Seriously? Of all the momentos he could have purchased in Europe? I'm not buying it - there is a bigger story to it.

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Anonymous wrote:We all smoked as teenagers. Now as adults, we are your everyday upper middle class neighbours.

I have come to believe that you either have an addictive personality or you do not. Most people can take or leave pot, its not going to necessarily be a one-way street to addiction.

Hm, no. Not everyone smoked as a teenager and not everyone is smoking as an adult. And believe me, I can easily tell who is from my office smoking weed.

Please share how you're able to easily discern who from your office is smoking weed. I'm sure this method has zero confirmation bias whatsoever.

What is wrong with you OP? Your kid is doing drugs. Address it and give him consequences! Are you worried he won't like you anymore?

Anonymous wrote:We all smoked as teenagers. Now as adults, we are your everyday upper middle class neighbours.

I have come to believe that you either have an addictive personality or you do not. Most people can take or leave pot, its not going to necessarily be a one-way street to addiction.

Hm, no. Not everyone smoked as a teenager and not everyone is smoking as an adult. And believe me, I can easily tell who is from my office smoking weed.

Op: toss the room, Find the stash.
Enjoy with husband when kids are away.

Anonymous wrote:OK OP Here
I went home early to talk to him.
He went to europe last summer to study language. He says it is a memento from his trip. He says it has sentimental value - nothing more. I don't think he smoked pot in europe -- we would have been too afraid of getting in serious trouble.

We discussed The Dangers Of Drugs, especially on developing brains. He says I have nothing to worry about - his grades are more important to him than anything. This much i know is true - he would sacrifice anything for grades. But--is it illegal to have the pipe? I know i don't want it out on the desk where my younger child will see it.

If it is unused it's not illegal. Once it is used for pot (or anything illegal) it becomes paraphernalia. That's why you can buy pipes, etc legally in stores. Before its used, it could be just a sculpture or for tobacco or whatever.

Former pot head here. Smoked daily in high school through TTC so did DH. I'm pregnant with my second so haven't smoked in 6 years between pregnancy and breastfeeding. We are very high funnctioning, highly educated members of the community. DH still smokes after DD is in bed. I plan to after breastfeeding. Never did any other drugs. My mom tried countless times to stop me but nothing ever worked. I don't have advice and don't know how I'd react in your situation but just wanted to let you know that he's not doomed for rehab if it doesn't stop.

I grew up upper middle class. 9 in 10 potheads I knew in high school are serious underachievers to flat out losers. Pot heads from college about 50/50.

It bothers me that everybody said to confront him.

Doesn't anybody just talk to their kids anymore is every interaction a confrontation.

You did a good job, OP. Check the pipe in a month and see if it is still unused.

At least he's not vaping.

This feed makes me want to take a hit

What does the boy's second parent think about this? Do you have a unified approach to family drug use?

I think you should talk about it with the teen and explain your expectations. I am fairly pro-marijuana (voted to legalize it in DC) but I think marijuana and developing brains is not a good combination. I would expect some experimentation but my concern would be overuse and addiction.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: Welllllllll it izz against the law. And it can be very de-motivating. I mean, in many ways I feel it's healthier than a drink/cocktail. BUT there is a reason for the drinking age - children often lack the self control required to imbibe safely.

ALSO the teenage brain is STILL DEVELOPING. It is the LAST organ to fully develop. Introduce pot-smoking NOW and you are looking at a mixed bag of issues[u] that I PROMISE will hold him back as he gets older.

I agree with your first sentence. I disagree with your "promise" in the second. I know so many people who were pot heads in HS who are uber successful now. Pot is stronger now so I suspect there is more reason for concern now but don't know either way.

I stated "a mixed bag", meaning there are MANY different issues that can arise LATER in life due to pot smoking - or at least EXCESSIVE pot smoking - in youth. Yeah sure your peers may seem successful on the surface, but who do you know with COPD, asthma, early memory problems, early dementia, personality problems/emotional regulation problems exacerbated by inhibited development of those regions of the brain? You likely wouldn't be aware of that. Anecdotal "evidence" of "the pot heads I know seem fine" doesn't mean anything compared to scientific research and data. Just a crumb of anecdotal common sense: what you do in youth will catch up to you later.

We all smoked as teenagers. Now as adults, we are your everyday upper middle class neighbours.

I have come to believe that you either have an addictive personality or you do not. Most people can take or leave pot, its not going to necessarily be a one-way street to addiction.