Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:43
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
If I had a spouse that had out of town conferences, you can bet there would be a PI following them. I wouldn't want to be stuck years with a cheater. Smart people randomly check their spouse.
What, really? I have a spouse that has tons of work trips ... I wouldn't want to be stuck years not trusting him. Never ever have I checked up on him. I'm not going to go looking for trouble. If my gut sometime in the future tells me it is time to spy, then I will. Not a second before. If I found out he's been cheating, we'll deal with it then.
Right..I'll light that firecracker when I get to it.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:35
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
If I had a spouse that had out of town conferences, you can bet there would be a PI following them. I wouldn't want to be stuck years with a cheater. Smart people randomly check their spouse.
You would hire a PI to follow your spouse when traveling out of town for work? You have issues.
People that cheat are the ones that have issues.
Yes people should spot check their mate.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:31
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
If I had a spouse that had out of town conferences, you can bet there would be a PI following them. I wouldn't want to be stuck years with a cheater. Smart people randomly check their spouse.
You would hire a PI to follow your spouse when traveling out of town for work? You have issues.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:29
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
How does it even matter if it is cheating or not? She asked about condoms and opening up a conversation that she thought might be awkward. Seriously. She's mature enough to know that she wanted advice on how to handle that.
And if she's cheating or if she isn't cheating does not matter.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:26
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
If I had a spouse that had out of town conferences, you can bet there would be a PI following them. I wouldn't want to be stuck years with a cheater. Smart people randomly check their spouse.
What, really? I have a spouse that has tons of work trips ... I wouldn't want to be stuck years not trusting him. Never ever have I checked up on him. I'm not going to go looking for trouble. If my gut sometime in the future tells me it is time to spy, then I will. Not a second before. If I found out he's been cheating, we'll deal with it then.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:18
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
You surround yourself with real winners I see.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:18
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
If I had a spouse that had out of town conferences, you can bet there would be a PI following them. I wouldn't want to be stuck years with a cheater. Smart people randomly check their spouse.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 14:06
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I disagree. Everyone I know who has cheated is very careful about using protection. Pregnancies and STIs are good ways to get caught.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:37
Subject: Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:For crying out loud, nobody said you cannot enjoy yourself sexually. Bang someone else tomorrow. Who cares?
There was a poster that stated she was "immoral" for having a one night stand.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:35
Subject: Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
For crying out loud, nobody said you cannot enjoy yourself sexually. Bang someone else tomorrow. Who cares?
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:34
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
I agree, guess she didn't think we'd figure it out. Shame on OP!
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:33
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
OP here: irresponsible I give you, but I see nothing immoral about enjoying myself sexually.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:23
Subject: Re:Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm disappointed, though not surprised, that this has degenerated into an "is he married?" "who is guiltier?" "pathetic other woman!" conversation. Geez! Can't two people hit it off and want to knock boots without a referendum on their marital status? Why the assumption that this is adultery? I appreciate the responses that have stuck to the topic of how to have open, honest communication after a false start.
If you're too drunk and irresponsible to use protection and so immoral that you had a ONS with some guy from out of town, then the assumption that one or both of you is cheating is natural enough.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 13:18
Subject: Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sure he's thinking the same thing. He wouldn't want to knock up or get a disease from some random hook up.
Don't assume, you know what they say about assumptions. Responsible guys always use condoms, this loser didn't.
I think even responsible guys have lapses of judgment when drunk.
Just like DUI drivers too I suppose.
Anonymous
05/11/2016 12:47
Subject: Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sure he's thinking the same thing. He wouldn't want to knock up or get a disease from some random hook up.
Don't assume, you know what they say about assumptions. Responsible guys always use condoms, this loser didn't.
I think even responsible guys have lapses of judgment when drunk.