Anonymous
Post 12/06/2016 09:18     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The impression I get from all of your posts, OP, is that you have really bad self-esteem. You need to boost your confidence somehow and get the voice of your hateful ex out of your head.

GL!



I've been very insecure since my divorce.


That's totally understandable. I had to go to therapy to repair mine. And sleeping with my now DH helped too ha ha ha.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2016 08:00     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
^^ PP here: You're welcome. Hope it helps. If you're having trouble thinking about things to be proud of, I'll start you off:
You're brave. You went out on a blind date which takes guts. And even though it didn't go well, you're willing to get back out there which takes even more guts.
Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2016 07:08     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:OP, divorce is rough on a person's self-esteem. It's easy to let your ex's opinion of you affect the way you see yourself. Try to focus instead on the things you like about yourself. It took me a long time to get my self-confidence back after my marriage fell apart. Eventually I realized that the fact my ex no longer loved me didn't mean I was unlovable. It sounds a little cheesy but try each day to think about one thing that you like about yourself.


Thank you, this is really good advice.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:46     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:OP with another update! He called me (not text) and left a message and said he apologizes if he offended me and if I'm interested he would like to hang out again. What do I do?


Go for it, OP. Look, as a man, I may like a woman and do the hand shake thing after a date, just because I'm trying to do the right thing and not stick my tongue in her mouth from the get-go.

Give it a chance - that he's called you back really means he's interested. Good luck to you.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:31     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
OP, divorce is rough on a person's self-esteem. It's easy to let your ex's opinion of you affect the way you see yourself. Try to focus instead on the things you like about yourself. It took me a long time to get my self-confidence back after my marriage fell apart. Eventually I realized that the fact my ex no longer loved me didn't mean I was unlovable. It sounds a little cheesy but try each day to think about one thing that you like about yourself.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:22     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm going out on a date with a friend of a friend. I think he's an attractive guy, but we haven't really talked outside of texting and I haven't been on a date in a really long time. I'm not sure how to act. Plus I've felt very insecure when it comes to myself and dating since my ex husband left me for a younger and hotter woman (his words). We're having dinner at Stanford Grill. I'm not sure what I should wear as far as going casual (jeans and boots) or dressing up a bit (a dress and heels), I don't know what to talk about, should I mention that I have a child, do we discuss politics or religion. I'm so nervous! I'm losing it! Help!


Two words: PUT OUT


Not her style in a million years. Take it easy OP, no need for there to be anything other than the company
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:20     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
OP, good for you for getting back out there. It takes guts and it will get easier.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:20     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
I wonder if your mutual friend talked to him. Anyway, you need to go and get the practice.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:12     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:I'm going out on a date with a friend of a friend. I think he's an attractive guy, but we haven't really talked outside of texting and I haven't been on a date in a really long time. I'm not sure how to act. Plus I've felt very insecure when it comes to myself and dating since my ex husband left me for a younger and hotter woman (his words). We're having dinner at Stanford Grill. I'm not sure what I should wear as far as going casual (jeans and boots) or dressing up a bit (a dress and heels), I don't know what to talk about, should I mention that I have a child, do we discuss politics or religion. I'm so nervous! I'm losing it! Help!


Two words: PUT OUT
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 22:04     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
OP, your ex sounds like a douche!!!
I say go out with this guy again, if nothing else than just for dating practice. Maybe he was nervous too. Give it one more try, then move on.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 21:45     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:The impression I get from all of your posts, OP, is that you have really bad self-esteem. You need to boost your confidence somehow and get the voice of your hateful ex out of your head.

GL!



I've been very insecure since my divorce.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 21:25     Subject: Going on a date in a few hours, help!
The impression I get from all of your posts, OP, is that you have really bad self-esteem. You need to boost your confidence somehow and get the voice of your hateful ex out of your head.

GL!

Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 18:20     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Girl unless there was something that really turned you off or your gut tells you otherwise you go. Both of you will be so much more relaxed you just don’t know enjoy.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 17:48     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I'd wear some sexy lingerie for the next date - just in case.


I'm not going to do that.


If it helps your confidence, do it. If not, don't.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2016 10:23     Subject: Re:Going on a date in a few hours, help!
Anonymous wrote:
I'd wear some sexy lingerie for the next date - just in case.


I'm not going to do that.