes in the past.


Different poster, who was in the same boat as OP's DD as a kid. So what? Let her wear what she likes anyway. Teach her that she does not have to care if others like how she dresses, and as far as clothes go, as long as the person wearing it likes it & it meets any applicable dress code, that's all that matters. The other kids are the ones in the wrong for teasing her; let her be happy and confident in liking any reasonable (not obscene or wrong for the environment) outfit she happens to like.

My mother used to insist on dressing me exactly like other kids so I would "fit in", but it did not work and I was still mostly on the fringes socially, so all it did was give me massive anxiety about looking just right so I would be good enough. In my opinion unless there's a major reason why an outfit is not okay, clothing should be a child's choice.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:42     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Okay, thanks. I guess I'm being too sensitive. She has some social issues and often misses appropriate social cues, especially about clothing, and she's been teased in the past. (Also she really doesn't care about clothes at all, so when she says she "likes it" that often just means "it's not itchy.")

I love the Kieran Shipka dress. Her clothes are always perfect.

Of course, the bigger issue is that, now that I think about, I cannot think of anyplace she really can wear something that formal. We already went to the Nutcracker. She's wearing a costume for Christmas mass (in the play). And we're not going anywhere for Christmas -- no family around and so we'll probably just open presents and go to the movies. Oh well. It's yet another thing from this particular relative that will sit in the closet with the tags on and never get worn.


OMG it's $125! And to just accept it never being worn. Ugh. I'd return it on price alone, if that's the case.

I have an 11 year old and I don't think it reads as too young. it is very dressy, though, so without a place to wear it (if the price doesn't give you pause) that's the reason I'd return it. I don't think it's wearable in the spring or another time, so it would truly go to waste.


If she likes it, find somewhere to wear it! Dinner? church? have a NYE party for just you?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:37     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
I think the dress is lovely. I also think that "an embroidery technique using simply a needle and thread to gather fabric in a process often requiring days to complete" in the description is pretty funny! But hey... it was a gift from relatives!
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:34     Subject: Re:Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
My eleven year old would not wear it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 20:31     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Anonymous wrote:Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing


She just explained that her daughter has some social issues and has been teased about clothes in the past.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 17:49     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 17:46     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Not too you unless you have a very buxom 11 year old
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 17:33     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
I think it does look a bit young for 11. I prefer the navy and red striped dress for an 11 year old, but it is no longer available in sizes past 8.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 16:57     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Very pretty.

An she wear it to Christmas Mass or service? It would be perfect for that. Or, are you going to a theatrical performance or the Nutcracker? It woild be nice for those occasions too.

Dress it up with "older" shoes and hair like PP suggested.


This. I wish more preteens wore classy, buttoned up looks like this.


Agree. Most look like skanks. The dresses in the junior department currently go down about 3 inches max past their ass.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 16:25     Subject: Re:Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
I also have an 11yo DD and while she wears dressy dresses often, I think this particular style is too old-fashioned looking. On a younger girl, it would be beautiful and classic.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 16:19     Subject: Is this dress inappropriate for an 11-year old?
Just ran in by my 11 yo dd and she said OH NO that's for little girls. So there's that.