Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single woman, 33 years old here. Went on a first date on Friday with a really cool guy, had an awesome time and ended-up sleeping with him. He hasn't called me. Did I mess up? I usually wait until date 3 to have sex and am no virgin but I'm not promiscuous either. I've only had three one nights stands in college. Can I fix this?

Poor judgement, live and learn

Must be nice to be the moral authority on all things ever....you sound boring.

Why would you want to??!

This guy's true colors emerged immediately and they are not too pretty to me.

Any guy who sleeps with you then doesn't call you afterward is just a common rat.

It's not like you expect a dozen red long-stemmed rosés but come on.....!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the support and advice. I ended-up calling the guy and leaving a short voicemail. This morning he sent an email: "Hi ____, Fun times last night! However, I don't feel like we have much in common. I'm sure you'll find someone and I'll be kicking myself for missing out."

He's pretty cheesy. But at least he was being respectful. I didn't realize the date was only the night before you posted. So it sounds like he was just looking for sex. Chalk it up to a (hopefully safe) night of fun. Nothing wrong with that!

Double entendre. Why?

Rogue7 wrote:You could actually call him if you want.

GET OUT OF HERE. It's her privilege to sit on her ass and let the world come to her.

OP, it's only Tuesday. He may be a practical, non-romantic guy who will not call you just to call you, but will call or text you tomorrow to ask you out for this weekend.

He could also be a guy who got caught up and slept with you when he wasn't looking for a relationship.

Or he could be a total player whose mission was to sleep with you without strings.

It would be impossible for any of us to say.

Don't beat yourself up - you got caught up in the moment, you did something that isn't "like" you and now you're regretting it. If the sex was good and protected, try not to regret it too much. There's something to be said for good sex; at the very least, sometimes you get that glow and you'll attract others, one of whom might be a good boyfriend.

Most of the women I know have had this happen at some point, by the way.

Also, I've had first-date sex turn into a long-term relationship. Other times, I've waited a month or two to sleep with someone, and it fizzled anyway.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the support and advice. I ended-up calling the guy and leaving a short voicemail. This morning he sent an email: "Hi ____, Fun times last night! However, I don't feel like we have much in common. I'm sure you'll find someone and I'll be kicking myself for missing out."

Hi Troll, be less obvious next time. It's ok, you are a man that hates "loose" women for whatever reason. It's totally ok to prefer women who don't give it up easily, and then marry betas or whatever your world view is.

On the broader question, I am a man and wouldn't, didn't view women differently if they slept with me on first date. Yet, I totally get that other men feel differently. Totally ok, it's a preference. Just as I have my own preference on politics, religion, body type, etc.

*and

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes live and learn. I won't make that mistake again. Do you think it would be rude to ask the guy if he told me the truth that he has no stds? We weren't safe. Please no flames. I was stupid and not thinking.

I'd get checked. It's always good to check. Yes. Live an learn.