I think Jesus would say that having a loving relationship with your family is more important than fighting over communion.

Anonymous wrote:do what jesushe would do.

he would not want you upset.

This!!!!!!!! Think about the big picture. It'a all the same God.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset if I were Catholic. I am sure it was accidental.

I am extremely annoyed. The first communion is special, it means something. Even if it "didn't count"

I'm Catholic and we are raising our kids Catholic and this isn't something that would bother me. As far as catholic teachings go it doesn't count, and I think it is important to learn about all religions.

I'm Catholic and it wouldn't have bothered me at all. It wasn't really the Body and Blood that your child received. I'd compare it to her with the in consecrated hosts the kids get for practice in CCD.

+1. OP, no snark here, but you may need to refresh yourself on the teachings of the Catholic church. Are you a practicing Catholic? Meaning do you attend mass every week and on holy days? When was your last confession?

I'm sure you can google as well--but this link might help.

https://www.catholicculture.org/culture/liturgicalyear/activities/view.cfm?id=601

I wonder what Jesus would say if he commented on this thread. Do you ever think that possibly these issues we hold so dear (transubstantiation, which denomination one may receive communion, only the baptized may receive) have no relevance in the eyes of the God we say we worship?

From Mark 2--
23 One sabbath he was going through the grainfields; and as they made their way his disciples began to pluck heads of grain. 24 The Pharisees said to him, “Look, why are they doing what is not lawful on the sabbath?” 25 And he said to them, “Have you never read what David did when he and his companions were hungry and in need of food? 26 He entered the house of God, when Abiathar was high priest, and ate the bread of the Presence, which it is not lawful for any but the priests to eat, and he gave some to his companions.” 27 Then he said to them, “The sabbath was made for humankind, and not humankind for the sabbath; 28 so the Son of Man is lord even of the sabbath.”

For me it's disrespectful of your IL to allow it to happens. They should have ask first if it's OK with both of you and DH.

I am not Catholic, but my husband is. My kids, who are being raised Catholic, were both baptized in my Orthodox church, where they receive all three sacraments at once (baptism, communion, confirmation). This orthodox religion also believes in transubstantiation, so you could say that both of my kids received their first communion at a very young age. That was OK with my Catholic husband. The kids never took communion again until their First Communion ceremony, although they did understand it was technically their second communion. Same issue with the Confirmation sacrament. Both kids went through the ceremony, but they were not anointed with the oil because they were already confirmed at their baptism. It is all okay. They are good Catholics and are not psychologically damaged because of this. I agree with the previous poster...do what Jesus would do. Don't be upset.

do what jesushe would do.

he would not want you upset.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Catholic - my in laws are Methodist.

We are raising my daughter catholic.

Then a) It wasn't communion according to the teachings of your church, it was a snack of bread and grape juice.

b) Either they knew enough about Catholic teaching to know that what they were doing was obnoxious, or they didn't have a clue.

What is their knowledge of Catholicism? Have they been disrespectful of your religion in other ways?

Not disrespectful, but...they are not fans. They know that we've been planning for her first communion.

If they knew you were preparing for First Communion, their actions sound very passive aggressive. I would be really upset if this happened to me and my kids.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:In the Protestant churches, anyone can have communion as long as they've been baptized. Don't make this a hill you die on. If it really bothers you, then send your kid to camp during spring break instead of looking for free childcare.

While I absolutely agree this whole thing isn't a hill one should die on, I just want to correct this misconception several posters have made that "protestants say anyone can have communion if they're baptized." While many Protestant churches believe this, and the ILs might have also thought this was the case, there are many Protestant churches (I'm thinking specifically of many Lutheran churches I have been to) where one can ONLY have communion at a certain age after one takes Catechism classes and is confirmed (generally around age 13). In these churches, even adults who belong to other denominations are often asked to refrain from taking communion, and to instead receive a blessing. Many Protestant churches take Communion more seriously than some PPs are saying.

Many churches have a communion policy in the Sunday bulletin to prevent people from breaking the rules. Some also announce their policy right before communion, so unqualified people won't try to take communion.

This created a hoot at my aunt's funeral. The church was filled with a mix of faithful and about a hundred lapsed Catholics who hadn't been in church for so long that they didn't know that the Catholics were taking such a strong stand on who could take communion. Confusion and hilarity at the alter rail as the young, conservative priest worked to sort out which of these strangers was no longer worthy. He had to announce the rules a couple times.

Anonymous wrote:Has your daughter's class done a session on consecrated hosts yet? Even if she has, this is a great teaching moment to talk about what makes the host and communion in the Catholic Church different from other churches.

[note - I would be frustrated with them as well]

Only in the Catholic church does a miracle take place every Sunday, when the priest turns bread and wine into the body and blood of Christ. Only Catholic priests receive the special training and blessings needed to be able to do that.

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Anonymous wrote:In the Protestant churches, anyone can have communion as long as they've been baptized. Don't make this a hill you die on. If it really bothers you, then send your kid to camp during spring break instead of looking for free childcare.

While I absolutely agree this whole thing isn't a hill one should die on, I just want to correct this misconception several posters have made that "protestants say anyone can have communion if they're baptized." While many Protestant churches believe this, and the ILs might have also thought this was the case, there are many Protestant churches (I'm thinking specifically of many Lutheran churches I have been to) where one can ONLY have communion at a certain age after one takes Catechism classes and is confirmed (generally around age 13). In these churches, even adults who belong to other denominations are often asked to refrain from taking communion, and to instead receive a blessing. Many Protestant churches take Communion more seriously than some PPs are saying.

Many churches have a communion policy in the Sunday bulletin to prevent people from breaking the rules. Some also announce their policy right before communion, so unqualified people won't try to take communion.

Has your daughter's class done a session on consecrated hosts yet? Even if she has, this is a great teaching moment to talk about what makes the host and communion in the Catholic Church different from other churches.

[note - I would be frustrated with them as well]

Anonymous wrote:In the Protestant churches, anyone can have communion as long as they've been baptized. Don't make this a hill you die on. If it really bothers you, then send your kid to camp during spring break instead of looking for free childcare.

While I absolutely agree this whole thing isn't a hill one should die on, I just want to correct this misconception several posters have made that "protestants say anyone can have communion if they're baptized." While many Protestant churches believe this, and the ILs might have also thought this was the case, there are many Protestant churches (I'm thinking specifically of many Lutheran churches I have been to) where one can ONLY have communion at a certain age after one takes Catechism classes and is confirmed (generally around age 13). In these churches, even adults who belong to other denominations are often asked to refrain from taking communion, and to instead receive a blessing. Many Protestant churches take Communion more seriously than some PPs are saying.

Actually Catholics should not ever receive the Eucharist outside of the Catholic Church. I recently was attending an important event for a friend in the Episcopal church and my parish priest informed me while there is no religious reason I could not participate in the service, I should not receive communion.

I found this explanation on a website . . .

"According to the Code of Canon Law, receiving communion in a Protestant church is generally not permissible. According to canon 844, “Catholic ministers may licitly administer the sacraments to Catholic members of the Christian faithful only and, likewise, the latter may licitly receive the sacraments only from Catholic ministers.” The key term here is licit. If a Catholic receives communion from a Protestant minister, it is generally considered “illicit” or unlawful.

The reason for the Catholic Church’s general rule against sharing in the Eucharist with other churches is that a person can only be in full communion with one church. As a Catholic, the core of one’s union with Christ is union with the church. The center of this union lies in the reception of the sacrament of the Eucharist during Mass, which is both a confession and embodiment of unity with the Roman Catholic Church."

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Anonymous wrote: it was a snack of bread and grape juice.

This is the most offensive thing I have ever heard in my life. Methodists believe in the Real Presence. It is NOT a snack, it is a sacrament.

But the Real Presence is a step below the actual body and BLood of Christ, which is what you get in Catholicism, thanks to the miracle of transubstantiation. This is what OP's child will learn in catechism.

Methodists' "sacraments" don't count. Only Catholic priests can turn bread and wine into the body and blood of Christ.