Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 20:52     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't have cake for your sister at the house. Order dessert out at the restaurant with a candle. This isn't that hard.

Though your sister is a huge drama queen. I can not imagine caring about sharing a cake on my birthday ONE TIME because I am visiting relatives on that ONE birthday and another person ALSO has a birthday close to mine. WHO CARES?!


OP here. I agree and am planning on proposing we do the cake at a restaurant. It's a good idea and didn't come to mind; although, to be fair, no one else thought of it either. : )


I'm the PP who originally suggested this. I love to bake so have on several occasions baked and brought my husband's favorite cake to the restaurant. Yes, I always check in advance and so far no one has had a problem with it or charged a cake-cutting fee though I would be fine with that. Usually we are spending enough on the dinner/event!
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 19:36     Subject: Re:Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To boil your post down more, to make sure I understand -- your and wife's families are each coming to town at the same time. Both families want to celebrate a birthday over the time that they are visiting. Instead of being adults and sharing a celebration, they/you are proposing that one side or another drive multiple hours to have cake out of sight of the other family.

That's crazy. Get a cake (two if you absolutely must) and sing happy birthday to both. In the same room.


OP here. Yeah, that's basically it although the pressure is coming from my sister, not MIL/FIL. Also, not for nothing, but the catalyst for the visit is the baby announcement party.

I like the idea of having the cake at the restaurant. That's an excellent idea and would solve all of our problems.

Personally, I'm with you guys on adult bdays and don't care about mine. Dinner out with DW and a hug/kiss and a happy birthday do it for me. Sis isn't used to sharing because my parents are out of state as are her husband's so they never have to deal with splitting time for holidays so it's easy for everything to be about her.



Why would let your sister have such control over so many people? She sounds super spoiled
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 19:36     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:Op ~ tell me you aren't a guy


Tell me you aren't In middle school.
On the other hand it would explain the DCPS low reading comprehension test results.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 19:12     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
I'm waiting for the update that says DW is blowing a gasket at the idea these birthday people are stealing thunder from HER big event.

I never understood why adults feel the need to force others to celebrate birthdays. It's a day. No biggie.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 17:40     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:Holy moses. These are adults birthdays, right? Your sister needs to chill out.

You need to have one party with one cake for both people. THE END.

This
How old will your sister be, 12?
The fact that you have to do all this maneuvering is ridiculous.
Party at your house
Let your sister come or not?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 17:12     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Op ~ tell me you aren't a guy
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:48     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
One big party celebrating many events all together. The more the merrier. Done.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:42     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Cake at the restaurants for both parties. Order them from a fancy bakery and bring them if you feel like going overboard or that your SIL might pout at a single slice of restaurant cake on a plate. (But call ahead to the restaurant if you bring your own and be prepared for plating charges.)
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:34     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you lost me at "gender reveal party."

OP, you are connected to far too many ME ME ME people.


+100

Not like you can raise a ruckus while your wife is pregnant (and it's cool that you're going with the flow), but seriously this is all a bunch of infantile nonsense.

Adult non-milestone birthday party turf battles? Gender reveal parties? This looks more like an episode of Teen Moms (I imagine) than a real grown up life.


I think OP may be withholding some information. I bet dollars to doughnuts that OP also cares about his own special days too. No one could be this surrounded by chance. Like flocks to like.


OP here. No, I don't have any special days I really care about. My wife is one of the most amazing people I've ever met and, while I agree the party is a little silly, if this is what makes her happy I'm happy to go along with it. SIL did a gender reveal party thing as well so maybe it's a tradition in their family.

The only information I'm withholding is that my side of the family can, at times, be really passive aggressive.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 16:34     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Lots of restaurants will give the birthday person a free dessert. Get her that and be done with it.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 14:40     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you lost me at "gender reveal party."

OP, you are connected to far too many ME ME ME people.


+100

Not like you can raise a ruckus while your wife is pregnant (and it's cool that you're going with the flow), but seriously this is all a bunch of infantile nonsense.

Adult non-milestone birthday party turf battles? Gender reveal parties? This looks more like an episode of Teen Moms (I imagine) than a real grown up life.


I think OP may be withholding some information. I bet dollars to doughnuts that OP also cares about his own special days too. No one could be this surrounded by chance. Like flocks to like.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 14:38     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, you lost me at "gender reveal party."

OP, you are connected to far too many ME ME ME people.


+100

Not like you can raise a ruckus while your wife is pregnant (and it's cool that you're going with the flow), but seriously this is all a bunch of infantile nonsense.

Adult non-milestone birthday party turf battles? Gender reveal parties? This looks more like an episode of Teen Moms (I imagine) than a real grown up life.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 14:28     Subject: Re:Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Anonymous wrote:Saturday brunch, one side of the family goes out for brunch, comes home and has cake.
Saturday night, have the gender reveal.
Sunday brunch, other side of the family goes out for brunch, comes home and has cake.

Announce schedule when everyone arrives. Every adult can decide which of the events to attend or not attend.

Done.


Super good. This way, both birthdays are on equal footing. Or the restaurant cake thing, too, but there may be more to bicker about.

OP, you're an effing prince. I hope she's making you happy. You deserve good things.

Anonymous wrote:I would share my birthday with my SIL, 2 twin toddlers, a homeless person, 3 cats and a dead President but I'm an adult so I guess I don't get this.


I love you and want to have your babies. If you're a chick, we'll have to do IVF tho.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 14:15     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Sorry, you lost me at "gender reveal party."

OP, you are connected to far too many ME ME ME people.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2016 14:07     Subject: Family conflict - Who gets dibs on the house for bday
Your sister is ridiculous. Is she turning 13?
Everyone will be at your house, correct? Have separate cakes and sing happy birthday separately if you must. Grown adults shouldn't be this invested in their birthdays.