Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 10:32     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.


So what. Everybody settles. Because as it turns out, there isn't a "perfect" person out there for you. YOU have to be the perfect one ... and I'm not. So he settled for me, with my imperfections. And I settled for him, with his. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. On another thread somebody said 70% of first marriages succeed? Well, then, settling isn't all that bad, is it? I settled. He settled. We are both still married to each other.


Staying married doesn't equal happiness. Duh.

And we have tons of friends. We have plans with friends every single week. We just really love each other and are smitten. It must be depressing to live life in a half-ass relationship. Sad sacks!


This actually made me LOL because you sound so clueless!


You all don't make me LOL, because you're all so cynical, jaded, and sarcastic. I'm glad when I look in the mirror I am 100% happy with my life, my relationship, my job, everything. Not many people can say that so I know I am very fortunate. I don't take a thing for granted. It's a shame more people can't say the same. I challenge you all to just stop and be grateful and give 100% in your lives instead of settling (in any aspect, not just love).
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 10:20     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.


So what. Everybody settles. Because as it turns out, there isn't a "perfect" person out there for you. YOU have to be the perfect one ... and I'm not. So he settled for me, with my imperfections. And I settled for him, with his. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. On another thread somebody said 70% of first marriages succeed? Well, then, settling isn't all that bad, is it? I settled. He settled. We are both still married to each other.


Staying married doesn't equal happiness. Duh.

And we have tons of friends. We have plans with friends every single week. We just really love each other and are smitten. It must be depressing to live life in a half-ass relationship. Sad sacks!


This actually made me LOL because you sound so clueless!
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 10:13     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.


So what. Everybody settles. Because as it turns out, there isn't a "perfect" person out there for you. YOU have to be the perfect one ... and I'm not. So he settled for me, with my imperfections. And I settled for him, with his. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. On another thread somebody said 70% of first marriages succeed? Well, then, settling isn't all that bad, is it? I settled. He settled. We are both still married to each other.


Staying married doesn't equal happiness. Duh.

And we have tons of friends. We have plans with friends every single week. We just really love each other and are smitten. It must be depressing to live life in a half-ass relationship. Sad sacks!
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 10:07     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My fiancé and I have spent every night together since our second date three years ago, even when we didn't live together. Neither of us is into games and we have had pretty much constant contact throughout the day, whether by calls, texts, snapchats, etc. since that first week of dating. I think if the level of interest is mutual and equal, holding out contact is stupid. I never thought of my fiancé as desperate because I was as crazy about him as he was about me (and we still are).


That's nice if it's what you want, but I personally would feel smothered.


That is smothering, and probably shows that neither person has many friends to begin with.

Independence is a good and healthy thing in a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 09:32     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.


So what. Everybody settles. Because as it turns out, there isn't a "perfect" person out there for you. YOU have to be the perfect one ... and I'm not. So he settled for me, with my imperfections. And I settled for him, with his. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. On another thread somebody said 70% of first marriages succeed? Well, then, settling isn't all that bad, is it? I settled. He settled. We are both still married to each other.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2016 00:08     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.


I hope you realize DCUM is not a representative sample.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2016 14:08     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Not desperate by any means, just very fortunate to be crazy about each other and to never have had that rush you feel when you first start dating wear off. Which is most definitely NOT the case for 90% of the DCUM couples, as evidenced by all the sad threads in this forum. So. Many. People. Settling.
Anonymous
Post 07/04/2016 13:36     Subject: Level of contact = level of interest?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My fiancé and I have spent every night together since our second date three years ago, even when we didn't live together. Neither of us is into games and we have had pretty much constant contact throughout the day, whether by calls, texts, snapchats, etc. since that first week of dating. I think if the level of interest is mutual and equal, holding out contact is stupid. I never thought of my fiancé as desperate because I was as crazy about him as he was about me (and we still are).


That's nice if it's what you want, but I personally would feel smothered.


If you're settling for someone, and not 100% over the moon for them, I can understand that. Fortunately, that's not my case.


Hmm, I see you are not even married yet. DH and I have been very happily married > 20 years. Hopefully you and your "fiancee" will make it that long!

The desperate ones will do anything to make a relationship work, so sounds like you'll be ok