Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ther had been times he left earlier to see his father, who only cares about himself and his money. Now that my husband has an opportunity to come to an informative event with our child he yells at me. I'm so tired of the selfishness and arguments.

Your issues go beyond this event. If you want him to share equally in kid stuff, get a job.

I hold a degree and I used to work full time until I gave birth. If I get a job, I will probably be more respected at home but my son won't get the education he's been receiving every day from me. You cannot rely on schools for all the education.

Please. People like OP's DH would still be as uninvolved even if wife worked.

For you, this is about him not caring about DC's education. For him, it may be that this falls under your SAHM task list.

I would not present it to him as an educational imperative, but as family time, a way to show support. Or, find other ways/events where he could demonstrate his commitment to both you and DC.

My XH has nothing to do with school except birthday parties, where he'll show up. He likes the attention and I like that both DCs and their school mates get to see and involved dad (even if that's an illusion). He does take them to their weekly extra-curricular. Again, it's not to assist them, but to demonstrate support. He likes getting the attention from the other parents. I am happy to roll my eyes at the ego-feed because, again, the kids get to see their father present (somewhat).

I hope you find a way to get what you (and DC) need from DH. How you frame it matters. It's simply not about the importance of math. Let him know why it matters to you and see how he responds. He may not see the event the way you do. Help him see it as something more than a math lesson.