Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 13:12     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.


And the playing field tilts dramatically in favor of men.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 13:09     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
30 is still young as long as you take care of yourself.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 13:03     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.


Agree with this. All the women Intend to date now fall here. I did date a 37 year old for a few months. Didn't work out.


So this MUST be a universal truth.

I remarried at age 38 with 2 children, one special needs. Maybe the real universal truth is that women should get knocked up with a few kids, divorced and THEN find their dream man. It worked for me!


You probably weren't 38 when you met. Besides, your situation is rare. I wouldn't consider your within an optimal for me. But I'm also not married to you nor would I be..so there's that.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:58     Subject: Re:Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your guy friends are complete idiots. Many 30+ women are smart, independent, and oh by the way, very hot and damn good sexually because they know what they want and are comfortable finding out what their partner wants.


These women are like finding a needle in a haystack.


I'm one, but I'm married.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:54     Subject: Re:Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Your guy friends are complete idiots. Many 30+ women are smart, independent, and oh by the way, very hot and damn good sexually because they know what they want and are comfortable finding out what their partner wants.


But for some guys their "dick count" it too high. I was married and find a lot of single women who are my age have had a lot of partners. That's a turn off.


Why? Because she was supposed to save herself for you? What bullshit. I hope you're saving yourself for some unicorn woman that gives a shit about who you used to bang. Normal guys will just enjoy the benefit of her experience.

OP - I separated when I was 35, met a great guy at 38 and am in a wonderful LTR that suits us both. I dated several nice men prior to meeting BF, some of whom are still friends. Find men of substance, don't go into a first date with an agenda other than to meet someone new, and just enjoy the process of getting to know someone.



No, I expect them to have previous partners. I was married for a while, and most of my activity was after the divorce. But it's still low comparatively speaking as my ex-wife and I dated through college. It's still less than most women I've met.


Why do you care? Why even discuss the number?


Not PP. And I've been married and not dating so long, my observations here are worthless. And, yet, I'll share one!

I think I'd feel jealous that women have an easier time finding willing sexual partners than men do. I hope I would not let that jealousy take the form of shaming women for enjoying that advantage. But, I guess I can't be sure that the jealousy wouldn't get the best of me.


But no men or women of any age sleep with as many partners as they could possibly have, do they, so how is this relevant?
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:51     Subject: Re:Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your guy friends are complete idiots. Many 30+ women are smart, independent, and oh by the way, very hot and damn good sexually because they know what they want and are comfortable finding out what their partner wants.


But for some guys their "dick count" it too high. I was married and find a lot of single women who are my age have had a lot of partners. That's a turn off.


Why? Because she was supposed to save herself for you? What bullshit. I hope you're saving yourself for some unicorn woman that gives a shit about who you used to bang. Normal guys will just enjoy the benefit of her experience.

OP - I separated when I was 35, met a great guy at 38 and am in a wonderful LTR that suits us both. I dated several nice men prior to meeting BF, some of whom are still friends. Find men of substance, don't go into a first date with an agenda other than to meet someone new, and just enjoy the process of getting to know someone.



No, I expect them to have previous partners. I was married for a while, and most of my activity was after the divorce. But it's still low comparatively speaking as my ex-wife and I dated through college. It's still less than most women I've met.


But a low number of partners for your wife didn't make your marriage last.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:49     Subject: Re:Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:Your guy friends are complete idiots. Many 30+ women are smart, independent, and oh by the way, very hot and damn good sexually because they know what they want and are comfortable finding out what their partner wants.


These women are like finding a needle in a haystack.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:48     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.


Agree with this. All the women Intend to date now fall here. I did date a 37 year old for a few months. Didn't work out.


So this MUST be a universal truth.

I remarried at age 38 with 2 children, one special needs. Maybe the real universal truth is that women should get knocked up with a few kids, divorced and THEN find their dream man. It worked for me!
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:47     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:It just worries me because if you're over 30 and single, how can you compete with beautiful 20something women? My age kills my self esteem and I don't know how I can go ahead and compete in the dating market.


Here's the truth: you can't.

Here's what you CAN do to compete: You have to be proactive, i.e., GASP, ask men out! You also have to lower your standards. Say yes to men you wouldn't have said yes to when you were in your 20s and you could afford to reject 9 out of 10 men because you had so many opportunities. In short ,you can't sit on your ass like you did in your 20s and let the world come to you.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:36     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.


Depends on where you live. If the Midwest, even professional women get married earlier. If you live in NYC, the Sex and the City crowd marries late 30s and 40s.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:34     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
For crying out loud OP, any human being with female organs can find someone with no problem at all. This has been proven numerous times. 30 is not a dividing line.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:32     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Anonymous wrote:The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.


Agree with this. All the women Intend to date now fall here. I did date a 37 year old for a few months. Didn't work out.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:24     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
The golden age for dating (for both sexes) is about 28 to 33. You're old enough to know what you want and what you're doing, and you probably have a little cash in your pocket to make the dates interesting (dinners, trips, etc.). By the mid-30s a little bit of desperation sets in on both sides, especially for women who want to have kids, and things get a little less carefree.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:18     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
I'll date Asian women up to 45. White women only under 30. -33 yo male
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2016 12:17     Subject: Drastic Reduction in Female Dating Market Value after 30
Your friends sound like vapid idiots. Personally, the men who were interested in me in my 30's were of higher quality than the ones in my 20's. My dating life was much richer then, and it's also when I met my amazing husband.