OP, if this is a real post, you really need to reflect on what you did in this situation. The fact that you signed up when there was already a name on the list was your first mistake. But you made it worse by lobbying for yourself since you didn't know the other parent. You really should be ashamed of your actions and fix it immediately. Let the other parent be the room parent and focus on getting to know the other families at the school and welcome their interest in volunteering. Fix it.

+1000

It's known as clique and control......

OP, if this is a real post, you really need to reflect on what you did in this situation. The fact that you signed up when there was already a name on the list was your first mistake. But you made it worse by lobbying for yourself since you didn't know the other parent. You really should be ashamed of your actions and fix it immediately. Let the other parent be the room parent and focus on getting to know the other families at the school and welcome their interest in volunteering. Fix it.

Anonymous wrote:Weird that the teacher just didn't have you both be room parents.

Weird that you even wrote your name down with another name there when you are PTO pres. I've never heard of anyone doing both.

Weird that some people stop being room parents because of PTO cliques. A room parent supports the teacher, not PTO.

Weird.

I signed up and never heard anything. Our teacher made it clear she didn't want volunteers in the classroom. As a parent, I find it very uncomfortable that my child's classroom is so closed off, especially in a public school. Needless to say, when she does need stuff, since I volunteered and it was made clear we were not wanted, I'm not going out of my way to help. Its sad you have parents ready and willing and are not welcomed in the school. Its sad our PTA claims they cannot get help with tasks so they are paying people to do them when we would have happily (and technically did) volunteer and could easily do what was needed and more.

Anonymous wrote:I am president of my local PTO and get a little shade today when I was chosen to be room parent over other moms. Would you think this is wrong?

Heck, I'm wondering why on earth you'd want to do both. No shade, just A LOT of work.

The teacher didn't really choose me. I hinted that since I'm already in the school a lot, that I would be the better choice

See, I don't like this - - not sure what "a lot" is, but I'm guessing, Op, that you are there way too much.

Anonymous wrote:Weird that anyone WANTS to be room mom.

Actually, I kinda like it. In fact, it is a joy for me! I get to interact a little more with the class and teacher. I get to spend some more time at the school. I get to do little extras for the class and teacher that hopefully make everyone just a little more happy. All that gives me great pleasure!

Weird that anyone WANTS to be room mom.

Weird that the teacher just didn't have you both be room parents.

Weird that you even wrote your name down with another name there when you are PTO pres. I've never heard of anyone doing both.

Weird that some people stop being room parents because of PTO cliques. A room parent supports the teacher, not PTO.

Weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I was a room mom (yay) and approached the PTA pres about helping out all the other room moms with monthly luncheons. A) I have the time and B) I have the resources to make a luncheon happen at a snap even if nobody contributes. It was sort of a fail-safe for all the classes to make sure the luncheon went on without a hitch. She was all "no, I got it" so I backed off and never became room mom or volunteered for anything else.

typing this out it seems ridiculous, but the few officers really hoarded EVERYTHING and administration let them and then whoops, their kids are older and nobody wants to help out...

Yup - similar thing happened at my son's school a few years ago and now the PTA clique is frustrated that no one else will step up and doesn't seem to get that it's because of how many of the parents were treated when we initially tried to volunteer. My daughter just started at a different school and it's been an amazing experience to be welcomed and given options on how and when and how much to volunteer.

Our PTA now has to pay for things to get done around the school because people aren't volunteering. Yet, they put out sign up lists and I did several and never got a call. Needless to say, no more donations from our family. What a waste of money to do things like hire a gardner.

Anonymous wrote:I was a room mom (yay) and approached the PTA pres about helping out all the other room moms with monthly luncheons. A) I have the time and B) I have the resources to make a luncheon happen at a snap even if nobody contributes. It was sort of a fail-safe for all the classes to make sure the luncheon went on without a hitch. She was all "no, I got it" so I backed off and never became room mom or volunteered for anything else.

typing this out it seems ridiculous, but the few officers really hoarded EVERYTHING and administration let them and then whoops, their kids are older and nobody wants to help out...

Yup - similar thing happened at my son's school a few years ago and now the PTA clique is frustrated that no one else will step up and doesn't seem to get that it's because of how many of the parents were treated when we initially tried to volunteer. My daughter just started at a different school and it's been an amazing experience to be welcomed and given options on how and when and how much to volunteer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teacher didn't really choose me. I hinted that since I'm already in the school a lot, that I would be the better choice.

Out of curiosity, how do you "hint" at that without looking like an asshole? Because you certainly look like one on this thread.

You don't know what this other person's commitment is, other than that she volunteered before you did. Maybe you shouldn't be PTO president either. You don't sound like a person who is good at helping other parents get involved in the school.

Wow, just Wow. Don't complain you are doing too much, overwhelmed and all that non-sense. Great way to make other parents feel welcomed at school.

Right. You pull shit like this, don't you dare complain about how other parents don't volunteer enough or you are soooooooo busy and overworked.

I was a room mom (yay) and approached the PTA pres about helping out all the other room moms with monthly luncheons. A) I have the time and B) I have the resources to make a luncheon happen at a snap even if nobody contributes. It was sort of a fail-safe for all the classes to make sure the luncheon went on without a hitch. She was all "no, I got it" so I backed off and never became room mom or volunteered for anything else.

typing this out it seems ridiculous, but the few officers really hoarded EVERYTHING and administration let them and then whoops, their kids are older and nobody wants to help out...

Anonymous wrote:The teacher didn't really choose me. I hinted that since I'm already in the school a lot, that I would be the better choice.

That's horrible. I know the PTA president at our school and for that reason only I agreed to help out with other room parents. I am pretty introverted and don't hang out with the moms but I can't imagine them excluding anyone from volunteering. They are always looking for help and trying to recruit new people to take over committees.

OP, you screwed this up. Fix it.

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Anonymous wrote:This can't be real.

It could be. I signed up first on the list for room parent and wasn't selected. New to the school so they don't know me. I could be that mom she is talking about.

This happened to someone else I know, but she was not new.