Is the wedding local?

My original answer was super rude and I would be very upset unless they were dirt poor or something and having a really small ceremony. And that even though it's incredibly rude I'd probably be ok with dh going.

My answer after hearing that your son was green lighted and they seem to not feel remotely bad about this is that you're husband should tell the friend to eff off. If my husband went in this scenario I would be very angry.

Anonymous wrote:One of my husband's best friends is getting married and he sent out an invitation only inviting DH. DH told me about it and I said why would he only invite you. He said well he doesn't really know you like that and told me not to get upset. However, I feel some kind of way about that. What do you guys think?

Just wondering...how do you not know your husband's best friend?

I was recently invited to a wedding and my husband wasn't. I even asked to make sure it wasn't an error...that was an awkward conversation! The explanation I received was that it was a budget issue. Although I sympathize with a young couple just starting off, I thought it was inappropriate and tacky. I didn't attend the wedding and your husband shouldn't either.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.

I have no words for the amount of disrespect here. Not only by the friend, but also by your husband. Please tell me he told his friend he's not attending. Please!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.

Wow... even when asked to confirm (*HINT HINT*) he said "no, not the wife but you can bring your son"???...you should ask your husband why he is friends with this guy. If he can't give a legitimate answer then you should ask yourself why you are married to this guy.

Quite frankly, I don't blame the husband for going, even though I voted "inappropriate." Chances are this friend was around long before OP. The friend might be a dick, but my fiancé doesn't care for all of my friends but that doesn't mean I have to drop them for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.

Wow... even when asked to confirm (*HINT HINT*) he said "no, not the wife but you can bring your son"???...you should ask your husband why he is friends with this guy. If he can't give a legitimate answer then you should ask yourself why you are married to this guy.

Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP?

If you guys are in your 20s it's rude to not invite you. If you're in your 30's it's disrespectful. If you're older than that it's a very direct way of saying f*** you.

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Its poor manners, in the same way a cash bar is poor manners, or invites to the wedding but not reception are poor manners.

But I am surprised at the number of people that would forbid their spouses from going. Its a day, its his friend. Go let him "celebrate"

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible they don't know that only putting his name on the invite is meant to exclude you?

I had DH confirm and the invite was only for him. They only invited close family and friends, however he was told he could bring our son.

Anonymous wrote:I would pay good money for my wife's friends to do just that.

It's one thing to choose to not attend - it's very different to not invite your friends wife.

How old are you OP?

If you guys are in your 20s it's rude to not invite you. If you're in your 30's it's disrespectful. If you're older than that it's a very direct way of saying f*** you.

I would pay good money for my wife's friends to do just that.

I don't have a problem with it.

Incredibly rude and inappropriate. Really hope it's an oversight.