Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set.

This. Don't move in. Who cares about the deposit.

If you don't live with your partner before getting engaged you're a pathetic fool. It's how mature adults learn to build a life together.

Then explain why people who live together before marriage have higher divorce rates than those who don't.

Moved in together before getting engaged. It was great.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set.

This. Don't move in. Who cares about the deposit.

If you don't live with your partner before getting engaged you're a pathetic fool. It's how mature adults learn to build a life together.

My DH and I didnt move in together until after we got engaged. We have kids and a home and such, so I think we overcame the offs re: building a life together.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you propose?

+1. What on earth is wrong with you that you expect the man to propose?

Do women REALLY propose? Because I have yet to know one woman who has proposed to her boyfriend.....

ZachF wrote:Your GF is a horrible person.

The GF is fine, none of this is a big deal to people who aren't basic bitches with tedious lives.

Your GF is a horrible person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set.

This. Don't move in. Who cares about the deposit.

If you don't live with your partner before getting engaged you're a pathetic fool. It's how mature adults learn to build a life together.

That's right. Kind of like "mature adults" call strangers names on anonymous message boards and assume that their own experience is universal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set.

This. Don't move in. Who cares about the deposit.

If you don't live with your partner before getting engaged you're a pathetic fool. It's how mature adults learn to build a life together.

You can also take matters into your own hands.

DH proposed on the second date, I turned him down, and starting talking to him about getting married 2 years later. I picked out the rings and everything. At least we both got to propose! As a woman brought up in a socially conservative household, I don't understand why the man should have exclusive rights to the whole marriage proposal spectacle.

Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you propose?

+1. What on earth is wrong with you that you expect the man to propose?

I find it so disloyal that your friend disclosed all of this to you.
She has made everything much worse for you plus she betrayed your boyfriend's confidence in a horrible way.

Oh well....It's done now.

I advise you to try not to place too much focus on this which I know will be easier said than done.
Try not counting down months + weeks, etc.

Let everything happen in an organic fashion.

Trust me, when your boyfriend is ready he will know.

Anonymous wrote:Your "friend" is crappy and immature for letting this "slip", and you're a fool for moving in with BF without being engaged and having a wedding date set.

+1,000

Your grandmother is right.