Anonymous
11/30/2016 22:47
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.
You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).
So you track this in a "spread sheet"?
Anonymous
11/30/2016 22:10
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:Hmm... Here's my spreadsheet:
No
No
Not tonight, tired
No
No
Not this morning, want to sleep
No
No
Not tonight
No
No
No
No
No
Yeah mine is pretty much
0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 ...
Anonymous
11/30/2016 22:08
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Hmm... Here's my spreadsheet:
No
No
Not tonight, tired
No
No
Not this morning, want to sleep
No
No
Not tonight
No
No
No
No
No
No
No
Not tonight, tired
No
No
Not this morning, want to sleep
No
No
Not tonight
No
No
No
No
No
Anonymous
11/30/2016 21:46
Subject: Scheduling sex
DH and I work at home one day a week, the same day. We get it on that day every week.
Anonymous
11/30/2016 20:57
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I might be weird, gross, and apparently I may also be anal. I'm messed up, and a completely selfish F***. But yup, I'm having sex, my DH is having sex, and we are ahead of schedule this week! So we might get it 3-4 times instead of 2. And, no I don't track positions, orafices, or Os or anything else. Simply frequency.
You're not the only weirdo out there. I track my sex frequency too.
I might have gotten the idea from you (last year, on the explict board???) !!
NP and a third tracker here! I know I posted about it last year on the explicit board, so you might've gotten the idea from me. Yay!
Anonymous
11/30/2016 20:43
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.
You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).
This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.
I'm a hot mess, thanks.
I find it endearing! Quirky people are fun-
Aw, thank you! I'm going for an entry in the spreadsheet tonight!
Anonymous
11/30/2016 20:07
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.
You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).
This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.
I'm a hot mess, thanks.
I find it endearing! Quirky people are fun-
Anonymous
11/30/2016 18:02
Subject: Scheduling sex
Don't schedule but have a loose understanding that it'll happen every other night
Anonymous
11/30/2016 17:48
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:
I might be weird, gross, and apparently I may also be anal. I'm messed up, and a completely selfish F***. But yup, I'm having sex, my DH is having sex, and we are ahead of schedule this week! So we might get it 3-4 times instead of 2. And, no I don't track positions, orafices, or Os or anything else. Simply frequency.
You're not the only weirdo out there. I track my sex frequency too.
I might have gotten the idea from you (last year, on the explict board???) !!
Anonymous
11/30/2016 17:44
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.
You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).
This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.
Hey, at least she is getting laid..
I might be weird, gross, and apparently I may also be anal. I'm messed up, and a completely selfish F***. But yup, I'm having sex, my DH is having sex, and we are ahead of schedule this week! So we might get it 3-4 times instead of 2. And, no I don't track positions, orafices, or Os or anything else. Simply frequency.
You're not the only weirdo out there. I track my sex frequency too.
Anonymous
11/30/2016 17:28
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
DW and I have a sex date this Saturday night. (Think about us just as SNL comes on.) The lingering holiday guests are gone, hopefully the kids are at sleepovers, the wine has been chilled. Now I just have to ply her with enough wine so she gets a bit freaky ...
BobRoss
11/30/2016 17:07
Subject: Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:DW and I are in a sex drought that we are trying to work back from. Just life and work and kids and all else and it ended up on the back burner, then kind of gone. We have talked about it and discussed it.
I have read that some people found the spark by scheduling sex which sounds so unromantic but has apparently been effective.
Would love to hear real-life experiences with this and how you guys set it all up.
It can actually be pretty hot. Building up anticipation, innuendos, texts, all that. It's not a dentist appointment...If you get into the spirit, the two of you might be boiling over by 'sex night'...Who knows? But it's worth an open-minded try.
Anonymous
11/30/2016 17:00
Subject: Re:Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.
You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).
This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.
Hey, at least she is getting laid..
I might be weird, gross, and apparently I may also be anal. I'm messed up, and a completely selfish F***. But yup, I'm having sex, my DH is having sex, and we are ahead of schedule this week! So we might get it 3-4 times instead of 2. And, no I don't track positions, orafices, or Os or anything else. Simply frequency.
Anonymous
11/30/2016 15:36
Subject: Scheduling sex
Anonymous wrote:I really hate the idea of scheduled sex. What if you are just not into on the day you are supposed to be on? There are seven days in a week - you cannot find one or two or even three times where you can be alone and make love/have sex? Be honest after so many years together it really doesn't not take that much time.
I don't get the idea of needing to budget, because I make a ton of money and never have to question a purchase. See how that works?
For many women, and some men, the idea of sex never pops into their head spontaneously, especially in a long term relationship. Of course, most couples have time for sex, it doesn't take that long. It's a lack of desire. Scheduling it takes away the waiting for the desire to happen. But its great that you want to have sex several days a week. You are the exception, unfortunately (or a newlywed, or without kids).
Anonymous
11/30/2016 15:34
Subject: Scheduling sex
But I should add we are both high libido and were in previous marriages with incompatible partners. So, there is a LOT of enthusiasm!