If she wanted it that bad she would have driven to you and picked it up

Anonymous wrote:OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

No, because she suggested meeting at 10pm. OP would have had to schlep two young kids. I wouldn't do it.

Making it right and disrupting her children's sleep to drive almost 2 hours to return a bathing suit that was taken by mistake on demand are not the same thing.

OP saying sorry and that she would be happy to return it in the am is fine. Offering $ is fine. Offering to mail to to NJ is fine. Saying she can't wake her baby is fine.

OP don't sweat it.

The woman was psycho. Kids' clothes get mixed up all the time. Obviously it's not like your son took it on purpose. It's perfectly reasonable to offer to bring it to school the next day.

OP, that is insane for her to ask you to drive 30-50 minutes to return a $10-15 suit in the middle of the night and then return home with two young kids. I would not do it either. I would have offered to do a Target instore pick up and pay for it or another store with instore pick up or fedex it to her. Or, mail her a check for the replacement but in reality her kid has one suit for a weekend trip, that is plenty. I would not call it stealing or any of the other things. Child is 6. Most six year olds do not check or are that careful. If anything the mom driving home should have checked, but accidents happen. She and her child should have been more careful with leaving their stuff out if they absolutely could not lose it.

OP, you screwed up when you offered to drive to return the suit. You bargained that she'd decline your offer but she didn't. That's on you. If you had left that from the conversation and just offered reimbursement, that would have probably been that. You offered to drive it, then backed off.

BTW, agreeing to meet you halfway was a good compromise, IMO. Driving 30 minutes is not an unreasonable request.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Mommies, you are rediculous. You don't have to make up for your kids mistakes, it is totally on them, between them and their friends. I would never drive to return anything that my kid accidentally took, unless it is life threatening , like asthma inhailer. Repercussions in the form of no future invites are great, it naturally removes toxic people from yours and your child's life.

Um...okay...except the "toxic" person in this case is the OP.

Fess up- you're crazy bathing suit lady, right?

I was just thinking how could two people share the same stupid mentality, but it makes more sense that it's the same person.

Get more than one bathing suit for your kid, crazy lady, and chill the eff out.

Anonymous wrote:The better question is who willingly goes to the Jersey Shore for vacation?

You've clearly never been to Avalon, Stone Harbor or LBI. A million times nicer than Bethany or OBX.

The better question is who willingly goes to the Jersey Shore for vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I could see her actions being viewed as reasonable if we were total strangers. But we will meet eventually - we both have boys in the same grade at a private school. Even if she's "right" - how is she not embarrassed to ask me to wake the baby and drive an hour?

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How are you not embarrassed? I would have totally put the kids in the car (where most kids would simply fall asleep) and drop off the damn bathing suit that MY kid took. Just imagine how this woman might spin this. You are already coming off like a self-centered jerk on dcum...just imagine what the other moms at school will think when they hear her side of the story.

Actually, no, there is a majority of posters who agree with OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Mommies, you are rediculous. You don't have to make up for your kids mistakes, it is totally on them, between them and their friends. I would never drive to return anything that my kid accidentally took, unless it is life threatening , like asthma inhailer. Repercussions in the form of no future invites are great, it naturally removes toxic people from yours and your child's life.

Um...okay...except the "toxic" person in this case is the OP.

Fess up- you're crazy bathing suit lady, right?

bwahahahaha!

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Mommies, you are rediculous. You don't have to make up for your kids mistakes, it is totally on them, between them and their friends. I would never drive to return anything that my kid accidentally took, unless it is life threatening , like asthma inhailer. Repercussions in the form of no future invites are great, it naturally removes toxic people from yours and your child's life.

Um...okay...except the "toxic" person in this case is the OP.

Fess up- you're crazy bathing suit lady, right?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Mommies, you are rediculous. You don't have to make up for your kids mistakes, it is totally on them, between them and their friends. I would never drive to return anything that my kid accidentally took, unless it is life threatening , like asthma inhailer. Repercussions in the form of no future invites are great, it naturally removes toxic people from yours and your child's life.

Um...okay...except the "toxic" person in this case is the OP.

I'd overnight it to their hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are being ridiculous. Your kid screwed up, and you should have made it right. Your entire message screams "me! Me! Me!" I don't want to drive 50 minutes. I don't want to wake the baby.

Agreed. I don't want to... MY baby....

Guess what- NO ONE CARES what you want to do, or if you have to wake your baby, or how far you have to drive, or where your husband is (big deal- his choice). You need to make it right- YOU are the parent of this child who stole/ removed a bathing suit, intentionally or not. If you refuse, you deserve the repercussions (no more invites, bill for new bathing suit, badmouthing, whatever else).

Mommies, you are rediculous. You don't have to make up for your kids mistakes, it is totally on them, between them and their friends. I would never drive to return anything that my kid accidentally took, unless it is life threatening , like asthma inhailer. Repercussions in the form of no future invites are great, it naturally removes toxic people from yours and your child's life.