Anonymous wrote:A toy that is being actively played with (like the frisbee here) does not need to be shared. A toy whose owner is not actively playing with it does need to be shared. So if you bring a ride-on toy and your son gets tired of playing with it, he needs to be okay if someone else touches it.

Anonymous wrote:OP- how do you feel about birthday parties or other gatherings at public parks? Do you feel like they should allow your child to eat food and have a goody bag?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you think the father and son should've invited your son to play? That's ridiculous. It's a public park. You did the right thing by redircting your child.

I think:
1-they shouldn't have brought it. The playground is an oversized tot lot, not really a "park". Might have been more convenient for them to come there than the park, but bringing your private toys to a play area for very young kids is annoying bc young kids are going to be interested.
2-the dad should have said SOMETHING when his kid shrieked "no baby!" whenever my kid looked at him. It was rude and set up an awkward dynamic.
3-the dad could have extended a nice gesture when their damn frisbee kept landing at my son's feet even after I relocated us to the other side of the play equipment. He could have invited my son to get it and hand it back to them. He saw how interested my son was in it. That is what I would have done if my toy was a constant and obvious distraction to another child.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone brought their frisbee thing to our small but adequate 0-3 playground. I was there with my 18 mo-we were by ourselves initially. I was happy when another kid showed up with his dad. In fact, I know the kid. He's threeish. He and his dad started playing frisbee. Of course my DS was interested and once he saw them, he didn't want to go down the slides etc. The dad wasn't particularly welcoming, and neither was the kid. As soon as my son stopped what he was doing to watch them, the kid shrieked "no baby no baby!" Every time my son made a move in the direction of the frisbee, I had to grab him and redirect him bc given the reaction when we LOOKED at the kid, I can't imagine the reaction if my son had actually made physical contact with the frisbee. It got especially annoying because I took him to the other side of the playground equipment (and was literally carrying up the steps to the slides because he really wasn't interested and just wanted to play with the other kid), but their frisbee kept landing near us, and I had to correct DS 2-3 times. "Larlo is playing with that toy". "That's Larlo's toy" etc. The only other time I experienced this was at a larger playground, and a dad brought his son and a soccer ball. They were kicking it around, but several kids immediately asked to play, and the dad graciously made a ball game for all of them instead of just trying to play with his son. So anyway, what's the etiquette? I found it quite annoying that this pair showed up to a toddler playground with their own toy. We ended up leaving the playground early because it was such a hassle to keep distracting my kid from their game.

In your shoes, I would have allowed my kid to watch the bigger kid.

Why not??
Your kid wants that toy? Must your kid have everything he wants??
That's what happened to Sam Ellis. He hadn't heard the simple "no" word when he was a tot like your boy.

I don't know who Sam Ellis is. Anyway if you read my post, you will see I said no several times, told him it was the other child's toy, redirected him, and physically moved him to the other side of the play equipment. I have no issue telling my child "no". However, it was annoying to have to do it in this context (although I still did it).

Parenting 101:
Never repeat "no" or you condition or kid to not hear you the first time.

You *need* to google Sam Ellis of North Potomac.
He had also been conditioned by his parents to ignore the word no.

Op here I just googled Sam Ellis and you are a sick and disgusting person and linking something completely inappropriate to my 18 month old child. I'll kindly ask that you refrain from posting such things on this and other threads. I'm sorry I bothered to respond to you and will not do so again.

Mark my works. Allowing children not to "remember" (aka ignore) when his parents have said "no" can have consequences. It's totally unfortunate, but 100% true.

Anonymous wrote:Do you think the father and son should've invited your son to play? That's ridiculous. It's a public park. You did the right thing by redircting your child.

Anonymous wrote:It is not a frisbee. It is an Air Hog. OP reposted.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't understand why so many of the responses here are outright nasty, but it explains a lot about the dearth of basic human decency in this area.

Or is this another one of those things where a dad gets credit for parenting no matter what he does. Truth is, the playground is a public place and other kids wanting to look at or play with your toys is a fact of tot life.

Agree with OP that it's annoying when other parents don't get this.

It's the dad credit thing-imagine if a mom was playing frisbee-all the pps would be annoyed. Dad gets credit cause it's soooo sweet to see dad tossing the frisbee with his kid, and his cluelessness is excused.

Anonymous wrote:I think you people are missing the essence of her question. He's how I read it: a father and son were playing with a frisbee in a playground where it's customary to let kids roam and play. If OP's kid got anywhere even close to the other kid, the frisbee-playing kid yelled at the 18 month old. I don't think OP wanted the other kid to play with hers. I think she wanted her kid to be able to use the playground without being yelled at by this kid. If it's a huge playground, then I think it's reasonable to say that OP could be expected to keep her kid occupied and away from this pair. But if this is a small playground, I think it's a douche-bag move on the father's part to expect other kids to stay away, especially considering how much room you need to play frisbee. My opinion is that those types of toys are welcome at the playground IF there is a lot of room.